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Liz Smith | 07/25/2008 1:44 pm

Marilyn Monroe -- The Way She (Really) Was

Parade Magazine

When she began modeling at 18, the head of the Blue Books Modeling agency noted that she was unusually photogenic—“Eyes: Blue…Bust: Excellent…Teeth: Perfect,” her first resume would state. But far more impressive than her natural prettiness was her desire to improve herself. She studied every photo taken of her, asked how to make the pictures better, never repeated an error, eagerly worked on her posture, how to stand, how to gesture. She initially resisted bleaching her deep auburn hair to blonde, but once committed to a more “unnatural” (as she put it) image, she never looked back. Reflecting, years after Marilyn had become famous, the head of the modeling agency stated, “A lot of them ask, ‘How can I be like Marilyn Monroe. But they’ll never be another like her. No one ever worked harder, or had more belief in herself.” And it was a belief that she would not stay forever a model—no matter how successful—or return to the anonymity of being a California housewife, married to a G.I. When photographer Andre DeDeins pressed her to pose nude in 1946, she became angry, screaming, “No, No, No. I won’t. I’m going to be a great movie star someday!” Her course was set. (She soon divorced her soldier husband, needless to say.) Several years later, with rent due and her car impounded, she would pose nude; not realizing those calendar shots would come to immortalize her.


When movies called, intrigued by the popularity of her pin-ups, she began timorously, like so many others. Signed by Twentieth Century Fox, she was dropped after a year and a walk-on. Signed by Columbia, she was starred in a little B-movie that showcased her beauty and her singing and dancing abilities. She was dropped when she resisted the advances of Columbia studio head Harry Cohn. Back to modeling, struggling. Another bit part in a Marx Bros. movie. More struggle. She was asked by a friend at this point, “What if 90% of everybody in Hollywood told you to give up?” Marilyn replied, “If a 100% told me that, all one hundred would be wrong.”


MGM noticed her and she was cast in the small but pivotal role as the baby-doll mistress of Louis Calhern in “The Asphalt Jungle.” Her insecurities blossomed prior to her audition for director John Huston. The script described her character as “sexy.” Marilyn arrived with her perfectly proportioned bosom padded. Huston reached into her blouse, pulled out the padding and told her to read. She got the part. She was superb, but MGM already had a blonde, Lana Turner. Marilyn was on the slow track to nowhere. And then she met agent/manager Johnny Hyde, thirty years her senior. He had helped discover Rita Hayworth and Lana. Marilyn did not resist his advances. Hyde did more than promote her. He respected her ambitions—to be famous and to be whole. He did not mock her reading, her aspirations to be better educated, her desire to be taken seriously. He saw that she was more than what she appeared to be. And less. He recognized the un-pretty agony beneath the beauty. Hyde left his wife of many years for Marilyn. He wanted to marry her. She refused. She loved him, but was not “in love.” Nor did his money attract her. When it was suggested she would be the very rich Mrs. Johnny Hyde, she said, “But I would be taken even less seriously than I am now!”

She was the total opposite of the avaricious gold-diggers she would come to play. Hyde negotiated a new contract with 20th Century Fox for Marilyn. Darryl Zanuck, the studio head was resistant; he did not find her appealing. Spyros Skourous, the chairman of the board of Fox, did find her appealing—he was impressed by her dramatic late arrival at an industry gala. Zanuck conceded. But before the ink was dry, Johnny Hyde suffered a fatal heart attack. Now Marilyn was seen as the little tramp who lured the much-admired Johnny Hyde away from his wife, “got” him to arrange a big studio contract, and essentially killed him with her sex-appeal. If, as the years went on, Marilyn seemed somewhat paranoid about Hollywood’s attitude toward her, she had cause.

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Lorraine Bates
Very interesting piece, Liz. Thanks for sharing it with us. I have always thought that the studio system of old reeked havoc with sensitive souls who found their way to Hollywood to try and find what was missing from their childhood or personal lives. The Machine took some of the most sensitive and poigniant actresses of the time - Marilyn Monroe, Judy Garland, Dorothy Dandridge. Sad that they didn’t live long enough to achieve all they could have.
By Lorraine Bates on 07/25/2008 6:46 pm
Elizabeth Bennett
Thanks for this. She was a wonderful actress. Performances that did win oscars in the fifties and sixties are forgotten faster than her performances in Some Like it Hot and Bus Stop and Gentlemen Prefer Blondes. I liked Marilyn when I was a little girl. She was trying to do a good job. With style. I remember feeling a little thrill when visiting Hollywood for the first time to find her hands were the same size as my own. [Graumann’s Chinese Theatre.] Anyway, I loved the biography of her written by Gloria Steinem, too. Thanks for a good article with a lot of insight. I was sorry to learn that she suffered from so much pain and insomnia; it explains a lot of her so called difficulty. These days, she would have the ADA on her side.
By Elizabeth Bennett on 07/25/2008 7:02 pm
kim speight
Yes a fascinating article with many things I didn’t know about our poor Marilyn. I esecially appreciate the asides such as … she steeped herself in “motivational” acting exercises and Freudian analysis. (Naturally inclined to morbid self-examination, these were perhaps not the best avenues for her.) …. they lent a particular sensitivity/filling out to the article.
By kim speight on 07/25/2008 7:28 pm
Rita T
What a great article, Liz. Thanks so much for sharing it with us before it comes out in print. I have always admired Marilyn and thought she was a good actress who wasn’t taken seriously enough because of her looks. She is a prime example of how life can go horrible wrong when you are beautiful and people don’t or won’t take you seriously in whatever job or profession you have.
By Rita T on 07/25/2008 7:54 pm
DeBúrca obj
I always like her. As a little girl, she was one of my favorites and I can’t really explain why.
By DeBúrca obj on 07/25/2008 9:06 pm
Beinta F.
just love her
By Beinta F. on 07/25/2008 11:58 pm
Chrome Toe
I absolutely loved the line about Marilyn being a “working woman”. I totally get that. the woman was a working woman. and rather progressive in some ways apparently. It made her seem more human and female than anything I’ve read about her before.
By Chrome Toe on 07/25/2008 11:43 pm
Diana T
She was such a talented actor and such a very messed up person. And she had wonderful comedic ability and timing. LIke so many before her, there was so much wasted, and that is very sad.
By Diana T on 07/26/2008 12:04 am
Bonnie Oliver
Liz, you have written a very kind article about Marilyn Monroe. I know her movies but as to her personal struggles, I have only heard a few words here and there through interviews I have seen on TV with Robert Mitchum, Shelly Winters, Hope Lang and Donald O’Connor. Jack Lemmon was kind and Tony Curtis was barely polite when asked about the movie Some Like It Hot. As an actress, I think she was almost as insecure as she was as a person. Her love affair with JFK is now, I guess, an accepted fact of history. However, I did not know that an affair with Robert Kennedy was as yet an accepted fact. Peter Lawford, in an interview, did not confirm or deny the fact. And you add, that the relationship with RFK was more tumultuous? Does anyone know a source for these “accepted” facts?
By Bonnie Oliver on 07/26/2008 1:44 am
sherry roemer
I am the product of the affair between Marilyn and JFK. Bobby used to spend time with Marilyn because he was appointed my legal guardian after JFK was killed. I’m sure that my mother and Bobby never had an affair!!!
By sherry roemer on 07/29/2008 5:14 pm
Bonnie Oliver
Ms. Roemer, I hesitate to reply inasmuch as your birth is not acknowledged. I fear you are living a fantasy or do you have a story to tell?
By Bonnie Oliver on 07/29/2008 9:21 pm
Dona Howlett
Like all beautiful and fragile beings…………when they are gone we sit back and speculate and wonder. I loved her as an actress and admired her spunk. I think those who had the power (over actresses) in those days used and abused the women. I always felt, if she had really had just one true friend she would have survived. I like so many others look back with sweet memories of the joy and pleasure she gave us with her beauty and talent. Some times women can be too beautiful…jealousy raises it’s ugly head and tries to destroy what it can’t have or control…………. I still feel a pang when I think of her tragic death. She was loved and hated…………..I was one of those who loved her. Thanks for such a great article Liz.
By Dona Howlett on 07/26/2008 2:35 am
Maggi D
This article was written with great compassion. And if nothing else, she deserves that. Thanks for a sad trip down memory lane.
By Maggi D on 07/26/2008 3:01 am
Bella Mia
To have been in orphanages and foster care, Marilyn did an extraordinary job of controlling and amplifying her life in a brutal, shameless, toxic business. And all those miscarriages which deprived her of being a mother, must have been devastating to her. Her production company showed her business acumen. But she should be a symbol to all young women who allow powerful men to bed them and manipulate them: it does not end well.
By Bella Mia on 07/26/2008 4:16 am
Dab-a- do
Well said Bella Mia. I was very young and saw her for the first time in “The Prince and the Showgirl” with Sir Lawrence. She was luminous. The raw, powerful acting in “The Misfits” was extraordiary. She never got her due in life as an actress but I think we all can say she certainly entertained us. As time has gone by we now realize she was more than good as she perfected her craft. And had more than just a little impact in the world she lived. There are only a few entertainers that leave a mark on our consciousness and she is one.
By Dab-a- do on 07/26/2008 8:42 am