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Lily Tomlin | 07/30/2008 9:25 am

Lily on the Tony Experience

Lily Tomlin

Editor’s Note: Lily Tomlin presented at the 2008 Tony Awards on June 15th and brought wOw along for the ride. Click here to take a look. The following post is Lily’s response to some of the questions about the Tony experience that came in from the wowOwow community.

I thought I’d sent this sooner and just now ran across it on my desktop. Thanks to Serena and everyone who has written about the Tonys. Sometimes it is weird to have people calling your name, but here’s a tip: The people calling out, in my case, are usually photographers trying to get me to look their way so they can do their job and make a buck. So hearing your name called out by a gang of people is seldom abject adoration except in the cases of Madonna or Kathy Griffin. BUT after so many years, it seems to me that fans and people in the streets who wave or say "Hi" are like your neighbors or some extended family. And it’s the same with other actors.

I wanted and still want to show all of you what's remarkable or funny or tender or vain or foolish or noble about all of us ...

The nature of what an actor does or wants to do connects us to the audience and to each other. I remember the first time I went to the Golden Globes and there were so many stars there from so many decades and I felt a familial connection sweep over me. I felt the event was some kind of family reunion and you knew some of your relatives better than others or you felt closer and more identified with some than with others but they were all your "blood."

I saw Eileen Heckart in the lobby and I have never forgotten her performance in "The Bad Seed" when I was 16, and I was enamored of the reactions she evoked in me; that may have been one of the moments when I was inspired to one day make that kind of connection with an audience, to transport and to be transported. And Eileen was growing older then and, for me, imbued with such artistry and depth of pain and "knowing" and I had just become popular from "Laugh-In" and, yet, I wanted to sense my own future in her — the artist. But I confess I was nothing if not eclectic in my taste.

That night, I also ran across the floor of the ballroom to find Dorothy Malone because, in my teen years, Malone was the sexy bad girl ("Written on the Wind"). I wanted that role, too. And that role and that role. I wanted and still want to show all of you what’s remarkable or funny or tender or vain or foolish or noble about all of us — and to feel that connection, that validation of how much I am like you. How much we are alike. And to capture the fragility within each of us.

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shana (shey) loraine
My goodness, I ment left hand side! The Thumbnail image of one of the drawings should be posted now. Thanks - Shey
By shana (shey) loraine on 07/30/2008 7:46 pm
beth willis
Ms. Lily Tomlin, I have forever been “dependent on the kindness of strangers” and the connections I make with those with the talent and grace to transform me,sometimes in small ways, others in grand. Thank you for sharing your talent….just knowing you will be appearing in ‘something’ in the media will set me to rearranging my schedule to be present. Actually, I don’t really have a schedule, but ‘life’ sounded just so pathetic. Ms. Lily Tomlin, I like that you use your whole body , even your eyebrows, to become a character. If you aimed to create emotion in the hearts and minds of your audience, mission accomplished. And I use the line, “Reality is the leading cause of stress among those who are in touch with it” which either makes people laugh or just tell me I am so wierd.. Either way a moment was changed. Imagine how many moments you’ve altered, Ms. Lily Tomlin? What a blessing you are. Peace and grace
By beth willis on 07/30/2008 7:43 pm
Frannie Em
Beth You are a charm.
By Frannie Em on 07/31/2008 12:14 am
l drake
beautifully written
By l drake on 07/30/2008 7:46 pm
James the Game
Lilly, you are great. Cheers!
By James the Game on 07/30/2008 7:53 pm
Blue Circle Girl
Well, Hello, Ladies (and frank and james) at WoW! And then Hello again! Lily, I said the exact same ole’ thing when I first came to this site …. yeah, you are a big ole’ movie star and what not but to me you are Lily Tomlin, sister, friend, muse and great talent. Jane, Jane, Jane …. also sister, friend and most bestest talented writer. Keep it comin’ love .. keep it comin’ love … don’t stop it now … don’t stop it now … (great disco song playin’ in the background).
By Blue Circle Girl on 07/31/2008 1:03 am
Frannie Em
Hey Blue I really love your posts because they are so in present time and move to the mood of the thread, and then add a whole new dimension. You are fun.
By Frannie Em on 07/31/2008 11:56 pm
Mugsy Jr. Peabody
Ms. Lily, hello. Mom said I could write you a note on wOw if I let her read it first. And I am not to say anything that Aunt Mugsy says about anything in private. Only what she says about you in private probably wouldn’t upset anybody, I don’t think. But Mommy said that’s not for me to say. Anyway, I was looking in the mirror when I was brushing my teeth and then I began to see all these different people. It was me. But it was me if I had red hair. Or only one ear. Or glasses. Or was a boy. Or a cocker spaniel. My eyes stayed like me. But I was all these different people in the mirror. I forgot to keep brushing my teeth, so I got toothpaste all down my shirt and had to go change. When I got back, it was the same ole dumb mirror. I think being an actor is like that, only instead of the mirror, you see all those people inside of you. Is that right? Maybe I would like to do that when I grow up. Anyway, I loved the incredible shrinking woman. And you rock on Sesame Street. Bye.
By Mugsy Jr. Peabody on 07/31/2008 1:44 am
Serena .
“Aren’t the artists brave to go out and paint a sea as rough as that? I don’t see how he kept his canvas dry.” Ruth Draper
By Serena . on 07/31/2008 9:37 am
Deni G
What an unbelievably beautiful thread this is!
I am moved in every direction, reading it. Several times yesterday I came here and started at the beginning and read it all over again. And today, yet again. It is just completely remarkable! Like getting lost in an enchanted woods

By Deni G on 07/31/2008 12:01 pm
Deni G
Oh Lily, Valleygirl! I just read your “Remembrance” on ‘most memorable relative’ thread . It is so wonderful!
By Deni G on 07/31/2008 7:40 pm
Catherine Hebert
I would also like to add my appreciation for Lily and Jane. I loved the 4th of July story as well. Lily your words have moved me. I hope you know how much you are loved. In my line of work I have dealt with allot of well known people and may I say you are one of the kindest people I have ever had the pleasure of talking to. Keep up the wonderful inspiring work!
By Catherine Hebert on 08/01/2008 12:15 pm
Frannie Em
Ms Lily My oldest son who has just returned from Iraq, saw me reading this thread. He asked, “Is that Lily Tomlin? She is so cool and really funny.” I said, I know. “Well Mom, I guess you’re kind of cool too.” He has to leave tomorrow, but I have encouraged him to post something to you. He has been out and running around. He is a last minute kind of a guy, so we will see. But again, he was really impressed that you were on the website.
By Frannie Em on 08/01/2008 6:52 pm
Frannie Em
Hey, Lily. This is Eric, Frannie Em’s son. I just wanted to let you know that I always loved your “Edith Anne” skits when I was a kid. Pure greatness!
By Frannie Em on 08/02/2008 6:01 pm
Josie Sullivan
Hey Eric, Frannie has told us so much about you. She loves you A LOT! Give her a hug from me.
By Josie Sullivan on 08/02/2008 8:00 pm