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Liz Smith | 02/11/2009 6:00 am

Liz Smith: A-Rod and Michael Phelps – Like You Never Made a Mistake? Madonna, Still Hot at 50: We Get It, Honey. Move On!

Alex Rodriguez and Michael Phelps © Getty Images/Wikipedia
"He that is without sin among you, let him cast the first stone."

Just a little something Jesus said.

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While we muse on that, why don’t we go out right now and round up baseball’s Alex Rodriguez and swimming Olympian Michael Phelps, blindfold them, line ‘em up against a wall and have done with it?

Surely that is what we must do to these two young men,  because obviously they are the only sinners among us. Certainly no news commentator or cable talking head or sportswriter ever made a mistake, lied, felt performance pressure. And none of them were just young and out having a good time?

Nah. I’m telling you; the saintliness factor in this old world – except for A-Rod and Mr. Phelps – is impressive. Hard to believe there are wars, poverty and bigotry, with all the good people doing good works the world over. The media glee over the missteps of these athletes is far worse than any Rodriguez/Phelps transgressions. It’s downright ugly.

I’m no rabid sports fan, but I do understand the issues regarding steroid use. In the first place, it’s not healthy. But it seems to me, for at least the past decade the sports world is rife with it. Look at a lot of baseball, football and basketball players. Big. Bigger than they ever were in the past. Better nutrition, more time at the gym? Sure. Maybe. Some (but by no means all) fans say steroid use is “cheating.” I can see why they see it that way. On the other hand, was Alex Rodriguez – now only 33 – a lousy or even average player who turned into a superman via steroids? No. He was an exceptional athlete, very young, who wanted to live up to his own publicity and his multimillion-dollar contract. Maybe he should have had some counseling, before heading for the drugs – “Don’t be fearful … you are a great ballplayer … you don’t need any help.” Perhaps he did seek advice, and steroid use was the advice. (I just love how everybody in the baseball industry is “shocked, shocked” and feels “betrayed.” Like they all never had a clue?) And yes, A-Rod lied when asked, several years ago, about steroid use. Nobody should lie. But I wonder how many people really believed him?

As for Michael Phelps, age 23, he took a hit or two on a bong. He was partying, privately (he thought). I’m not condoning bong-puffing, but really, he wasn’t on the street, frightening the horses.

Who would I rather sit down and have a margarita with, A-Rod or the person who ratted him out? Who would I prefer to share my favorite El Rio Grande sopapilla dessert with – Michael Phelps or the person who secretly photographed him and sold that picture to the tabloids? 

The “role model” aspect? Well, yes, that is a sore point. Kids do look up to these guys. But how about this for high concept: How about parents encouraging their kids not to look up to actors and athletes as role models in terms of their personal behavior – or even professional transgressions? They are only men and women who excel in a certain area. They are human. The greatest, most inspiring figures in history often fell short on the personal side. (Benjamin Franklin was a lousy spouse and careless father.)

Parents – who are only human, too – might try setting examples at home for their children to emulate. In the great words of Joe E. Brown, as “Some Like It Hot” concluded, “Nobody’s perfect!”

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caj p
I think too much credence is given to all these high profile people across the board…actors/singers/sport stars….we put them on pedestals and make them feel like God’s so when they behave badly they think the public won’t care!! They are only human we all know that and people do make mistakes, but when they knowingly do these things and are only sorry because they got caught I have no time for that. They all seem to use the use the same line,” I was young and did things I shouldn’t have done”….we were all young and not all of us got involved in stuff like this. To me it’s an excuse. It’s about time we stopped making these people into such important factors in our lives as if by emulating them we are going to make our lives so much better…kids can do better than having to have people like this as role models in their lives. Not saying all of these people are a bad influence far from it as some do really good work and are good role models…but we do tend to think that because they are who they are that they are much more important than they really are.
By caj p on 02/11/2009 9:22 am
Mommy Dearest
I am perfect, my dahlings. Never one mistake. Pay no attention to that vindictive book my ungrateful adopted daughter wrote, dears. Pack of lies. I was ALWAYS right. And clean. Very clean. Off to scrub the bathroom!
By Mommy Dearest on 02/11/2009 9:42 am
Grande Camper
Liz I wonder do you have children? raising them in this day and age with all the technology? I ask that because you say, “How about parents encouraging their kids not to look up to actors and athletes as role models in terms of their personal behavior – or even professional transgressions?” Well I do try to teach my kids not to look up to these people. But you see we send them to school where they come home all talking about them. They see them everywhere; TV, Commercials, trading cards, billboards, etc. This is hard. You say teach them not to look up to them. They want to look up to somebody. You know Mom & Dad are just not cool. So they want to look up to somebody. I do try to teach them but what else can I do. “So, if you wanta play the big bucks game then you gotta pay. And that means living up to a few standards that are a “teensy” bit higher than ones we “average joes” adhere to.” Scarlett Ohara Mitchell you are so right! Thanks for sharing your baseball story.
By Grande Camper on 02/11/2009 9:49 am
EKA -
Debra, oops! I replied to your thoughtful post, but put it in the wrong place …. see page 3.
By EKA - on 02/11/2009 9:19 pm
mary lou s
liz, you are so straightforward and sensible. the madonna part almost put me to sleep. how many times has she reinvented herself?
By mary lou s on 02/11/2009 10:38 am
DeBúrca obj
Liz, I am with you on madonna. “We get it, move on”
By DeBúrca obj on 02/11/2009 11:28 am
Z ****
The Phelps incident can be chalked up to his youth and had nothing to do with his wins in the Olympics. However, in my opinion A-Rod cheated his fans and his fellow players — even if he is a gifted athlete, by taking the drugs and further, denying it………he took advantage of everyone and made the playing field decidedly uneven.
By Z **** on 02/11/2009 11:58 am
Barbara
For Michael Phelps, perhaps it would not have been so shockingly stupid if he wasn’t trying to make money on the motivational speaking tour. Kind of hard to ask corporations to bring you in as a role model and motivator when you’re partying hearty. If you put yourself up there on the pedestal, you have to expect people to watch what you do.
By Barbara on 02/11/2009 12:28 pm
Ms. Dee
No, I don’t think steroid use and smoking marijuana belong in the same category, but I do agree with Liz that the hypocrisy of the onlookers is a bit hard to swallow. As long as alcohol is legal, and taxable, I don’t understand why our culture has such a problem with capitalizing on and controlling the production of hemp. It’s really silly. And so is Madonna.
By Ms. Dee on 02/11/2009 12:40 pm
Lisa M
It is completely unrealistic to think that children today are not going to look up to athletes, actors, musicians, or even politicians as role models - no matter what parents do or say in the home. Children are bombarded with their images at every turn, from the TV (including news and commercials) to the supermarket check-out lines where a dozen or so tabloids tout headlines about every indiscretion these people make. Absolutely they should be held to a higher standard; it comes with the territory. Are A-Rod and Phelps being singled out unfairly? Perhaps. I for one am tired of the “congressional investigations” and the warrants being handed down for athletes who lied under oath. If they can prove something, then prove it. A-Rod took drugs, supposedly during a time when there was no MLB ban in place. It’s a shame and it should be used as a learning experience for kids. Phelps has flat-out broken the law, and should suffer the consequences. What he is enduring right now (loss of a sponsor, and suspension from USA Swimming) is a powerful lesson that many should learn.
By Lisa M on 02/11/2009 12:41 pm
Suzanne MacPherson
You make a very good point about role models for our children. How sad it is that we continually regard sports figures, actors, et al. as the zenith of human achievement instead of lets say, teachers, police and the like. The problem with streroid use among baseball players, and why it is something to be wreckened with comes down to one word - titles. We all were painfully aware when Barry Bonds broke Hank Aaron’s long standing home run record, a record that was earned honestly and legally. Now Mr. Bonds erroneous record may very well be broken by AROD. Pitching achievements have also been mared by the likes of substance using “stars”. I consider myself a baseball purist and to me there are many great players the likes of Chase Uttey and Cole Hamels whose drug of choice is a committment to the game and its inherent need for real talent. That being said I cannot imagine the pressure that AROD, Bonds, Roger Clemens and who knows how many others must have felt to endanger their bodies in such a way as they have. For what. Money. Or the adulation of the public who set them up on pedestals so high they felt they would fall without the aid of the juice. Are we to blame in a way then for letting all of this get out of hand? One might almost feel sorry for AROD until you hear stories such as Scarlett’s and the fact that he is 33 years old with a zillion dollars in the bank.
By Suzanne MacPherson on 02/11/2009 1:45 pm
Andy C
Michael Phelps really needed a coach to tell him that there will be people everywhere ready to watch him fall. He needed to be told that they will be paid money if they get a picture of the fall. As well, he needed to be told that he is not invulnerable. Having said that, did he learn a lesson from the DUI? Evidently not. Alex Rodriguez is a whole differrent thing. He’s a professional ball player who keeps trying to beat the last record. My belief is that this is encouraged by us, the fans, by the club owners and by their coaches. His problem was that he lied about it. Perhaps, as in horse racing when a horse is on lazix (sp?) and they have a little “L” next to his name, they should do the same for ball players. As far as parents telling their kids who should be their heroes — c’mon. When did that ever work? As well, a lot of the parents have smoked some marijuana and may still. This is a drug generation. The kids of this generation, for whatever reason, are immune to the dangers and are rather cavalier about using enhancement or recreational drugs it seems. A commentator last night said that the younger you go in asking about these current problems of the athletes, the less they care. And, of course, the bottom line is, we still pay to see them, buy their memorabilia and cheer them on to bigger and better records, in fact we demand it.
By Andy C on 02/11/2009 2:33 pm
Joan F
Whenever we idolize someone with a particular talent, and then expect them to live up to the (projected) virtues that WE have imbued them with, we are setting ourselves and them up for failure. Liz, anyone who can write a contemporary article AND include a quote from Elizabeth Cady Stanton is a gem in my book! Well said.
By Joan F on 02/11/2009 2:33 pm
immoddesta godessa
Liz, You should condone the proper use of marijuana. Michael phelps should have stood the hell up and said ” yes I participated in a social event where I inhaled marijuana” I got my world record ass up at 5 AM the next day and I worked my ass off again and I intend to be ready to make HISTORY again! So all you knuckle heads that think marijuana is going to have a negative impact on my training or anything I endeavor are so far off the mark it is ridiculous!!! As far as the message for children: GOOD parenting includes the message that TIME and PLACE and MODERATION in all things! That should be the law! MARIJUANA LAWS are the true violation here! This society has been funding the most unprecedented prison expansion program in human history!! most of it promoted as the “WAR ON DRUGS” Really it is a war on freedom! The increased militarization of your local sheriff to counter the increased arming of the black market forces that deal in this enterprise. Marijuana is not addictive but $$$$ are! Marijuana never killed any one but drug cartels have! C’mon Liz step up and say the truth! Marijuana is innocuous and “I” condone it as an alternative to the violence and thievery that masquerades as civil law enforcement!
By immoddesta godessa on 02/11/2009 2:36 pm
EKA -
Truth be told !!!
By EKA - on 02/11/2009 6:59 pm