Intelligence makes a man sexy. Like Tom Bergeron. He’s got a quick mind. He’s warm, and charming. And, to me, he’s the sexiest man on television. He’ll be even sexier if he wins an Emmy on Sunday, but that’s just icing on the cake.

Confidence, competence, and intelligence makes the mature man sexy. Also, I like a man who understands the importance of good grooming. Most of all, I find older men more sexy because they are more laid back and are better listeners. As for ‘good looks’, I don’t think of Brad Pitt or Leo DiCaprio as sexy. However, I’m attracted to the ‘rugged’ look of Tommy Lee Jones. That said, I’ve not met or seen anyone (famous) who was more sexy looking than my ex.

A good witty comment at the right moment with a little sexy innuendo is always fun. Ability to laugh at themselves. Trying to stay fit for you. Intelligence and the willingness to learn. I like when they can build things. Artistic. Beautiful arms and thighs. Saving a funny story for you to tell you when they get home, and can’t wait to tell it to you. My husband is good looking enough, but I wouldn’t say he was my type. He chased me for a long time before I gave my heart. That was sexy.

Do we actually even want to think twice about men - celebrities or not - who think they are God’s gift to women? Are we that hard up? (don’t answer that!!!) But somewhere around 50 - not usually younger - something pretty wonderful happens: we suddenly notice that men have crossed a great divide. Or at least the ones I have been attracted to have. Before, well — they have been pretty interested in themselves, haven’t they? Sure, there have been plenty of exceptions . . . men that somehow KNEW that they were some of the few lucky ones who had married a princess the first time around and treated her as such. But for those women who have had to dream on, don’t ever give up. For as we become more confident in ourselves with age, men seem to look at us in a new way. They in turn don’t act so much like kids with one thing on their minds (two, if you include sports!!) The best of them have grown up now. They have grown into their mature selves — and begin to look great in that adult way that is so appealing. The best of them augment the look of 50-ish with better taste in clothes - or so it seems to me. But once they step over the divide, they realize what we women knew all along: we are intelligent, can hold our own in conversations, are fun and cuddly (sometimes at the same time), and we have never STOPPED taking care of ourselves so we look pretty good. Men, I think, as they get a bit older become more vulnerable, more confiding, begin to show they care in any number of ways invisible for the last 30 years, and hey! don’t WE begin to become more attracted to all these new facets of “him” that have opened up? This man is “sexy” in our eyes as he never had been before. . . and for some of us, there is a magnetism we haven’t felt since those early years of marriage. I think perhaps the key phrase is that we notice “he really cares” . . . and that is pretty irresistable. And then we find that we care in that deeper way that we hadn’t felt before. We really talk, we say sweet nothings and mean them with this stronger, deeper love that happens on the other side of 50. We are alive again. . and it feels wonderful!