Question of the Day | 09/10/2008 12:00 am
Can sex get better in a long-term relationship? (Tell us everything.)

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Reality dictates that the “honeymoon stage” takes a back seat, to the next level, which is a more deeper and bonded love…Therefore, A couple must never lose the freshness of the first time, in order to maintain a pleasurable intimacy
Sex can get better if the relationship is authentic, genuine, and takes priority.
The relationship comes first.
I think—-see the ever enduring popularity of prostitutes, porn, strip clubs, lap dances, office trysts, swap clubs, Craigslist ads by married men looking for mistresses, ‘Family Values” congressmen getting caught with their moon in someone else’s house, etc…..and draw your own conclusions.
I see the new ads here for Americans for the Arts.
Arts, music, physical education, liberal arts have all been cut by the GOP who’ve instituted rote testing..and this is by design. All of those things are good for the soul and create well rounded free thinkers. Can’t have that. Republicans fall in line and they want others to take orders too.
Bush’s annual budget for the Natl Endowment of the Arts?
The administration proposed a cut of $16.3 million — to $128.4 million from $144.7 million.
Robert L. Lynch, president and chief executive of Americans for the Arts, called the cuts “senseless” and asked Congress to restore the National Endowment for the Arts to its 1992 financing level of $176 million.
The administration also refused, as they have for 8 years, to finance arts education programs.
-But we can be lied into an illegal, immoral invasion and occupation that will cost us $3 trillion.
-We can buy 132 new stealth bombers for $68.1 billion.
-Bush can spend $24M on a second swearing in and attendant parties. -
-They can hand hundreds of billions in no bid contracts to line the pockets of oilmen pals.
-And spend $72M to investigate Clinton’s BJ.
But thank goodness Bush cut costs somewhere. He fought like hell not to fund the investigation of 911 he proposed only $3M for the entire investigation of two attacked cities, loss of 3,000 lives and US iconic buildings.
-ONE 4500-pound GBU-37 bunker-buster bomb cost $250,000.
Of course, that’s the sticker price…once the GOP gets done with their cost plus pricing etc it’s probably $500,000
And so effective too. Their “Mission Accomplished” phony war has now gone on longer than WWII AND the military leaders are cut out of the planning and discussion.
The whole world said it would be exactly what has happened. Why aren’t the NeoCons at The Hague? Why are people so stupid to vote for more of the same?
Bob Woodward on his new book War Within…about Bush cutting out the military planners in his ‘decision’ making re Iraq. Because he [AWOL from duty. Even with Doonsbury offer of $10K for ANYONE who would come forth and say they served with Bush—no takers] and Cheney [5 deferments] are just so brilliant.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vU-aJSs_RBc
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xf3KTpHlmE0
Suzanne, sounds like you could use more sex!
And speaking of sex, Bill Clinton paid almost 1 million dollars in fines for sexually assaulting Paula Jones. That was the reason for the investigation. Two other women gave sworn testimony that Bill Clinton violently assaulted them against their will - Kathleen Wiley, and Juanita Broderick.
President Gerald Ford, stated his belief that Bill Clinton was a sex addict:
“Ford said, for example, that when asked about Clinton in public, he would only say that he voted for former Sen. Robert Dole to be the president. But to DeFrank, he said, “Clinton’s got a sex sickness. I mean that.” Later on, he said, “he’s so sick he gets away with it.”
http://www.swamppolitics.com/news/politics/blog/2007/10/ford_on_sexaddic…
Also, George Bush’s National Guard roommate, and fellow pilot, has been interviewed many times.
Really, Suzanne, if you were having more sex, you’d feel so much better - or at least your fixation on George Bush might not upset you so much.
Bella, It’s so neat about that Super-Xray Republican Vision of yours that enables you to see into my bedroom and know what I am or not doing. I recall you’re going for “100 nights in a row” [TMI] and how great it is for your skin etc.
I’m known for having great skin too..but not for revealing anything about my sexlife. Does that Suer-Xray Republican Vision allow you to see into other strangers bedrooms—or just mine.
As far as Bill Clinton’s sexcapades….he didn’t mass slaughter 1 million innocent Iraqis and waste $3T dollars and lie us into an illegal war…etc etc etc. And he wasn’t choosen in an MSNBC Poll as the most evil person in the world….polling worst than Saddam, Osama bin Forgotten, King Jong II, the Prez of Iran, and Satan, that would be Prez drunken/coke head. In fact in the height of the Starr Investigation Clinton’s approval ratings were higher than Bush’s have been in the last 5 years.
And perhaps one friend of Bushes could be dredged up to claim he was at the base…but the fact is no one else could find anyone else to say so…now even when offering a $10K reward. http://www.awolbush.com/
And after the Associated Press filed a slew of FOIA requests and lawsuits to obtain Bush’s ”military records” this was their findings:
Upon being accepted for pilot training, Bush promised to serve with his parent (Texas) Guard unit for five years once he completed his pilot training. But Bush served as a pilot with his parent unit for just two years.
In May 1972 Bush left the Houston Guard base for Alabama. According to Air Force regulations, Bush was supposed to obtain prior authorization before leaving Texas to join a new Guard unit in Alabama. Bush failed to get the authorization.
In requesting a permanent transfer to a nonflying unit in Alabama in 1972, Bush was supposed to sign an acknowledgment that he received relocation counseling. But no such document exists.
He was supposed to receive a certification of satisfactory participation from his unit. But Bush did not.
He was supposed to sign and give a letter of resignation to his Texas unit commander. But Bush did not.
He was supposed to receive discharge orders from the Texas Air National Guard adjutant general. But Bush did not.
He was supposed to receive new assignment orders for the Air Force Reserves. But Bush did not.
On his transfer request Bush was asked to list his “permanent address.” But he wrote down a post office box number for the campaign he was working for on a temporary basis.
On his transfer request Bush was asked to list his Air Force specialty code. But Bush, an F-102 pilot, erroneously wrote the code for an F-89 or F-94 pilot. Both planes had been retired from service at the time. Bush, an officer, made this mistake more than once on the same form.
On May 26, 1972, Lt. Col. Reese Bricken, commander of the 9921st Air Reserve Squadron at Maxwell Air Force Base in Alabama, informed Bush that a transfer to his nonflying unit would be unsuitable for a fully trained pilot such as he was, and that Bush would not be able to fulfill any of his remaining two years of flight obligation. But Bush pressed on with his transfer request nonetheless.
Bush’s transfer request to the 9921st was eventually denied by the Air Reserve Personnel Center in Denver, which meant he was still obligated to attend training sessions one weekend a month with his Texas unit in Houston. But Bush failed to attend weekend drills in May, June, July, August and September. He also failed to request permission to make up those days at the time.
According to Air Force regulations, “[a] member whose attendance record is poor must be closely monitored. When the unexcused absences reach one less than the maximum permitted [sic] he must be counseled and a record made of the counseling. If the member is unavailable he must be advised by personal letter.” But there is no record that Bush ever received such counseling, despite the fact that he missed drills for months on end.
Bush’s unit was obligated to report in writing to the Personnel Center at Randolph Air Force Base whenever a monthly review of records showed unsatisfactory participation for an officer. But his unit never reported Bush’s absenteeism to Randolph Air Force Base.
In July 1972 Bush failed to take a mandatory Guard physical exam, which is a serious offense for a Guard pilot. The move should have prompted the formation of a Flying Evaluation Board to investigation the circumstances surrounding Bush’s failure. But no such FEB was convened.
Once Bush was grounded for failing to take a physical, his commanders could have filed a report on why the suspension should be lifted. But Bush’s commanders made no such request.
On Sept. 15, 1972, Bush was ordered to report to Lt. Col. William Turnipseed, the deputy commander of the 187th Tactical Reconnaissance Group in Montgomery, Ala., to participate in training on the weekends of Oct. 7-8 and Nov. 4-5, 1972.
But there’s no evidence Bush ever showed up on those dates. In 2000, Turnipseed told the Boston Globe that Bush did not report for duty. (A self-professed Bush supporter, Turnipseed has since backed off from his categorical claim.)
However, according to the White House-released pay records, which are unsigned, Bush was credited for serving in Montgomery on Oct. 28-29 and Nov. 11-14, 1972. Those makeup dates should have produced a paper trail, including Bush’s formal request as well as authorization and supervision documents. But no such documents exist, and the dates he was credited for do not match the dates when the Montgomery unit assembled for drills.
When Guardsmen miss monthly drills, or “unit training assemblies” (UTAs), they are allowed to make them up through substitute service and earn crucial points toward their service record. Drills are worth one point on a weekday and two points on each weekend day. For Bush’s substitute service on Nov. 13-14, 1972, he was awarded four points, two for each day.
But Nov. 13 and 14 were both weekdays. He should have been awarded two points.
Bush earned six points for service on Jan. 4-6, 1973 — a Thursday, Friday and Saturday. But he should have earned four points, one each for Thursday and Friday, two for Saturday.
Weekday training was the exception in the Guard. For example, from May 1968 to May 1972, when Bush was in good standing, he was not credited with attending a single weekday UTA. But after 1972, when Bush’s absenteeism accelerated, nearly half of his credited UTAs were for weekdays.
To maintain unit cohesiveness, the parameters for substitute service are tightly controlled; drills must be made up within 15 days immediately before, or 30 days immediately after, the originally scheduled drill, according to Guard regulations at the time.
But more than half of the substitute service credits Bush received fell outside that clear time frame. In one case, he made up a drill nine weeks in advance.
On Sept. 29, 1972, Bush was formally grounded for failing to take a flight physical. The letter, written by Maj. Gen. Francis Greenlief, chief of the National Guard Bureau, ordered Bush to acknowledge in writing that he had received word of his grounding.
But no such written acknowledgment exists. In 2000, Bush spokesman Dan Bartlett told the Boston Globe that Bush couldn’t remember if he’d ever been grounded.
Bartlett also told the Boston Globe that Bush didn’t undergo a physical while in Alabama because his family doctor was in Houston.
But only Air Force flight surgeons can give flight physicals to pilots.
Guard members are required to take a physical exam every 12 months. But Bush’s last Guard physical was in May 1971. Bush was formally discharged from the service in November 1974, which means he went without a required physical for 42 months.
Bush’s unsatisfactory participation in the fall of 1972 should have prompted the Texas Air National Guard to write to his local draft board and inform the board that Bush had become eligible for the draft. Guard units across the country contacted draft boards every Sept. 15 to update them on the status of local Guard members. Bush’s absenteeism should have prompted what’s known as a DD Form 44, “Record of Military Status of Registrant.” But there is no record of any such document having been sent to Bush’s draft board in Houston.
Records released by the White House note that Bush received a military dental exam in Alabama on Jan. 6, 1973.
But Bush’s request to serve in Alabama covered only September, October and November 1972. Why he would still be serving in Alabama months after that remains unclear.
Each of Bush’s numerous substitute service requests should have formed a lengthy paper trail consisting of AF Form 40a’s, with the name of the officer who authorized the training in advance, the signature of the officer who supervised the training and Bush’s own signature. But no such documents exist.
During his last year with the Texas Air National Guard, Bush missed nearly two-thirds of his mandatory UTAs and made up some of them with substitute service. Guard regulations allowed substitute service only in circumstances that are “beyond the control” of the Guard member. But neither Bush nor the Texas Air National Guard has ever explained what the uncontrollable circumstances were that forced him to miss the majority of his assigned drills in his last year.
Bush supposedly returned to his Houston unit in April 1973 and served two days. But at the end of April, when Bush’s Texas commanders had to rate him for their annual report, they wrote that they could not do so: “Lt. Bush has not been observed at this unit during the period of this report.”
On June 29, 1973, the Air Reserve Personnel Center in Denver instructed Bush’s commanders to get additional information from his Alabama unit, where he had supposedly been training, in order to better evaluate Bush’s duty. The ARPC gave Texas a deadline of Aug. 6 to get the information. But Bush’s commanders ignored the request.
Bush was credited for attending four days of UTAs with his Texas unit July 16-19, 1973. That was good for eight crucial points.
But that’s not possible. Guard units hold only two UTAs each month — one on a Saturday and one on a Sunday. Although Bush may well have made up four days, they should not all have been counted as UTAs, since they occur just twice a month. The other days are known as “Appropriate Duty,” or APDY.
On July 30, 1973, Bush, preparing to attend Harvard Business School, signed a statement acknowledging it was his responsibility to find another unit in which to serve out the remaining nine months of his commitment. But Bush never contacted another unit in Massachusetts in which to fulfill his obligation.
He then went on to cut all kinds of benefits for enlisted and Vets, created a backdoor draft with all the rotations, sent kids off to a war he lied us into without armored vehicles, or even water in the desert.
And then has the total lack of class or humanity to joke about no WMD in Iraq to enter their phony war that has killed over 4,150 troops.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YjXPOxnu2N8
“George Bush might not upset you so much.”
I not supercilious enough, or apathetic enough, nor ignorant of facts enough to ignore a lying fraud who should be in The Hague instead of in the WH for all the death, destruction, misery and loss he has frivously wrought in the world for lies.
When was his Mission Accomplished after illegally invading a country smaller than California with 2/3rds its pop? May 2003. So the most powerful, technologically advanced military in the history of the world has been at this for 5 years.
Our involvement in WWI that involved all the major powers of the world, most of the nations and 100 million military people in operations all over the world took less time.
And where was flyboy when our cities were being attacked…reading My Pet Goat. And during Katrina…playing air guitar and eating b-day cake.
And, Democrats since FDR have always had better performing economies, stronger growth, more jobs…the Republican myth is just that.
http://tlrii.typepad.com/theliscioreport/2008/07/presidential-ec.html
Gosh darn it, Bella, why didn’t you tell us this sooner? I’ve spent eight years getting upset over George Bush among others and now you tell me if I had had more sex all this upsettingness would have been lessened? Well, tonight is the night–––I’m getting that frilly thing out of my bottom drawer and getting prepared–––does this work for McCain/Palin too? Because that’s been on my mind a lot!

Yep—I’d say that’s a duh! query if I ever saw one—of course it can and does—takes a lot of relationship work and then lot and lots and lots of practice. lol Oh yes!
Frank . . . knowing you, it must have been late when you wrote. “Takes a lot of relationship work”? Should it have been “… lots of relationship PLAY??? That sounds more like the Frank I know.

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