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Entertainment | 01/13/2009 8:30 am

Singer Phoebe Snow Discusses Living Life After Daughter's Death

By The Staff at wowOwow.com
Phoebe Snow's been through a lot since her career began in the 70s. © Getty

“It’s a tribute to my daughter. It’s a love letter to my daughter.”

So says legendary chanteuse Phoebe Snow of her latest aural offering, "Live." Her daughter, Valerie, died last year at the age of 31, and Snow hasn’t been the same since. And who can blame her? No mother wants to bury her daughter, especially a daughter with whom she lived her entire life. Though their time together may have been short, the two women formed a bond that defies definition. In fact, Snow can only describe their relationship with eight words: “We were madly in love with each other.” Despite her heartbreak and months of anguish, Snow’s determined to find new life in this new album – and a few other projects. Here she tells us how she’s coping, debates the virtues of therapy, and explains why she’ll always respect Miley Cyrus.

wOw: Hi Phoebe!

Phoebe: I made it. I’m a little late. Sorry.

wOw: That’s OK. It’s only four minutes. I draw the line at five. So you’re lucky. Happy New Year.

Phoebe: Yeah. Happy New Year. Happy whatever.

wOw: Yeah, 2009. All that. All right, let’s start this conversation a few New Years ago, when you were a child. I understand that you always had music in your household, but what is the first song or record that you remember clearly?

Phoebe: That’s a great question. Probably Little Richard’s “Tutti Frutti.”

wOw: Yeah?

Phoebe: Swear.

wOw: Did you know that you wanted to be a singer from day one?

Phoebe: To be fair, yes. Well, not a singer necessarily. I just knew I wanted to have something to do with whatever that exciting thing was. But there was another really transitional moment when I was a little older, when I think my father took me to City Center to see “Porgy and Bess.”

wOw: Oh, yes!

Phoebe: And I heard the overture and I had the same feeling of like, “Wow.” And, this is true, I turned to my father – I was probably about five or six years old – and I said, “Dad, I think I know what I want to do when I grow up.” I swear. It’s a true thing.

wOw: Was it the fact that you felt like you had something to say or that you wanted to entertain people? Because, you know, people go into the arts for different reasons.

Phoebe: Whatever that sound was that I was hearing, I wanted to contribute to it. I guess I didn’t even think of it in terms of entertaining or making a statement. So, if I had to pick one of those two things it’d probably be more like saying something, you know?

wOw: Who really influenced you, other than Little Richard?

Phoebe: Well, when I really started to get into it and really started to have a musical instrument, which was a guitar that I practiced every day, I would have to say that the really influential thing would be these great old blues record reissues, like Blind Lemon Jefferson and Big Bill Broonzy. Some of these people, a lot of people now don’t even know about. But Willie Dixon – you’ve certainly heard of Willie Dixon.

wOw: Yep. Fats Domino, maybe?

Phoebe: Yeah, absolutely. And all of that great R & B-like rock stuff that was just — you know, it was kind of a predecessor to what we call rock and roll now. Chuck Berry, you know, all of those …

wOw: Of course! I love Chuck Berry.

Phoebe: We couldn’t be here without Chuck Berry.

26 Reader Comments (so far…) Sign In or Register to comment

NP2
As a young girl, in the 70’s, Phoebe Snow was one of my favorite singers. I can recall the lyrics to her “Poetry Man” to this day. My best wishes go out to Phoebe, as she finds her way to live without Valerie.
By NP2 on 01/13/2009 9:08 am
HABIBI
Oh this is too funny, I was just on the computer the other night looking up Phoebe Snow songs. I love her voice and her beautiful ballads. And Poetry Man was and still is awesome!
By HABIBI on 01/13/2009 9:23 am
FrannieEm
Elaine I was just listening to The Very Best of Phoebe Snow. I was so happy when I found it at Amoeba Records in Hollywood. They sell previously used, hard to find CDs, going there is like a field trip for my 15 year old and his pals. Anyway, Poetry Man, Two Fisted Love, Harpo’s Blues, Never Letting Go and so many more are great. One of my all time favorite performances of her is on the New York Rock and Soul Revue (?) where she sings At Last. Just love it. Glad to see her here. Dear Ms. Snow Thank you for all of the love that comes through your music. I appreciate your art. So sorry to hear about your loss. When I lost my mother, who was my best friend and best everything else, it was a really hard hit. It took me a long time to get over it but, as that great healer time went on, it got better. It takes time and you will never stop thinking about her and what she did for your life and that is how it should be, but after a while, it won’t hurt so bad. Your mutual love is always there and no one can take that from you or change it. Remain true to that, it is the most important thing of all of it. Peace
By FrannieEm on 01/14/2009 2:04 pm
HABIBI
Hi Frannie, I sure love Phoebe Snow as well. Have always marveled at the range of her voice. She is just so smooth! I’m pretty sure that Amoeba records, is the same place I went to, when looking for an old artist, that no one else was able to locate. The artist was Kieff Hartly and they were the only ones able to find it. I’ve found a pretty awesome guy here in Chicago, who is able as well to locate the hard to find music. I’ll look up Phoebe’s “At last” am sure I’ll love it! :)
By HABIBI on 01/14/2009 6:08 pm
KrisMerrill
My heart goes out to every parent who loses a child. Devastating. On a lighter note, It’s so interesting to note the similarities my generation has - Baby Boomers. Little Richard and Chuck Berry have been my favorites for years. There’s nothing better than FUN music. And Phoebe’s songs live in my heart.
By KrisMerrill on 01/13/2009 9:27 am
ElizabethHilts
I so admire Phoebe Snow—for her music, for her strength. Honestly, however, this interview would have benefited from some editing—I found myself not wanting to read it.
By ElizabethHilts on 01/13/2009 9:33 am
rebeccaaronauer
Awesome!!!
By rebeccaaronauer on 01/13/2009 9:54 am
GrandeCamper
How sad to lose a daughter. Yes, I wish her strength to find her path to live on.
By GrandeCamper on 01/13/2009 10:24 am
ChromeToe
I’ve never heard her music I don’t think. I’m going straight to the internet to find it. I can tell I’ll love it just by what’s in her heart. I absolutely loved how she talked about the kids on Hannah Montana and how she feels about kids in general. and of course her daughter. What an interesting lady. I wish her peace and love.
By ChromeToe on 01/13/2009 11:06 am
FrannieEm
CT Kelly Yes, the Hannah Montana thing is amazing. Pheobe Snow also does the blues pretty good. I heard a report on a concert (you know one of those diva concerts they put on where they call all the young artists divas?) Anyway, they older generation was there like Aretha Franklin etc and youngers like Mariah Carrey. As the story goes, Carrey was waiting in the wings for her turn on stage and Pheobe Snow was up there belting it out, and she was one of the first to come out with that high C or A note, or whatever it is, and Mariah was surprised because it had been a trademark of hers, she didn’t know that others sang like that before, and she turned and asked someone in the wings - “Who is that? She is amazing, where did she come from?” I was surprised by that because Phoebe Snow is a great fixture of our musical heritage.
By FrannieEm on 01/14/2009 2:12 pm
IMLIZZIE
The loss of her daughter is just terrible. It will take her a long time to be able to live somewhat normally. It takes over a year to even begin dealing with it better, and then some. I lost my youngest son and knew that nothing bad could ever happen to me again, as I had experienced the worst. Nobody understands but those in the same situation as you have been, and if you’ve been there too you know exactly what they are experiencing. I went to a parents’grief group for over 2 yrs and being with others who lost a child was the best therapy I could have undergone. I also have a lot of books written especially for the loss of a child. Phoebe will have a long road to yet walk alone, but her music will help her thru the times of deep despair. Her life will never be the same again, but her memories will comfort her in dark times. It’s the pitts to lose your child.
By IMLIZZIE on 01/13/2009 7:31 pm
Cjay
Tearful hugs to you, Lizzie. Nothing is ever the same after losing a loved one, or almost losing someone, too. I felt Phoebe’s pain and yours, too. With a child, I think because we were part of one another, each from our own beginnings on a cellular level, the ties are deeply rooted, and cannot be broken. I almost lost a child with an massively ruptured AVM, it was months of dying, extreme measures to save her - only one time did I leave the hospitals (she was in 4!!!) and I was torn from my most basic foundation. I could only live for my other children, or so I thought at the time. I remember on that one short absense from the hospital, I was dropped off at a store to obtain some personal items, and within seconds I found myself in a vacuum seeing all the items I used to buy just for her … (as I did the others). I was cemented in there in utter grief. Those are such hard times. You were so brave to go into a group. So very brave.
By Cjay on 01/26/2009 2:56 pm
DeBrcaobj
Very sad about her daughter. It makes me want to hug my daughter. I’ll have to settle for a phone call. I have always liked Phoebe Snow’s music.
By DeBrcaobj on 01/13/2009 9:56 pm
amp
Teh San Francisco Chronicle did a long piece starting on the front page of the Datebook section a few months back on Phoebe Snow, the very tragic loss of her daughter, and her determination to go on. Her music has always been impressive…and now we realize the ‘soft’ power behind it. Poetry Man….an unforgettable classic.
By amp on 01/13/2009 10:56 pm
DoraM
Her voice has always slayed me, such an amazingly gifted artist, and I knew of the issues her daughter had but wasn’t aware that she had died… thank you so much for this interview, I can’t even begin to wrap my head around her grief, or anyone’s grief who has lost a child, I wish there was something I could say that could in any way make some sense…
By DoraM on 01/14/2009 3:41 am