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A Friend Stopped By | 08/05/2008 12:15 pm

Leaving the Working World? Look Out For PISS: Post-Institutional Stress Syndrome, by Elisabeth Coleman

By Elisabeth Coleman

Editor’s Note: Elisabeth Coleman is a New York-based writer who has been published in The New York Times Sunday Magazine, Columbia Journalism Review, Shambhala Sun and other places. She was a correspondent for Newsweek magazine and ABC News and Press Secretary to California Governor Jerry Brown, after which she started her own PR and production company. Elisabeth was Vice President for International Communications for a global Fortune 500 company. She is writing a memoir.

A few years ago, I left what many would consider a glamorous job as vice president of international communications at a global financial services company. It was a demanding, high-pressure, sleep-depriving job and I had done it for well over a decade. I had flown and worked all over the world, and lived in Hong Kong for two years where I supervised a group of 30 communications people in Asia-Pacific.

Tough work, but the issues were interesting and my colleagues were clever and often fun. I enjoyed the cachet and the visibility that came with the job: I flew on the corporate jet to the Sydney Olympics with one CEO and to Argentina with another. I climbed Machu Picchu in Peru with the Chairman and publicized many high-profile deals with leading international banks.

Before that, I was a correspondent for Newsweek and ABC News. I was California Governor Jerry Brown’s press secretary and also ran a small production business. I spent two years as a freelance magazine writer living on a farm in upstate New York with my novelist (now-ex) husband.

But when the company told me it was time to wrap it up, I was actually relieved. I had been there long enough. I had survived 9/11 — my office was right across from Ground Zero — and it had taken its toll on me. I wanted to tackle some personal projects while I was still young enough to do so.

I did my homework on what next to look out for. The literature told me to: have a good financial plan (I did); have a positive outlook (did); exercise (did); and eat right (didn’t). I was to get a new hobby (aaargh) and become a volunteer (right, later).

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DianaT
I don’t think there is anything you can do to prepare yourself for the transition that occurs after the work and being on your own for the first time. It takes time, and while retirement can be great for a woman, it also creates the problem of how to fill up those hours. I guess it’s the same feeling as being in a race car, and coming to a sudden stop. The adrenaline rush has to be redirected. Interesting about what you have to say about the sleep thing, Elisabeth. I have the same problem, and for the first time in my life, I have turned into a night owl. The most important thing I learned was to stay in the moment, and not worry about the change.
By DianaT on 08/05/2008 11:33 am
YadaYada
By YadaYada on 08/06/2008 11:16 pm
DianaT
I forgot to give you best wished on your recovery. After what you have gone through, time has become so very precious. Best wishes and stay well and safe.
By DianaT on 08/05/2008 11:35 am
Dabado
Ms. Coleman: “I waited many years to have time for this life and now I have it” is what I feel about my life right now. I was surprised, as I read about your retirement, how mine seems to be starting very similar. Sleeping long hours and staying awake longer, not rising early. Also, some illness issues. I’m trying, as Diana recommended, to stay in the moment and not worry about the change. Thank you for sharing with us.
By Dabado on 08/05/2008 12:32 pm
JamestheGame
I’ve always been Middle Class (or lower), so I wouldn’t know how to relate to what she’s going through. But I have a karate friend who retired last winter, and I’m seeing a lot of the same symptoms that this woman related: restlessness, depression, change in sleep pattern, looking a lot sloppier than before. I believe people need to have goals and a game-plan when they retire.
By JamestheGame on 08/06/2008 2:49 am
YadaYada
Dear James, It’s interesting to hear about your friend. Yes, I found at the time that everyone I spoke with who was going through similar job changes experienced some of my PISS symptoms. especially sleep. Perhaps you should keep an eye on him/her… the symptoms you observe do sound like classic signs of depression (although I’m not a doctor!); the change could have kicked off something more serious than jus a need to adjust to a new lifestyle. Thanks for writing to share your thoughts. Best wishes, Elisabeth Coleman
By YadaYada on 08/06/2008 11:36 pm
JamestheGame
Thanks, Elisabeth. Incidentally, I was a writer myself for about 20 years, although in news/sports/business. Cheers, James “the Game”
By JamestheGame on 08/06/2008 11:46 pm
YadaYada
Dear Dabney, thanks so much for sharing your thoughts. I agree with you and Diana entirely, and as i told her, the “sleeping thing” was what I heard about constantly from friends/colleagues who went through similar changes. As to the illnesses, do you think they were lurking, able to emerge only when you had time to entertain them? or do you think they just came out when they were supposed to come naturally? it’s an interesting question, i think. Warmest wishes, Elisabeth
By YadaYada on 08/06/2008 11:23 pm
Dabado
Dear Elisabeth, your statement that it was possibly not PISSS but “I had the AI disease for years; it had masqueraded as other conditions. ” I think that to be true. My last day at work, I had stopped my medication for neuropathy because of the high co-pay ( had only missed 2 doses) and I didn’t think it was working because I still had pain. But within a couple of hours of sitting at the computer I was in so much pain I cried for the rest of the afternoon. I didn’t have any medication with me and by the time I got home I decided that I had worked for the last 5 years in different degrees of pain and that I was not going to do it any longer. I told the manager that I would be retiring when my PTO time was over. I think that my illness had been there, just not diagnosed correctly and I had worked on because I thought I had no other option. Thank goodness I had decided years ago to aim for retirement at 60. So,yes, I think it was lurking there. It seems you have some resolution to your health problems and I send my best wishes for your continued improvement with your health.
By Dabado on 08/07/2008 1:04 am
YadaYada
Dabney, I’m new to this system and there is a reply for you slightly further down the page. I don’t know how that happened! Best, Elisabeth
By YadaYada on 08/07/2008 12:02 am
DianaT
Dabney, One book and matching CD is Eckhart Tolle’s The Power of Now. I try to listen to about 15—25 minutes at a time in meditation so that I can focus upon his words, and I really think about what he is telling us, and it really helps. I was telling Joan Larsen this morning that one of the women that has helped me so much over the years is Sarah Ban Breathnach’s wonderful perennial book called Simple Abundance. There is something about these two writers and thinkers that connected with me and has helped me so much to center myself and think about The Eternal Now.
By DianaT on 08/07/2008 1:00 am
Dabado
Thanks, Diana. I have not thought of CD’s but that might work for me now. I have always loved reading and saved my driving time for listening to my favorite music. But now as I do some things at home that I have put off for a while (like painting my deck, lol, I like to paint for some strange reason), I can listen to CD’s. Excellent advice.
By Dabado on 08/07/2008 1:35 am
DianaT
I just finished the porch painting. Always something playing on the bose. I was helped so much this past winter when I became depressed, and dug out those Tolle CD’s about staying in the moment. I would sit in my meditation position and really listen to what he was saying until I started getting my mind cleared, and then they went in the car with me where ever I went. Every time I hear them, I hear him say something I never noticed before. i guess we take in what we need at the moment.
By DianaT on 08/07/2008 1:48 am
BethWillis
I have been looking for you, Lily Of The Valley. I wanted to thank you again for my stunning avatar. You are a gracious and generous pilgrim upon this journey together. Peace and grace
By BethWillis on 08/06/2008 7:20 am
YadaYada
Lily of the Valley, my health is greatly improved— it sounds so much worse when lumped together and set out in writing— and it will continue to, thanks to the support of people like you. I love your moniker— especially since it is my birthflower. Warmly, Elisabeth
By YadaYada on 08/06/2008 11:59 pm