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Lily Tomlin | 07/30/2008 9:25 am

Lily on the Tony Experience

Lily Tomlin

Editor’s Note: Lily Tomlin presented at the 2008 Tony Awards on June 15th and brought wOw along for the ride. Click here to take a look. The following post is Lily’s response to some of the questions about the Tony experience that came in from the wowOwow community.

I thought I’d sent this sooner and just now ran across it on my desktop. Thanks to Serena and everyone who has written about the Tonys. Sometimes it is weird to have people calling your name, but here’s a tip: The people calling out, in my case, are usually photographers trying to get me to look their way so they can do their job and make a buck. So hearing your name called out by a gang of people is seldom abject adoration except in the cases of Madonna or Kathy Griffin. BUT after so many years, it seems to me that fans and people in the streets who wave or say "Hi" are like your neighbors or some extended family. And it’s the same with other actors.

I wanted and still want to show all of you what's remarkable or funny or tender or vain or foolish or noble about all of us ...

The nature of what an actor does or wants to do connects us to the audience and to each other. I remember the first time I went to the Golden Globes and there were so many stars there from so many decades and I felt a familial connection sweep over me. I felt the event was some kind of family reunion and you knew some of your relatives better than others or you felt closer and more identified with some than with others but they were all your "blood."

I saw Eileen Heckart in the lobby and I have never forgotten her performance in "The Bad Seed" when I was 16, and I was enamored of the reactions she evoked in me; that may have been one of the moments when I was inspired to one day make that kind of connection with an audience, to transport and to be transported. And Eileen was growing older then and, for me, imbued with such artistry and depth of pain and "knowing" and I had just become popular from "Laugh-In" and, yet, I wanted to sense my own future in her — the artist. But I confess I was nothing if not eclectic in my taste.

That night, I also ran across the floor of the ballroom to find Dorothy Malone because, in my teen years, Malone was the sexy bad girl ("Written on the Wind"). I wanted that role, too. And that role and that role. I wanted and still want to show all of you what’s remarkable or funny or tender or vain or foolish or noble about all of us — and to feel that connection, that validation of how much I am like you. How much we are alike. And to capture the fragility within each of us.

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Serena .
Kryssi, BTW—no it does NOT make you an ass; not at all girlfriend. I for one have enjoyed reading your posts. I’m glad you “came aboard.” Welcome to WoW!
By Serena . on 07/30/2008 5:04 pm
Jeanne Magill
Dear Lily, you have touched many of us deeply and with great humor…and I mean great. I saw you in NY doing “In Search of…” possibly the finest performance I have ever seen.Brilliant writing and brilliant performance. thank you.
By Jeanne Magill on 07/30/2008 10:04 am
phyllis Doyle Pepe
Dear Lily––You are like a lighthouse in a foggy world and we thank you.
By phyllis Doyle Pepe on 07/30/2008 10:29 am
Wendy Wilson
Just reading these responses shows you, Lily, that what you want to accomplish is happening here today. People feel a connection to you and each other through this site and through you making the video and people responding to it Also, your responses to comments also connects us all. It seems easier than I would think to do, to connect and see ourselves as noble, fragile, tender, etc.
By Wendy Wilson on 07/30/2008 10:38 am
Serena .
Serena (standing up, raising glass in the air, and looking at Lily): To one of the funniest, warm-hearted women on planet Earth—May we all continue to be blessed by your company for a very, very long time. Cheers to Lily!
By Serena . on 07/30/2008 11:04 am
Sue E
Here! Here! Here’s to Lily And Jane! A toast all around! Cheers, Susan
By Sue E on 07/30/2008 11:11 am
Josie Sullivan
Yes! Cheers! Long live Lily! Long live Jane! Long live Edith! Long live Ernestine! Yes, i could go on but I haven’t been able to stop crying since posting here and on Randy Pausch’s thread.
By Josie Sullivan on 07/30/2008 11:16 am
Arty Aimes
Lily - I am thankful that you and Jane continue to share your gifts with us! You are just the spark this site needs. While I have crawled around the political topics here, I find myself always coming back to your thread to see what wonderful tapestry you are weaving. Well Done! This one is looking beautiful! Absolutely stunning!
By Arty Aimes on 07/30/2008 11:31 am
iris odonata
Good Day, Cousin Lily You are precisely the kind of relative I loved getting to see at holidays or cuz ya popped up unexpectedly.. Thank you for being you. I had the rare good fortune of meeting Miss Malone in a grocery store in LA back in the 80’s. We had a right fun chat while we searched for teas and coffees. She was gracious, elegant and felt like family then, which is what I told her. She giggled and said we were. Synchronicity, t seems. Injoy,
By iris odonata on 07/30/2008 11:59 am
Maurine H
Lily - I am tearful reading your words and I’m not exactly sure why because you always make me smile - always. But as I re-read what you’ve written, I believe it’s your authenticity and your empathy that move me. You ARE like us and we ARE like you. The women (and men) who write here are pouring out their hearts along with their thoughts, and yours and Jane’s are the threads we rush to - to say the funny and tender things we think. It is where we’ve found friendships. You are like home. Thank you for sharing the gift of youself in all your roles, here and on stage…and most especially in the role of Lily. Love to you, Mo (and Tahoe)
By Maurine H on 07/30/2008 11:59 am
kim speight
I would have to say that the main reason I “connected” with the wOw site was because of you Lily. I have been further engaged by some of the wonderful people on this site. I thank Chatelaine magazine for recommending it! Your sharing of the Tony night was thrilling, this piece touching, Edith Ann for giving us insight….. My mother met you many years ago, I have the picture of you standing beside her partners’ Spider (the car) after dinner together; she always spoke very highly of you in the same terms that the lovely people on this site do. She recently passed away and I do hope you get a chance to read Carol’s Dash (see my page), a poem written by a friend of hers, as I think it speaks to who you are as well…. you have and are spending your dash very well.
By kim speight on 07/30/2008 12:24 pm
Serena .
God, ya’ll! I feel like breaking out into “We Are Family”! “We are family I got all my sisters with me We are family Get up ev’rybody and sing Ev’ryone can see we’re together As we walk on by (FLY!) and we fly just like birds of a feather I won’t tell no lie (ALL!) all of the people around us they say Can they be that close Just let me state for the record We’re giving love in a family dose”
By Serena . on 07/30/2008 12:25 pm
Josie Sullivan
Serena- darn you…now that song is in my head LOL! Well, I could say thank you because it has temporarily replaced “If I Only had a Brain”. Ok, this is me prying my fingers away from the keyboard…. soon to be turning off the laptop…and moving my way to the studio. Create Create Create sings the bird outside my window. Thanks Serena for bringing up the Tony’s question which led to this thread and thanks Lily for responding!
By Josie Sullivan on 07/30/2008 12:41 pm
Serena .
Josie, “prying my fingers away” … I KNOW, I KNOW!!! Go create girl! I wish I were able to do that … but I’m (whispering, “you know where trying to get some work done”). Don’t thank me … thanks to Lily for paying attention to ALL OF US. I’d give her a HUGE peck on the cheek if I could! Lily, can I call you “mom”? :)
By Serena . on 07/30/2008 12:49 pm
Maurine H
AAAAAAAAAAAMEN SERREEEENAHHH!
By Maurine H on 07/30/2008 12:45 pm