He judged her by her appearance. And it was true. She had an appearance. Once her appearance had been nubile, full of the promise of good genes and good motherhood potential. And then one day her luck ran out and she accepted the idea that the only thing about her of any importance was her appearance. When she disappeared completely, he was unquestionably lonely without her. But since appearance was the only thing about her that had any importance, she was easy to replace.

Well written: insightful social commentary.

Girls, Love yourself and to blazes with what anyone else thinks. A true love or a true friend will love you for who you are, not what you look like. We all change as we grow older embrace the changes, be healthy and happy within yourself.

Catharine Deneuve said a woman over 45 has to choose between her face and her arse. She is a little plumpish now, as is Judi Dench, and they’re both beautiful. I’ve seen sexy heavy ladies (see the movie Baghdad Cafe) and very unsexy, scrawny, skinny ones… and vice versa. Just be confident and sassy and never mind the measurements. http://wolynski.blogspot.com/

I don’t get it. Is that the joke…”got a match?” “Yeah, your face and my ass?” Who cares about the butt? You can always go to Wal*Mart and buy a fake ass, like the one that grabbed my attention last week. A fake ass you say? I’m not making this up. I saw this round spongy thing hanging in the ladies underwear section & moved a little closer…hmmmmm. A fake ass. Some people might want to wear it as a hat. I didn’t try it on. I just looked at it like I’d eyeball a night crawler in my sleeping bag. And then I walked on.

I think the meaning of Deneuve’s quote of the Fr. saying is that either you are proud of your figure, your legs, your waistline - and you allow your neck to becomes scrawny (even the aged Audrey Hepburn suffered from that). - or you are proud of your face, and the little extra weight that fills it out will be shared with your derriere. (Also drastic dieting does have bad results on the bod, in the end. Those dieter’s skin always looks grey, somehow….) Me, I side with Deneuve -

I have always been lush, voluptuous, and fat. I only feel fat when I sit next to others who are thin. I prtty much love the skin I’m in, am married to a wonderful second husband who married me voluptuous/fat and middle-aged and dated in between husbands so. So much of what we feel inside, we project outside. I would love for women to get out of their own way around weight. Each year is a gift and a woman who is 50 will never be 20 or look 20 again.

Now, if only all us women could accept ourselves and stop judging ourselves through other eyes. We are pretty darn perfect no matter what our physical appearance may be. Would your opinion change about a dear friend if they were scared by a horrible accident? Would it? I am 64 and this realization has come to me pretty late in life. MS Nevins’ illustrates what most of us have lived. She’s good. Thanks for sharing with us.

Women don’t allow eachother to accept themselves. We do this to us; men don’t do this to us.

it is sad that some people judge us by our weight, but it is true. those people miss out on a lot of great relationships. I think as women we should take good care of our body so that we can remain healthy and enjoy our 30’s,40’s,50’s,60’s and so on, but that doesn’t mean we will be a size 2. Over the past year I have lost 35 lbs, and did it for me only. I feel great but have reallized how shallow some people are. People who talk to you who didn’t, the produce clerk at the grocery store who is ever so helpful, yet 35 lbs ago he did’t know I existed when I came to get my produce. One thing that I was reassured was that I picked a great husband, because he is as crazy about me now as he was 35 lbs ago.

Ladies, I admire all of you that can give a hoot about your weight. I am not one of them unfortunally. As for the lady that talked about the fake butt, how do you undress in front of a man? Hold a sec honey while I put my butt on that chair. As for those of you talking about people been shallow, you are absolutly right. I have had my intellectual capability question by people because I am over weight. I can assure you if I show up for a job interview where the job can be done by someone with a high school diploma and I am the one with the education and better qualify she will get the job because she looks better. People have given me looks honestly, I would like to feed them back to them for been stupid. However, I try to stay away from narrow minds, but I have to admite the lady that said just keep a Sassy attitude is absolutly right. I find that some men like to be intellectually challenge this guys want a woman that can keep them on their toes. However, I found that I miss been skinny. Now, this comments comes from a woman that losses 60 lbs and then gains back 60 lbs I am so frustrated with my weight. I honestly trying to control it, but what I found was, I miss having cute outfits, looking at my face thin, I miss sexual positions that I can do as well now, and I fell like I am cheating myself as well as him. When I was a teen in the late 80’s, I remember seem commercials on TV for some kind of diet and the woman making the remark that she went back to been a perfect 10. I honestly think a woman can be healthy at a size between a 10 and a 14. I feel sorry for those poor woman in New York that are a size 2.

Life is too short to wake up with regrets. So love the people who treat you right. Forget about the one’s who don’t. Believe everything happens for a reason. If you get a second chance, grab it with both hands. If it changes your life, let it. Nobody said life would be easy, they just promised it would be worth it.

I understand the existential nature of this new sheila nevins piece…I loved it..so brief but so ephemeral…the real skinny of non nourishment and the consequence of giving up all your favorite foods…she went… and he suffered…I cried…

The media is still raping women, left and right. Ever sit through one whome segment of that cable show with the man and woman who give a woman $5K to go out and replace herself to their liking? Its abuse, pure and simple, plus their choices aren’t too swift either - look at their attire. Watch it once, if you can stand it, then save up your anger for the commentaries at the “internal awards” shows on TV. Over and over again, and we’re letting it happen. Hit the sponsors with your letters - that’ll slow things down, eventually. Merely broading this discussion evidences “where” we still are …