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Liz Smith | 07/25/2008 1:44 pm

Marilyn Monroe -- The Way She (Really) Was

Parade Magazine

On the personal side, Marilyn had re-newed an old romance with playwright Arthur Miller. They had met in Hollywood when she was a struggling starlet; their paths crossed again in New York— she was now the famous movie star on strike. Miller represented ethics, intellectualism, and what seemed a total understanding of her own aspirations as a person and as an actress. Unlike Joe DiMaggio, Miller was excited, rather than threatened by her public image. Surely, if Arthur Miller respected her, she was worthy. She married Miller, despite the warnings of friends, gossip columnists and even her old champion Spyros Skouros. Miller’s mounting problems with the congressional investigations into un-American activities could taint her, ruin her career. (Miller had dabbled a bit with Marxism in his youth.) She had heard it before—the nude calendar, leaving Hollywood, studying acting. Wasn’t all that supposed to ruin her? She stood by Miller in this era of blacklisting, protecting him with her fame and her money (his legal expenses were high.)

Together Mr. and Mrs. Arthur Miller traveled to London to begin work on “The Prince and the Showgirl.” She stepped off the plane at London’s Heathrow airport, arm in arm with Miller and embraced her co-star, Olivier and his wife Vivien Leigh. Former foster child and orphanage resident Norma Jeane Baker was now the president of Marilyn Monroe Productions, and had in her employ the world’s greatest Shakespearean actor. She was queen of the world. London, 1956, like Tokyo in 1954, went mad. Unfortunately, her confidence did not last.

When Olivier first met Marilyn in New York, he was dazzled by her wit, her beauty, her charm. He flirted. She flirted. But now she was a married woman, and he was her director. He ignored letters from Josh Logan, warning that Marilyn could not be treated like other actors; she was special. Marilyn felt Olivier was condescending, that he did not, in fact, respect her—this movie was just a publicity gimmick for him! He in turn was horrified by her needs, her tentativeness and her apparent disregard for his direction. No actor was “special” enough to coddle. When he demanded that she “be sexy” in a certain scene, she was shattered. Was that all it was?

Worse was happening behind the scenes. She miscarried, the first of three such losses with Miller. And, as she battled with Olivier, Marilyn one night discovered her husband’s diary open at their rented cottage. He was siding with Olivier, Marilyn was not the angel of his fantasies, in fact, she was being a troublesome bitch! Marilyn was shocked, angry and worst of all—believed it. The production, miraculously, staggered on, even coming in under budget. More astonishing, given the stress level, she gave a splendid performance as the sweet but shrewd Yankee showgirl. (She would be nominated for Britain’s Bafta award and win best actress statuettes from France and Italy. But America’s Oscar would not bend.)

Her relationship with Milton Greene suffered as well—Miller’s insistence that Greene was self-interested eventually wore Marilyn down. This was by far the most tragic consequence of the era. Greene had truly loved and supported Marilyn. Of course there was self-interest (when is there not? Miller himself was interested in Marilyn’s profitability) but Greene was by far her greatest champion. Marilyn Monroe Productions would never make another film.
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Lorraine Bates
Very interesting piece, Liz. Thanks for sharing it with us. I have always thought that the studio system of old reeked havoc with sensitive souls who found their way to Hollywood to try and find what was missing from their childhood or personal lives. The Machine took some of the most sensitive and poigniant actresses of the time - Marilyn Monroe, Judy Garland, Dorothy Dandridge. Sad that they didn’t live long enough to achieve all they could have.
By Lorraine Bates on 07/25/2008 6:46 pm
Elizabeth Bennett
Thanks for this. She was a wonderful actress. Performances that did win oscars in the fifties and sixties are forgotten faster than her performances in Some Like it Hot and Bus Stop and Gentlemen Prefer Blondes. I liked Marilyn when I was a little girl. She was trying to do a good job. With style. I remember feeling a little thrill when visiting Hollywood for the first time to find her hands were the same size as my own. [Graumann’s Chinese Theatre.] Anyway, I loved the biography of her written by Gloria Steinem, too. Thanks for a good article with a lot of insight. I was sorry to learn that she suffered from so much pain and insomnia; it explains a lot of her so called difficulty. These days, she would have the ADA on her side.
By Elizabeth Bennett on 07/25/2008 7:02 pm
kim speight
Yes a fascinating article with many things I didn’t know about our poor Marilyn. I esecially appreciate the asides such as … she steeped herself in “motivational” acting exercises and Freudian analysis. (Naturally inclined to morbid self-examination, these were perhaps not the best avenues for her.) …. they lent a particular sensitivity/filling out to the article.
By kim speight on 07/25/2008 7:28 pm
Rita T
What a great article, Liz. Thanks so much for sharing it with us before it comes out in print. I have always admired Marilyn and thought she was a good actress who wasn’t taken seriously enough because of her looks. She is a prime example of how life can go horrible wrong when you are beautiful and people don’t or won’t take you seriously in whatever job or profession you have.
By Rita T on 07/25/2008 7:54 pm
DeBúrca obj
I always like her. As a little girl, she was one of my favorites and I can’t really explain why.
By DeBúrca obj on 07/25/2008 9:06 pm
Beinta F.
just love her
By Beinta F. on 07/25/2008 11:58 pm
Chrome Toe
I absolutely loved the line about Marilyn being a “working woman”. I totally get that. the woman was a working woman. and rather progressive in some ways apparently. It made her seem more human and female than anything I’ve read about her before.
By Chrome Toe on 07/25/2008 11:43 pm
Diana T
She was such a talented actor and such a very messed up person. And she had wonderful comedic ability and timing. LIke so many before her, there was so much wasted, and that is very sad.
By Diana T on 07/26/2008 12:04 am
Bonnie Oliver
Liz, you have written a very kind article about Marilyn Monroe. I know her movies but as to her personal struggles, I have only heard a few words here and there through interviews I have seen on TV with Robert Mitchum, Shelly Winters, Hope Lang and Donald O’Connor. Jack Lemmon was kind and Tony Curtis was barely polite when asked about the movie Some Like It Hot. As an actress, I think she was almost as insecure as she was as a person. Her love affair with JFK is now, I guess, an accepted fact of history. However, I did not know that an affair with Robert Kennedy was as yet an accepted fact. Peter Lawford, in an interview, did not confirm or deny the fact. And you add, that the relationship with RFK was more tumultuous? Does anyone know a source for these “accepted” facts?
By Bonnie Oliver on 07/26/2008 1:44 am
sherry roemer
I am the product of the affair between Marilyn and JFK. Bobby used to spend time with Marilyn because he was appointed my legal guardian after JFK was killed. I’m sure that my mother and Bobby never had an affair!!!
By sherry roemer on 07/29/2008 5:14 pm
Bonnie Oliver
Ms. Roemer, I hesitate to reply inasmuch as your birth is not acknowledged. I fear you are living a fantasy or do you have a story to tell?
By Bonnie Oliver on 07/29/2008 9:21 pm
Dona Howlett
Like all beautiful and fragile beings…………when they are gone we sit back and speculate and wonder. I loved her as an actress and admired her spunk. I think those who had the power (over actresses) in those days used and abused the women. I always felt, if she had really had just one true friend she would have survived. I like so many others look back with sweet memories of the joy and pleasure she gave us with her beauty and talent. Some times women can be too beautiful…jealousy raises it’s ugly head and tries to destroy what it can’t have or control…………. I still feel a pang when I think of her tragic death. She was loved and hated…………..I was one of those who loved her. Thanks for such a great article Liz.
By Dona Howlett on 07/26/2008 2:35 am
Maggi D
This article was written with great compassion. And if nothing else, she deserves that. Thanks for a sad trip down memory lane.
By Maggi D on 07/26/2008 3:01 am
Bella Mia
To have been in orphanages and foster care, Marilyn did an extraordinary job of controlling and amplifying her life in a brutal, shameless, toxic business. And all those miscarriages which deprived her of being a mother, must have been devastating to her. Her production company showed her business acumen. But she should be a symbol to all young women who allow powerful men to bed them and manipulate them: it does not end well.
By Bella Mia on 07/26/2008 4:16 am
Dab-a- do
Well said Bella Mia. I was very young and saw her for the first time in “The Prince and the Showgirl” with Sir Lawrence. She was luminous. The raw, powerful acting in “The Misfits” was extraordiary. She never got her due in life as an actress but I think we all can say she certainly entertained us. As time has gone by we now realize she was more than good as she perfected her craft. And had more than just a little impact in the world she lived. There are only a few entertainers that leave a mark on our consciousness and she is one.
By Dab-a- do on 07/26/2008 8:42 am