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Liz Smith | 07/25/2008 1:44 pm

Marilyn Monroe -- The Way She (Really) Was

Parade Magazine

Now Marilyn valiantly attempted domesticity. She secured an apartment on 57th Street in Manhattan, she and Miller bought a home in Connecticut and she supervised re-modeling. She did not work. After suffering another miscarriage, she was then persuaded to return to Hollywood for Billy Wilder’s “Some Like It Hot.” She objected to the role, another brainless blonde, looking for a rich man. The script was superior, however, and she relented. But by then, Marilyn’s addictions and fears had grown ten-fold. Wilder, who had managed her reasonably well on “The Seven Year Itch” could not repeat that miracle. He agreed that her studies had deepened her skills, but at the same time, seemed to have left her more insecure than ever. Those who disliked Lee and Paula Strasberg said the Actors Studio gurus preferred Marilyn to believe she could not perform without their aid.

The production was a nightmare from beginning to end, made even more stressful when Marilyn discovered she was pregnant yet again. She would lose the child after shooting ended. (Her condition is heartbreakingly evident in much of the film.) “Hot” would turn into her greatest hit, and she would even win a Golden Globe for a performance that was funny and poignant, a fuzzy, disillusioned Lorelei Lee, now named Sugar Kane. But the Academy was more resistant than ever. Her behavior during “Hot” seemed to set industry attitudes in stone. Once again, a co-star, Jack Lemmon would be nominated, and the tissue-thin costumes she wore would actually win an Oscar! The clothes on her back were worthy—she was not.

Marilyn’s public image was undergoing a slow transition. The miscarriages, the not always subtle press references to her emotional problems and/or drug-taking and drinking, seemed to presage some bad end. She was no longer the G.I.’s happy pin-up. She was radiant, still, in her appearance, but the public sensed, and insiders knew, there was little in her life to envy. (The female audience that had been initially resistant to Marilyn relented as her troubles mounted.) Friends would later recount suicide attempts in these years. Or were they? She was always saved.

“Some Like It Hot” was followed by another long absence from the screen. She returned for George Cukor’s musical “Let’s Make Love”—very minor, badly written, directed by Cukor in slow-motion. Marilyn was charming in it, but had nothing to do. Nothing except fall into an affair with co-star Yves Montand. He was married to Simone Signoret and the romance was much gossiped-about, if denied by all the principals. The Miller marriage was over. But the façade had to continue. Straight to the blistering hot Nevada set of “The Misfits” the miserable couple flew. The screenplay had been written by Miller for Marilyn as a celebration of her sensitivity. She did not see it that way. She hated the character’s passivity, and resented the use of so much of her personal history. But, with Clark Gable, Monty Clift, Eli Wallach and director John Houston waiting, she could not bail out.

Mid-way through the shoot, Monroe was shipped back to Los Angeles for de-tox (“exhaustion” said the papers, unconvincingly.) Her insomnia now required near-lethal doses of medication. The film was eventually completed and the Millers separated the day the cameras stopped rolling. “The Misfits” itself offered little solace. Most critics praised the cast, but puzzled over Miller’s script. Marilyn was here an older, plumper, sadder version of her previous showgirls (the character was—one grows weary—an ex-dancer of dubious talent.) She is moving and fragile, despite her Rubenesqe curves, but audiences weren’t ready to accept her maturity, at least not as Miller presented it. The film failed to meet box-office expectations, giving her two flops in a row. Marilyn had appeared carefree at the premiere of “The Misfits,” accompanied by Monty Clift, but she was far from that. In the wake of the film’s failure—and increasing press speculation about her “middle-age”—Marilyn was hospitalized again, this time placed inappropriately in the “highly disturbed” ward of a New York facility. She was bound, and locked in a room. It was her ultimate nightmare; her mother’s insanity come home to roost. Joe DiMaggio, with whom she had remained on good terms, forced the hospital to release her and she went then to a less frightening set-up. From this environment she wrote her therapist a long, lucid and moving account of her ordeal. Marilyn Monroe had problems, but as her letter proves, she still had her wits and wit.

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Lorraine Bates
Very interesting piece, Liz. Thanks for sharing it with us. I have always thought that the studio system of old reeked havoc with sensitive souls who found their way to Hollywood to try and find what was missing from their childhood or personal lives. The Machine took some of the most sensitive and poigniant actresses of the time - Marilyn Monroe, Judy Garland, Dorothy Dandridge. Sad that they didn’t live long enough to achieve all they could have.
By Lorraine Bates on 07/25/2008 6:46 pm
Elizabeth Bennett
Thanks for this. She was a wonderful actress. Performances that did win oscars in the fifties and sixties are forgotten faster than her performances in Some Like it Hot and Bus Stop and Gentlemen Prefer Blondes. I liked Marilyn when I was a little girl. She was trying to do a good job. With style. I remember feeling a little thrill when visiting Hollywood for the first time to find her hands were the same size as my own. [Graumann’s Chinese Theatre.] Anyway, I loved the biography of her written by Gloria Steinem, too. Thanks for a good article with a lot of insight. I was sorry to learn that she suffered from so much pain and insomnia; it explains a lot of her so called difficulty. These days, she would have the ADA on her side.
By Elizabeth Bennett on 07/25/2008 7:02 pm
kim speight
Yes a fascinating article with many things I didn’t know about our poor Marilyn. I esecially appreciate the asides such as … she steeped herself in “motivational” acting exercises and Freudian analysis. (Naturally inclined to morbid self-examination, these were perhaps not the best avenues for her.) …. they lent a particular sensitivity/filling out to the article.
By kim speight on 07/25/2008 7:28 pm
Rita T
What a great article, Liz. Thanks so much for sharing it with us before it comes out in print. I have always admired Marilyn and thought she was a good actress who wasn’t taken seriously enough because of her looks. She is a prime example of how life can go horrible wrong when you are beautiful and people don’t or won’t take you seriously in whatever job or profession you have.
By Rita T on 07/25/2008 7:54 pm
DeBúrca obj
I always like her. As a little girl, she was one of my favorites and I can’t really explain why.
By DeBúrca obj on 07/25/2008 9:06 pm
Beinta F.
just love her
By Beinta F. on 07/25/2008 11:58 pm
Chrome Toe
I absolutely loved the line about Marilyn being a “working woman”. I totally get that. the woman was a working woman. and rather progressive in some ways apparently. It made her seem more human and female than anything I’ve read about her before.
By Chrome Toe on 07/25/2008 11:43 pm
Diana T
She was such a talented actor and such a very messed up person. And she had wonderful comedic ability and timing. LIke so many before her, there was so much wasted, and that is very sad.
By Diana T on 07/26/2008 12:04 am
Bonnie Oliver
Liz, you have written a very kind article about Marilyn Monroe. I know her movies but as to her personal struggles, I have only heard a few words here and there through interviews I have seen on TV with Robert Mitchum, Shelly Winters, Hope Lang and Donald O’Connor. Jack Lemmon was kind and Tony Curtis was barely polite when asked about the movie Some Like It Hot. As an actress, I think she was almost as insecure as she was as a person. Her love affair with JFK is now, I guess, an accepted fact of history. However, I did not know that an affair with Robert Kennedy was as yet an accepted fact. Peter Lawford, in an interview, did not confirm or deny the fact. And you add, that the relationship with RFK was more tumultuous? Does anyone know a source for these “accepted” facts?
By Bonnie Oliver on 07/26/2008 1:44 am
sherry roemer
I am the product of the affair between Marilyn and JFK. Bobby used to spend time with Marilyn because he was appointed my legal guardian after JFK was killed. I’m sure that my mother and Bobby never had an affair!!!
By sherry roemer on 07/29/2008 5:14 pm
Bonnie Oliver
Ms. Roemer, I hesitate to reply inasmuch as your birth is not acknowledged. I fear you are living a fantasy or do you have a story to tell?
By Bonnie Oliver on 07/29/2008 9:21 pm
Dona Howlett
Like all beautiful and fragile beings…………when they are gone we sit back and speculate and wonder. I loved her as an actress and admired her spunk. I think those who had the power (over actresses) in those days used and abused the women. I always felt, if she had really had just one true friend she would have survived. I like so many others look back with sweet memories of the joy and pleasure she gave us with her beauty and talent. Some times women can be too beautiful…jealousy raises it’s ugly head and tries to destroy what it can’t have or control…………. I still feel a pang when I think of her tragic death. She was loved and hated…………..I was one of those who loved her. Thanks for such a great article Liz.
By Dona Howlett on 07/26/2008 2:35 am
Maggi D
This article was written with great compassion. And if nothing else, she deserves that. Thanks for a sad trip down memory lane.
By Maggi D on 07/26/2008 3:01 am
Bella Mia
To have been in orphanages and foster care, Marilyn did an extraordinary job of controlling and amplifying her life in a brutal, shameless, toxic business. And all those miscarriages which deprived her of being a mother, must have been devastating to her. Her production company showed her business acumen. But she should be a symbol to all young women who allow powerful men to bed them and manipulate them: it does not end well.
By Bella Mia on 07/26/2008 4:16 am
Dab-a- do
Well said Bella Mia. I was very young and saw her for the first time in “The Prince and the Showgirl” with Sir Lawrence. She was luminous. The raw, powerful acting in “The Misfits” was extraordiary. She never got her due in life as an actress but I think we all can say she certainly entertained us. As time has gone by we now realize she was more than good as she perfected her craft. And had more than just a little impact in the world she lived. There are only a few entertainers that leave a mark on our consciousness and she is one.
By Dab-a- do on 07/26/2008 8:42 am