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Sheila Nevins | 04/10/2008 12:00 am

Who Is She?

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Fiction

After reading the story, click here to vote: If you were Bart’s wife, what would you do in the morning?
a) Confront him
b) Poison him
c) Let it pass
d) Tell him he needs therapy
e) Have your own liaison
f) Leave him

It was 12:30 a.m.

Bart was working late. Being a lawyer in a high-pressure firm and having just become a managing partner was taking its toll. His nights were not his own. Many weekends he had to take the L.I.R.R. back to the city because his workload was so heavy. These demanding clients kept him always on call. Financially, he was doing quite well for the first time in his twenty-year career. She understood; it wasn’t that she wasn’t busy or preoccupied herself. Their kids were quite grown – twenty, twenty-two, and twenty-six – and out of the house. She loved her job as a librarian at the local Jericho library. On this particular sultry summer night, she was engrossed in a book being read by her book club. She hadn’t read Anna Karenina since college and so she was quite engaged, as if reading it for the first time.

His car pulled up in the driveway.

Bart stopped at the fridge, grabbed some iced tea, and tiptoed up to the bedroom. He said, surprised, "You’re up?"

She smiled, "I’m deeply involved with Anna. How’s it going, Bart? Tough case?"

"The clients are impossible," he answered.

"You must be tired?" she said.

"Exhausted," Bart said.

She couldn’t explain it, but somehow something was different. Bart seemed off-tempo. What was it? His hair. It was neatly combed. "Get a haircut?" she said. "It looks great."

"No. Why, do I need one?" Bart asked.

"Just wondered," she said. "And, by the way, Lila got a raise. She asked for it and they gave it."

"How much?" he asked.

"Five percent," she said. "And I’m so glad. They were taking advantage of her."

"She’s one great kid," Bart replied. "We struck a home run with this one."

They both smiled. Lila was a prize.

Bart took off his jacket and opened his pajama drawer. His tie was carefully knotted. Odd, she thought. On these hot summer nights he almost always came home without a tie. She imagined that he probably took his tie off as soon as he left his air-conditioned Manhattan office. She noted this careful knot.

Bart then took off his pants and flung them over the chair. She lifted her eyes from her book. She felt him avoiding her gaze; well, not avoiding it, but not catching her eyes – if you know what I mean. Then she saw that his jockey shorts were on backwards. The fly part faced her as he bent over to untie his shoes. Had he spent this sticky day in arrears? Her heart raced. There was no lipstick on his collar, no perfume in the air like in the movies. As a matter of fact, it was the absence of aroma that she noticed – no sweat. After twenty-eight years of marriage, late August work nights meant damp shirts. She knew this because she had put them in the laundry for all those years. She knew the circle of perspiration around the armpits, the badge of honest late work. Her cheeks flushed, her heart pounded. Had he showered before coming home? She knew he had not been working.

"Good book?" Bart said.

"Yes, yes," she said. "Read it at Mount Holyoke years, years ago. It’s all new to me. Tolstoy is so now."

"How was the book club?" he asked casually.

"Fascinating," she said. Her fingers felt numb. "Bart … " she started.

"Yes?" He was pulling the covers over his head.

"Bart … you are working so hard."

"Yes, sweetie," he said. He rolled over and kissed her. She felt the kiss’s compulsory quality, the repetitive wet peck.

"Bart," she said, taking a deep breath and pausing. “Bart, I got them to fix the den’s air conditioner and honor the warranty two days after it expired." He was sinking under the covers.

"That’s my girl," he said. His voice was getting drowsy.

She felt scared. Alone. She whispered to herself, knowing he wouldn’t hear, "Who was she?" – the tears running down her face. She whispered again more quietly, "Who was she, Bart?" But when she looked over at Bart, he was fast asleep.

She turned out the light, first looking at their wedding picture near the telephone on her side of the bed. She turned the picture face down, wiped her tears away, listened to his breathing, and wondered what she would do in the morning.

Click here for wOw poll: What would you do in the morning?

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112 Reader Comments (so far…) Sign In or Register to comment

Diane Westerman
Mamacita, The same thing happened to my postings. Lost in cyberspace.
By Diane Westerman on 04/10/2008 7:59 pm
Kay Sara
I also had postings not show up - ones I typed 4/9/08 in the evening EST.
By Kay Sara on 04/11/2008 9:04 am
Esther Bradley-DeTally
He probably is having an affair. That’s horrendous for either party, but they have bee married for 28 years, have a wonderful girl, and need to communicate. Rather reptilian to leap to fight or flight, natural, but a wiser course is to find time to talk and do so. If she has to tell him about fixing an appliance after a late evening, perhaps she needs to look at herself. Counseling is always my clarion call. Counseling, counseling, counseling. Then they have to find what animates them, their mutual and individual purposes in life. It happens, and before blame is assigned, sides taken, they need to really look at themselves and also their marriage. Saw you all on Charlie Rose-way to go; i love him too! Intelligence and authenticity in journalism, wow, what a concept! thank goodness for people who are real!
By Esther Bradley-DeTally on 04/10/2008 12:16 pm
Diana Yacoby
I saw you on Charlie Rose - also- and really enjoy the site
By Diana Yacoby on 04/13/2008 3:56 pm
Chips AHoey
I think Mark, like a lot of men who complain that their wives don’t dote on them 24/7 or still wear a size 4 like then they married them, needs a mirror… this is one of my biggest fears - an affair - it’s the abandonment complex I guess so reading this literally made me sweat! I do think I would have woken him actually and asked “why are your shorts on backwards and what is up with your shirt?” and let it hang there for a response - I would not have fallen asleep without confronting it - why should he get to sleep while I am freaked out?
By Chips AHoey on 04/10/2008 12:36 pm
Buh-Bye Hillary Hillary Buh-Bye
Anne K— I think it’s really super that you can say out loud (ah out loud in cyber space) that this is a fear…..Rhetorical questions….do you know why? Can you support yourself? Do you have your own interests/circle of friends without him? Because even if he never has an affair…things happen…most women will be alone sometime in their life….so to me Anne, if this is something you are concerned about….you might want to start reading, thinking, discussing it or something now. Just a thought. Because usually if walk into the fear and examine it and think where you could bolster a sense of I want to be in this relationship but I can handle another way…..to me you gain stenght and that can only be good. Right now the big freak out thing in my life is that my parents are 77 and 80……I literally cannot breathe if I think of my mother gone. She and I speak almost every day, and when we say goodbye it’s always a campy, “Goodbye, dahling” “Goodbye, dahling” and then we giggle. It’s a silly thing…but I would miss everything about her everyday. I am a mommy’s girl.
By Buh-Bye Hillary Hillary Buh-Bye on 04/11/2008 1:26 am
Terri Vinck
First, I’d open a bank account with my own name. Then I’d start a journal and just observe his behavior. If he did it once, he’ll do it again. In a parallel action, the next day I would ask him about his underwear and jokingly ask, “What happened? Did her husband come home too soon?” Maybe there is a perfectly good explanation for his appearance but usually your instincts are correct. I was a Navy wife with three children living in Navy housing. When my spouse had an affair, I had nowhere to go. We were in California and housing costs were outrageous. If I left him I would have to leave housing in thirty days. I was trapped. So my recommendation is to plan ahead before you go ballistic because you’ll end up in a shelter and your pride won’t help your kids. My advice is to let it go but don’t forget it. Start planning for your own life as a single mother.
By Terri Vinck on 04/10/2008 12:48 pm
Lynn P.
Well, I was married for 25 years and found out my now ex husband was having an affair. I finally got wise and hired a private investigator to confirm what I already knew in my heart. I was right, he was out. Won’t go into the nasty details….but how can you possibly ever trust him again? That was the issue for me, the betrayal by him and I could never trust him again. And it was not my behavior that had anything to do with his choice…..I certainly did not “drive” him to have an affair. Every woman this happens to has to decide for herself how she will handle it, every situation is different. For me, there was no choice, the bond of trust was truly broken.
By Lynn P. on 04/10/2008 1:01 pm
Lorraine Bates
I’m with many of the others. Confront him. The evidence is circumstantial at this point. Maybe he went to the gym - trying to stay in shape? Who knows. But if you’ve trusted a man for 20 some-odd years, immediately moving to any option other than confronting him means, to me anyway, that you never really trusted him all along.
By Lorraine Bates on 04/10/2008 1:05 pm
Black Diamond
Lorraine, I’m so glad you came up with a plausible excuse for Bart’s appearance! “Maybe he went to the gym”. After a long, hard workday a good run or workout removes the kinks and stress, but does leave you exhausted. I can identify with the gym excuse, because my husband regularly goes to the gym, but sometimes doesn’t want to tell me because either he feels guilty about not spending the time with me or because he thinks that I will think he should have been spending the time with me. Either way, I can count on him falling asleep in exhaustion later. Your idea shows why jumping the gun and planning your divorce and getaway even before you’ve heard his story are so premature. I’m reading “Crucial Conversations: Tools for Talking When the Stakes Are High” by Patterson, et al. and it covers handling difficult personal and business conversations, where the next thing out of your mouth is crucial to the success or failure of the relationship/deal/project, etc. Some of you might enjoy it, too.
By Black Diamond on 04/11/2008 12:45 pm
Gayle Turner
Gayle Turner, Sacramento, CA 4/10/08 12:45 pm I would get real with the following thoughts. How old are you? Do you need to get a job? Would you receive a big enough settlement to live on your own? Get a good woman/man attorney, and make sure they don’t know your Bart. Move on to a positive life for yourself, and children. You can give him another chance—if your nuts. Gayle
By Gayle Turner on 04/10/2008 2:52 pm
Lorraine Bates
It’s hard to know, because comments don’t indent, if you’re asking me, or someone else. I’ll guess it’s me and answer for you. I’m 41. I’ve been married for 18 years. I have a job. In fact, I’m the breadwinner, he’s the stay at home parent. It’s more likely I’d be coming in late, not him. I would be paying HIM if we got divorced. Alimony works both ways, ladies. Gail, what next chance are you talking about? Do we know that he needs a s econd chance with the information we have? I think jumping right to the conclusion that he was with another woman (or man, for that matter) shows YOUR insecurity.
By Lorraine Bates on 04/11/2008 3:13 pm
Amelie Poulain
Why in the world does this guy deserve to SLEEP knowing full well that I would not lose consciousness for even a single second until I spoke about it? I would have gotten right into it. ” The combed hair and clean shirt I could have rationalized by thinking you changed at the office to take important new clients out to dinner. But do you think I am an idiot to not notice that your SHORTS are on backwards? Do you think I am stupid enough to think that you did that by mistake in the MORNING and then didn’t visit the urinal once all day to even notice? What are you trying to TELL me darling? That I should see a divorce lawyer in the morning or that you really don’t mind if I take a run at my new tennis coach!
By Amelie Poulain on 04/10/2008 2:57 pm
Terri Vinck
The shame of it all is no matter how you react, if you forgive, or if you confront. You will never trust him again. It’s nothing to do with money, Mr. Klein, it’s all about trust. While this sort of thing seems to roll right out of male minds, it affects women so much more. Everytime a movie comes out about infidelity, or some politician confesses his sins, or just about any episode of Dr. Phil, who is the most insincere man on television, you get punched in the gut again. Songs remind you, even television commercials remind you showing men yours never could be. I now believe if there were no expectations of fidelity, no hopes for growing old together or any of the romantic rot this society has foisted upon us, we’d all be better off. Marriage is just a legal contract and these contracts should have renewal dates, say every three years. If you want out, just sign on the dotted line. You’ll screw up your children either way, but at least there will be no more crushed expectations. Bitter? Yes, of course, and I’m still married to the same man. I don’t care what he does anymore. Go, stay, it’s all the same. Maybe it’s a good thing Mr. Klein reads these conversations, maybe he’ll learn how much everyone gets hurt.
By Terri Vinck on 04/10/2008 3:01 pm
Vicki A
My suggestion isn’t part of the poll and I can’t believe it’s not a choice. In the morning you hire a private detective and have the guy followed. You need evidence and since he is an attorney I’m sure she’ll need the “proof”. Why jump to conclusions without the proof. Once you have the proof you can then make the choice as to what to do. Sucks all the way around though if you lose the trust in the relationship and if he is cheating.
By Vicki A on 04/10/2008 3:20 pm