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Question of the Day | 06/12/2008 12:00 am

What advice do you have for Michelle Obama?

© AP
Joan Ganz Cooney

Joan Ganz Cooney | 06/12/2008 12:00 am

Joan Cooney: Forget Your Opinions, Mrs. Obama

Michelle Obama should talk only about how the country needs her husband’s leadership to bring about change and about family life, both in a very benign noncontroversial way. And forget, FORGET, that she has any opinions of her own.
Julia Reed

Julia Reed | 06/12/2008 12:00 am

Julia Reed: Michelle, This Isn't About You

Be gracious. Try to remember this is not really about you.
Mary Wells

Mary Wells | 06/12/2008 12:00 am

Mary Wells: Mrs. McCain Is Pretty but Michelle Obama Is Glorious

I think Michelle is gloriously 2008 and shouldn’t change. Pretty Mrs. McCain stands still on the side, slightly behind, like so many of the women.
In America’s history, wives of heads of corporations as well as wives of presidents – they barely breathe, they smile demure smiles, we are not supposed to focus on them, but we all register: nice ladies. Mrs. McCain must be cute to know – he had a wide choice. But when a woman is as still as she is you get an idea that he is the general and she marches to his tune.

Hillary’s face is active and expressive and can be dramatic and she has learned a new smile that is big and lovely and somebody new is doing her makeup this year — good for her!!! But Hillary moves like a girls’ basketball coach — back and forth, from an older era. Michelle moves from head to toe, she moves her slim athletic body as if she could jam with the best of them, clicking her fingers. The two of them, Barack and Michelle, use a podium or speech area differently than other political couples.

They move around each other, like a dance routine, and they relate to each other and even touch each other, groovy, feeling free. She makes me feel good. She isn’t scared. She has opinions. He cares about them. They have a dancing marriage that has spirit. Other good marriages in the White House, no matter how glamorous, have been still and typical of the puritanical American past. Some of the male presidents have had secret or not-so-secret affairs. But there was no happy heat that we could see – no strong communication that was obvious to us between the president and his wife. The Obamas look and act like change, like 2008, like good times. I don’t want to lose any of that.

Liz Smith

Liz Smith | 06/12/2008 12:00 am

Liz Smith Wants Michelle Obama to Just Be Adorable

Feminists will put a contract out on me and I NEVER thought I’d say this but it would be relaxing if she acted like being First Lady in the traditional sense was the first order of business. Devote herself to the arts or something like that. But stay out of politics, religion, and not offer the strong-minded opinions that have gotten her and him in so much trouble. And double on abandoning any evidence of taking revenge on anybody. Just be Mrs. Obama for THE NEXT FOUR YEARS. I have always wanted First Ladies to be so much more than they ever are, but in her case, I just want her to be adorable.

 

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Brooklyn Gal
Bonnie, I also commented as you did on the Tomato post. It’s quite confusing, the comments do not register under the general comments, and it is time consuming to go through each and every one. Webmaster, please take note.
By Brooklyn Gal on 06/12/2008 8:52 pm
Bonnie Oliver
Yes, Carol - your comment is the one that brought the fact to my attention. It really should be corrected by wowowow.
By Bonnie Oliver on 06/12/2008 10:28 pm
To the beach ~~~
I noticed that too so thanks for mentioning and I’ll just add my voice…think must be some kind of mistake as it is very convoluted, frustrating and won’t win fans to the site.
By To the beach ~~~ on 06/13/2008 12:32 am
Deni G
Bonnie~

well crap.

thanks for the heads up.

Founderettes!!

we need a

‘new posts since your last visit’

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By Deni G on 06/12/2008 11:46 pm
Chef Zee
I absolutely agree - one thread. This has become so confusing. Yesterday, I posted a comment in three different places thinking each time I must have replied erroneously the previous post. Besides, I like seeing the founders’ comments all lined up in one place, it feels more like a conversation.
By Chef Zee on 06/13/2008 3:58 pm
Suzanne O
Michelle, you are an intellgent woman stand up for what you believe in and don’t be caught off guard by the press. Be true to yourself and you will shine. Off the subject, but someone brought up the Iraq war….. Barack was not in the senate at the time of the vote to go to war with Iraq. It came up often that Hillary voted FOR the war, but so did most of the other senators. They were all misled by the Bush administration. Don’t blame Hillary for the war, she didn’t start it. While we are on the subject of the war, don’t be misled into thinking that Barack is going to bring ALL the troops home, he couldn’t if he wanted to. He may bring some of the troops home but we will probably occupy Iraq for years and years. Millions of dollars have been spent to build bases there. Iraq will probably be like Korea, do you know people are deployed there for at least a year at a time?
By Suzanne O on 06/12/2008 8:08 pm
IAM Woman
I really can’t give her advise. I always measure a woman by determining if she could be a confidante, a best friend, a co-worker, a sister. For some reason, I cannot find any of these qualities in Michelle Obama. When I see her, I do not see someone I trust.
By IAM Woman on 06/12/2008 8:59 pm
Deni G
Keep on doing exactly what you are doing!
By Deni G on 06/12/2008 11:49 pm
Bonnie D-Z
If Michelle Obama normally dresses like Jacqueline Kennedy, that’s fine. If the Obama campaign is transforming her into someone she’s not, that’s phony. We want to know the real Michelle, whatever her personal style. (She looks attractive in dresses and pearls in any case.) Why this fascination with the Kennedys?
By Bonnie D-Z on 06/13/2008 12:15 am
To the beach ~~~
Why the Right’s fascination with Reagan?
By To the beach ~~~ on 06/13/2008 12:35 am
Bonnie D-Z
Exactly my point. If Senators Obama and McCain, respectively, were comfortable in their own suits, they wouldn’t need the “Kennedy”, “Reagan”, or other mystique to win votes. Enough already. It’s time for this country to move on.
By Bonnie D-Z on 06/13/2008 2:05 pm
Salome Rowe
Michelle Obama has what it takes to be a great First Lady. Hello, Ladies. It is an honor to be among such fabulous minds!! It is my opinion that Mrs. Michelle Obama should strive to remain true to herself in the sense that she keeps her good intentions in line with what her words and actions display. The position as First Lady carries the huge responsibility of being a good example. Mrs. Obama is, relatively, young, but she appears to be a wise, careful, and pure hearted woman. The question of what she should do reminds me of what a co-worker repeatedly said to me as we brushed shoulders in the hallways of a local government building. “Salome, do not let these people change who you are,” she said to me often. This does not mean that the accelerated access to people, places, and things, extensive travel, decision-making, information retrieval and dissemination, affiliations, and experiences will not add to Michelle Obama’s mental, emotional, social and psychological development. However, the fresh, solid person who loves her family and who has made it to the point where she is without becoming overly judgmental or insensitive is the one who should leave the Whitehouse and the world a better place after her husband’s two terms as president have expired. With all of that in mind, it seems that Mrs. Obama’s being exposed to so much local, national, and worldly realities that will include issues such as death to an extent that she has probably only heard of, epidemic poverty beyond her wildest dreams, and to resolute envy, will cause her to have to put into play some positive and necessary defense mechanisms in order to protect her self-image. It seems that her task will be to find a nice balance between elegance and grace in the face of good and bad that ranges from both extremes of life’s various spectrums without becoming overly apathetic or needlessly fearful. It seems that Mrs. Obama will have to stay focused on being a concertedly accessible and surrendering mother to her daughters’ so that they will be able to develop strong senses of familiarity with their mother’s nurturing priorities. It seems that Mrs. Obama will need a strong support system filled with family and friends who can stand in as surrogates (grandmothers, mothers, aunts, and uncles) when she is required to work beside her husband in order to help build a new face on the government that mirrors concern about the poorest and exultation for those who have worked hard to achieve vast successes. As an individual who makes assessments by considering expressions, statements, and deeds, as well as intuition, it is my opinion that America has gotten on a path that could lead to something that lifts spirits, hopes, and positive energies, a cycle that looks back only to learn how to make going forward worth all of its honorable and striking efforts. It appears that Presumptive President Barack Obama is a humble man, that he believes that there is no paternalistic role that this government should play. He seems to believe that the success of our nation depends on everyone getting involved by taking personal responsibility for his or her behaviors, their interactions with each other, and their duties to answer the calls to help govern our country. Consequently, Mrs. Obama seems to, also, have a humble, but proud determination that will be just as useful when her husband simply needs a wife, not a first lady. Finally, just as many other Americans believe, for the first time in their lives, it seems that America does understand that all human beings deserve the opportunities to matter. Mrs. Obama seems to be one who knows that she is fallible, but, just as importantly, it seems that she has the grace to apologize, learn from her mishaps, and take each step a little bit higher. It is the same advice that we all could take to heart and from which we could, collectively, and individually, profit.
By Salome Rowe on 06/13/2008 12:53 am
To the beach ~~~
Loved your post Salome! My son is an EU citizen. Everyone is so excited there about the Obamas. He’s had co-workers, his real estate agent and strangers ask, “Where can I send a donation?’ A US author at Oxford and touring Europe said “Obama could win in a landslide here.” Here’s his piece stating that an Obama presidency is the best thing America could do to repair its poor image in the world as a result of the past 8 years: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/joseph-nye/barack-obama-and-soft-pow_b_106…
By To the beach ~~~ on 06/13/2008 2:10 pm
mitzi morris
Obama should be told by Michelle to stop backslapping her ass/backside as he’s done in past and most recently in Michican. Not only insulting to women but in lousy public taste & not reflective of Presidential manners. Bush does this to Laura. This implies we ladies are men’s property. At the least it’s bad taste in public. I don’t tolerate it, and Jackie,Eleanor,Bess, Barbara,and many others did not tolerate it. Michelle being made over as Jackie is obnoxious. She should be made into more of herself with more tolerance for all people not just blacks, and a show of really good manners which she hasn’t shown Hillary Clinton when being interviewed by Deborah Roberts on the Today Show. She was brittle, and mean spirited. Shopping at Barney’s is not going to authenticate or make her responsible for her opinions and issues which she should be addressing. Making her [absurd] into a Jackie O is unthinkable, as she has NOTHING in common with Jacke O. In other words, Michelle’s goal is to force fake being an aristocrat, speak 4 languages fluently, being a style icon in fashion,decor,entertaining,diplomacy,tact,finishing school manners,antiques, and outstanding grace and breeding that represented the best of the schools that Michelle could never get into. This is a corner of society few enter. So this is what Michelle really wants or wants to be presented as?? PATHETIC. Where’s the beef?
By mitzi morris on 06/18/2008 6:50 pm