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Liz Smith | 07/25/2008 1:44 pm

Marilyn Monroe -- The Way She (Really) Was

Parade Magazine

And she still had hope. Although another lengthy sojourn from the screen commenced, she used her time well. Long criticized for her over-emphatic shape, Marilyn began to whittle down the body. (It is a myth that there was some other standard, back in the day. Marilyn, and her brunette counterpart, Elizabeth Taylor, were often attacked for physical sloppiness.) She returned to the exercise of her teen-age modeling years. She faced the new decade with a new shape, toned and trim—although she worried that her bosom was now too small! And taking a fresh start one step further, she bought a cozy home in the Brentwood area of Los Angeles, intent on securing herself.

In the midst of re-newal, 20th Century Fox called. One more film on her old contract was required. She did not want to make “Something’s Got To Give,” a re-tread of an old 1930’s comedy. Eventually, she approved a script, written by Nunnally Johnson, saying only, “It needs more jokes,” and reluctantly accepted George Cukor as the director—he had not served her well on “Let’s Make Love” so how would could he be trusted to manage this film, crucial to her survival? But, Cukor was on her list of eligible directors. She was trapped. Dean Martin, a good friend, was her co-star, and Cyd Charisse was the second female lead. (Charisse, though an opposite type, was perhaps too glamorous to pair with Marilyn at this delicate juncture.) Still, Marilyn forged ahead. She was ravishing in costume and makeup tests; a few months shy of 36, she had come into her own as a woman. Unfortunately, George Cukor did not approve of the script. He and his writers began to make changes. Production problems were rife and Marilyn had to stand by and watch as the studio—stunned by the astronomical expenses on “Cleopatra,” still filming in Rome—teetered.

Finally, “SGTG” was ready to begin shooting. But Marilyn was not. She had developed a severe sinusitis infection. Fox’s own doctor—who had no reason to protect her—suggested postponing the starting date. The studio, reeling under the expensive hi-jinks of Elizabeth Taylor, refused. Marilyn would report to work when ordered to.

Now began Marilyn’s final battle with authority. She was genuinely ill and she was also genuinely willful and offended. Her on-set appearances were sporadic. She was charming and cooperative when she was there—she just wasn’t there, much. (The hours of outtakes which have survived show her as lovely and in full command of her faculties, despite Cukor’s subsequent claims that she was insane and not performing adequately.) We will never know for sure how much her behavior was fueled by resentment or by her legitimate ailments. It all came to a head when she honored her commitment to sing “Happy Birthday” at President John F. Kennedy’s massive Madison Square Garden gala. Fox ordered her to refuse, as the film was behind schedule. Marilyn ignored them. She considered this a Command Performance. And, she was also having a thrilling little romance with Jack Kennedy (and soon, his brother, Bobby—a much more serious entanglement.) She wouldn’t dream of saying no to such an event! Maria Callas was going to be there. And her great friend Ella Fitzgerald. She went. She sang. She made history in her barely-there beaded Jean-Louis gown. Fox was not impressed.

She returned to the set invigorated, and determined to give the film a needed shot in the arm. In a swimming pool scene that was supposed to only simulate nudity, she collaborated with Cukor to clear the set and do it for real. Marilyn briefly slipped out of her skin-colored bikini and allowed carefully choreographed shots of herself in the nude. She looked magnificent and the session was an international sensation, but it was too late. When she again called in sick, Fox fired her. The film’s producer, said years later that he believed something dramatic had happened to Marilyn—possibly involving her personal life—that pulled her down from the high of the birthday serenade and the subsequent nude scene. (Or, perhaps after all her hard work as an actress, she was depressed she was still obliged to make news in the nude. Did she cast a baleful eye at her expensive “drama coach,” Paula Strasberg? Paula, incredibly, received a higher weekly salary than Marilyn!)

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Lorraine Bates
Very interesting piece, Liz. Thanks for sharing it with us. I have always thought that the studio system of old reeked havoc with sensitive souls who found their way to Hollywood to try and find what was missing from their childhood or personal lives. The Machine took some of the most sensitive and poigniant actresses of the time - Marilyn Monroe, Judy Garland, Dorothy Dandridge. Sad that they didn’t live long enough to achieve all they could have.
By Lorraine Bates on 07/25/2008 6:46 pm
Elizabeth Bennett
Thanks for this. She was a wonderful actress. Performances that did win oscars in the fifties and sixties are forgotten faster than her performances in Some Like it Hot and Bus Stop and Gentlemen Prefer Blondes. I liked Marilyn when I was a little girl. She was trying to do a good job. With style. I remember feeling a little thrill when visiting Hollywood for the first time to find her hands were the same size as my own. [Graumann’s Chinese Theatre.] Anyway, I loved the biography of her written by Gloria Steinem, too. Thanks for a good article with a lot of insight. I was sorry to learn that she suffered from so much pain and insomnia; it explains a lot of her so called difficulty. These days, she would have the ADA on her side.
By Elizabeth Bennett on 07/25/2008 7:02 pm
kim speight
Yes a fascinating article with many things I didn’t know about our poor Marilyn. I esecially appreciate the asides such as … she steeped herself in “motivational” acting exercises and Freudian analysis. (Naturally inclined to morbid self-examination, these were perhaps not the best avenues for her.) …. they lent a particular sensitivity/filling out to the article.
By kim speight on 07/25/2008 7:28 pm
Rita T
What a great article, Liz. Thanks so much for sharing it with us before it comes out in print. I have always admired Marilyn and thought she was a good actress who wasn’t taken seriously enough because of her looks. She is a prime example of how life can go horrible wrong when you are beautiful and people don’t or won’t take you seriously in whatever job or profession you have.
By Rita T on 07/25/2008 7:54 pm
DeBúrca obj
I always like her. As a little girl, she was one of my favorites and I can’t really explain why.
By DeBúrca obj on 07/25/2008 9:06 pm
Beinta F.
just love her
By Beinta F. on 07/25/2008 11:58 pm
Chrome Toe
I absolutely loved the line about Marilyn being a “working woman”. I totally get that. the woman was a working woman. and rather progressive in some ways apparently. It made her seem more human and female than anything I’ve read about her before.
By Chrome Toe on 07/25/2008 11:43 pm
Diana T
She was such a talented actor and such a very messed up person. And she had wonderful comedic ability and timing. LIke so many before her, there was so much wasted, and that is very sad.
By Diana T on 07/26/2008 12:04 am
Bonnie Oliver
Liz, you have written a very kind article about Marilyn Monroe. I know her movies but as to her personal struggles, I have only heard a few words here and there through interviews I have seen on TV with Robert Mitchum, Shelly Winters, Hope Lang and Donald O’Connor. Jack Lemmon was kind and Tony Curtis was barely polite when asked about the movie Some Like It Hot. As an actress, I think she was almost as insecure as she was as a person. Her love affair with JFK is now, I guess, an accepted fact of history. However, I did not know that an affair with Robert Kennedy was as yet an accepted fact. Peter Lawford, in an interview, did not confirm or deny the fact. And you add, that the relationship with RFK was more tumultuous? Does anyone know a source for these “accepted” facts?
By Bonnie Oliver on 07/26/2008 1:44 am
sherry roemer
I am the product of the affair between Marilyn and JFK. Bobby used to spend time with Marilyn because he was appointed my legal guardian after JFK was killed. I’m sure that my mother and Bobby never had an affair!!!
By sherry roemer on 07/29/2008 5:14 pm
Bonnie Oliver
Ms. Roemer, I hesitate to reply inasmuch as your birth is not acknowledged. I fear you are living a fantasy or do you have a story to tell?
By Bonnie Oliver on 07/29/2008 9:21 pm
Dona Howlett
Like all beautiful and fragile beings…………when they are gone we sit back and speculate and wonder. I loved her as an actress and admired her spunk. I think those who had the power (over actresses) in those days used and abused the women. I always felt, if she had really had just one true friend she would have survived. I like so many others look back with sweet memories of the joy and pleasure she gave us with her beauty and talent. Some times women can be too beautiful…jealousy raises it’s ugly head and tries to destroy what it can’t have or control…………. I still feel a pang when I think of her tragic death. She was loved and hated…………..I was one of those who loved her. Thanks for such a great article Liz.
By Dona Howlett on 07/26/2008 2:35 am
Maggi D
This article was written with great compassion. And if nothing else, she deserves that. Thanks for a sad trip down memory lane.
By Maggi D on 07/26/2008 3:01 am
Bella Mia
To have been in orphanages and foster care, Marilyn did an extraordinary job of controlling and amplifying her life in a brutal, shameless, toxic business. And all those miscarriages which deprived her of being a mother, must have been devastating to her. Her production company showed her business acumen. But she should be a symbol to all young women who allow powerful men to bed them and manipulate them: it does not end well.
By Bella Mia on 07/26/2008 4:16 am
Dab-a- do
Well said Bella Mia. I was very young and saw her for the first time in “The Prince and the Showgirl” with Sir Lawrence. She was luminous. The raw, powerful acting in “The Misfits” was extraordiary. She never got her due in life as an actress but I think we all can say she certainly entertained us. As time has gone by we now realize she was more than good as she perfected her craft. And had more than just a little impact in the world she lived. There are only a few entertainers that leave a mark on our consciousness and she is one.
By Dab-a- do on 07/26/2008 8:42 am