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Politics | 09/02/2008 11:40 am

Moms: Can Palin Pull Off Motherhood and Vice Presidency?

By The Staff at wowOwow.com
Sarah Palin holding infant Trig/AP

When John McCain announced Sarah Palin as his running mate, many hailed his choice as brilliant – a young, working hockey mom who wasn’t afraid to take on the Establishment.

But The New York Times reports that some mothers across the country are doubting whether the Alaska governor — who has five children, including an infant with Down syndrome and a pregnant teenage daughter — has enough time to take care of her family and be the country’s vice president.

Plus, some say they are worried that any campaign stumbles might hold consequences for other working mothers.

"There’s nervousness among working moms of both parties that how she does in this race will reflect on the overall ability of working moms," Cindi Leive, the editor of Glamour magazine and a mother of two, told the Times.

Social conservatives, usually staunch advocates for stay-at-home motherhood, are mostly defending her, while some others, including some working mothers, worry that she is taking on too much.

"How is this really going to work?" said Karen Shopoff Rooff, an independent voter, personal trainer and mother of two in Austin, TX. "I don’t care whether she’s the mother or the father; it’s a lot to handle."

But Lori Viars, a mother of two and evangelical Christian from Lebanon, OH, cheered the candidacy as well as the decision of both Palin women to keep their babies. "The whole family is pro-life, and they put that into practice even when it’s not easy," Viars said.

Within minutes of Friday’s announcement that Palin was joining the Republican ticket, administrators of one website, D.C. Urban Moms, said they had received hundreds of postings about Palin and her family stresses, more than on any other political issue this year. Many women, citing their own difficulties with less-demanding jobs, said it would be impossible for Palin to succeed both at motherhood and in the White House.

"You can juggle a BlackBerry and a breast pump in a lot of jobs, but not in the vice presidency," said Christina Henry de Tessan, a mother of two in Portland, OR, who supports Sen. Barack Obama.

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ChipsAHoey
the irony of this is not lost on me….wow… I don’t like her because I don’t agree with what she stands for - Alaska will be ripped apart with oil rigs if she gets in, and she is not shown political savvy in her past roles (not going near experience because to me, what matters is what did you do with the experience you have and Obama outshines her on that one) - I think she’s a hard worker and I’m not voting against her because I think she should stay home and be with her baby ,and her daughter and her baby - that’s none of our business and haven’t we been working for decades to make people stop asking us that question? unbelievable!
By ChipsAHoey on 09/02/2008 11:03 am
CHardy
Just b/c a working woman has a child does not mean she should stay at home…I work a full time job with a 2 year old…There is no way I could stay home all day with a 2 year old. My daughter needs that interaction she gets from her daycare, it has helped her tons since we took her from her in home daycare…Yes I feel awful b/c she is there more then she is with me but when she is with me I give her all of me… I didnt even know Palin’s name before last Friday & to be honest I think she will be just fine juggling a newborn and the VP… Not all Moms breastfeed so being hooked to a breast pump is a stereo type for all Moms walking around with a baby latched on and that is all were good for…
By CHardy on 09/02/2008 11:22 am
Susan B
You are so right, CO! I have a 16 year old daughter, and from her birth through about 6th grade, I worked in a demanding 50hr./wk job as a creative director in an ad agency. (This probably explains why I’m so fed up with hype and spun messaging.) Anyway, I felt then as you do now about working outside the home with a young child. My daughter grew up happy, healthy, loved and supported — not only by her mom and dad, but also the people she spent time with in daycare and school. I came home from long days at the office, and being with her was a tonic, not a duty. Seeing her face, having her jump up and run to me after a hellish day filled me with new joy and cleared the negativity out of my life. Every minute I spent with her was precious, and I rarely took her for granted. Even the trying and difficult days of being a parent left me with an unexpected sense of grace. My husband had the same experience. Today, she is a happy, confident, engaging and accomplished young woman in high school. It’s all about balance, finding yours, so you can be the best mother you can be for your child. Not every mother will take the same path, and it seems you have found yours. Enjoy these years, CO, they go so quickly. Cherish them.
By Susan B on 09/03/2008 12:45 am
CHardy
I can only pray what I am teaching my daughter now she will remember and utilize the rest of her life. Susan I am glad that it does work! And happy that your daughter is thriving! yes it is hard to work and hav a family and I agree when I pick mine up from daycare and she comes running over yelling “MOMMY” its the best and all my troubles are taken away. To see her smile or just cover over and hug me or her daddy, its the best ever! Keep up the good work and share your insights with us new Mothers, please!
By CHardy on 09/03/2008 7:52 am
Susan B
Keep up the good work, indeed! My daughter’s not out of the trenches yet! :-) I can tell you that the work you are doing now as a parent lays the groundwork for the teenage years. As you raise her, try to think of the teenager and young adult she will (too soon) be, and guide her with that in mind. Even at age two, it’s never to soon to work on issues around trust and honesty and empathy for others. Try to build a relationship of trust with her, it’ll be key once she gets around 12 or 13.
By Susan B on 09/03/2008 11:57 am
CHardy
Yeah that is what we are working on right now with her…The trust and honesty part big time. She is getting to the age where fears set in and so we are teaching her its ok to trust us, her parents…and that she can’t just walk up to a stranger in the mall. One day at the mall we were sitting there eating and there was an eldery couple on the bench about 10 feet away, my daughter looked over, got up (ok dont forget she is 2) and walked over to the elderly gentleman and wanted to sit with him…He got tears in his eyes b/c he said that his grand kids live in FL and they live here & he never gets to see them that often and for my daughter to do that was just the best thing ever to him… The empathy issue we try but right now everything to her is “mine” and her fav word is “NO”…drives us crazy. She is an only child so at home I think she knows its all hers but at daycare they, her teachers, tell me she shares great! Keep the advice coming! I am eating it up!
By CHardy on 09/03/2008 12:49 pm
Susan B
Saying “no” and “mine” is her way of trying to control her world. This age is very challenging, because they’re establishing themselves as independent beings for the first time. It’s a good thing, but along with that comes the need to learn respect for others, especially mom and dad. Don’t let her get away with being rude to anyone, especially you. My daughter was a lot like yours, friendly to strangers and I think she had a second sense about people in pain or sadness. She always seemed to gravitate to them, kids or adults. Still does. You don’t want to teach her to be afraid, but at the same time you want her to be cautious with people she doesn’t know. I think she went up to the elderly couple because you were there and she felt safe doing so. My daughter was an only child, and she learned to share, in some cases better than her friends with sibs. She never had to fight over her toys with a brother or sister, so she had no concern sharing them, confident they would be given back. Once they understand that, it becomes easier. Then all you have to do is deal with other selfish kids who take without asking. Big lessons! Daycare’s a good place to learn them, because it’s like a mini world of all sorts of personalities (who are not family) that you have learn to interact with. She’ll encounter all sorts of situations, but it will help her grow. Sounds like she’s doing great!
By Susan B on 09/03/2008 1:42 pm
CHardy
You know Susan I agree. My daughter has always been a happy child and was a great baby! Didnt have any problems and now that she is acting the way she is, it is a challenge b/c all of a sudden it happened…she hit that terrible 2’s but we are trying to dicipline her without breaking her spirit. I hate making her cry but it seems so easy to do and it kills me but were both trying to stay strong. On top of all that she is a big Daddy’s girl! Loves her Daddy, so if he does something to dicipline her, it is 10 x worse!
By CHardy on 09/03/2008 2:23 pm
Susan B
You’re reminding me of those days of discontent! Stay strong, don’t worry about the crying — she’s testing you and trying to play you … and she’s also legitimately frustrated by her lack of personal power. Just be calm and firm and consistent and you’ll get through. It was tough on my husband, too — my daughter was a big Daddy’s girl. But we stood our ground and kept reminding ourselves that we were in control, not her. I have a memory of her completely losing it at the mall, and my husband having to carry her out like a log — she went straight as a board and screamed. It’s embarrassing sometimes. It ruins the moment. It interrupts whatever you’re doing. But it must never be tolerated. Just pack her up and take her to the car or into another room. Calmly and quietly remove her from wherever she was when she started acting up and don’t return until she gets it together. (And don’t reward her with a treat right afterward, that just reinforces her bad behavior. That was always a temptation for us, because once she calmed, we wanted to do something to put everyone back into a good mood. But don’t do it! Some other time, when she’s behaving well on her own, surprise her and tell her that you’re so proud of her big-girl behavior, you’re all celebrating with a treat, trip to the park, something she enjoys. That way, she learns that good things can happen if she behaves. You won’t break her spirit, just temper it.
By Susan B on 09/03/2008 2:48 pm
CHardy
Oh yes the stiff as a board has started and its always in public…its so great. But with my Fiance’, her Daddy, being a cop, we are always alittle more cautious about what we do b/c we dont want anyone to call child services. We really have only had to spank or whip in public a couple of times and once was when he was in uniform…she was sitting at the table and she picked up his fork and threw it across the restaurant…she really got spanked that time…but we are trying to not spank unless its something really bad….plus he has to stay on the same page with me on those nights he is working and its just me and her…so i have to fill him in once he is off night shift on whats been going on and what she is or isnt allowed to do! Its fun and we are enjoying it b/c we know these years go by so fast…I mean its been 2 already and man…we look at her and ask “where did u come from”… Both John and I are very strong willed people and so our daughter is also so that is always nice! Thank you so much for the comments and the suggestions! Its nice to hear that other parents went through this same stuff!
By CHardy on 09/03/2008 2:55 pm
Susan B
Two strong-willed parents and one strong-willed daughter. Boy, does that sound familiar! I assume your avatar is a photo of her. Beautiful girl, and you can see the sparkle.
By Susan B on 09/03/2008 3:09 pm
CHardy
yes that is her!
By CHardy on 09/03/2008 4:09 pm
Amy Van Cleave
Amen, I rasied and brest feed my daughter at 18, I put myself throught college. Raised her to be a strong women, and she is as well as a college graduate. Amy
By Amy Van Cleave on 09/10/2008 12:10 pm
Susan B
You are her best role model! You have my respect. That couldn’t have been easy.
By Susan B on 09/10/2008 12:33 pm
TeeZee
Can she pull it off? Not for me to judge, from how’s she’s conducted her political career, I will not vote for her.
By TeeZee on 09/02/2008 11:58 am