Dr. Klein, I can’t believe many have not responded to your appraisal of what having it all means. Actually, I tried to have it all….back to school for a degree after having my two children at a very young age. I had the husband, children, career, active social life. The whole nine yards. Then I got the divorce, had to help with the raising of a grandchild because I had spent too much time at work and didn’t know my daughter. My job in the health care field is very demanding and I missed so much.The father of my children remarried and went on with his life. I spent many hours with my doctor talking about the guilt I felt because I was not good enought to have it all and do it well. Somehow I had determined that I had to do it all without a support system. I remember my mom had younger sisters who carried me and my brothers around on their hips and kept us occupied while she did the washing on a wringer washer and hung the clothes on the line in the back yard. There were always extended family members visiting and the work was shared by all. That was not the case in my house and many of my friends’ home. Most were divorced, also. We tried to extend a hand to each other but we were sinking. Now we are in our early 60’s. We are with our second husbands and trying to have some perspective about what we can and can’t do. Sorry Marlo, but I wish I had not watched your husband’s talk show. I bit the apple extended by the women libbers and paid dearly for it. I must have missed the part about how to budget my time and do it all. I have respect for getting as much formal education as possible. However, to think we can work, raise kids, be a loving wife, have time for the spirital feeding for our mental and emotional health, etc. is not possible because we don’t have the extended family support and most of the next generation of professional women I know still haven’t figured out how to do it all. But they are only doing what mom did. And, the men are not being responsible because they know the little woman will take care of everything just like mom did. I’ll hush. No one wants to hear this.