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babette, tell your boss to loosen up!
i have a boss who is moody, but since those are MY moods, they usually work. i never get too hungry before declaring it’s time to cook a meal. occasionally my boss falls asleep during charley rose, but oh well. when the clean clothes run out, it’s time to do the laundry. there are times, like today, when i tell my boss the shopping can wait while i go online. but my empty fridge will motivate me eventually.
Where I work, supervisors have a different schedule than we peons do, so they work with everyone & don’t get attached to the crew on any one shift.
Only one really knows what we’re doing, one thinks he knows everything (but is completely delusional), & the other three couldn’t be pried out of their office with dynamite (they’re supposed to make regular tours throughout the different buildings around the plant).
Fortunately, I work night shift, so I don’t have to put up with the supervisor’s boss, who is knowledgable, but overwhelmingly arrogant & sexist.
I only have thirteen months before I’m eligable fro retirement.
In my early years of marriage, my spouse called me “boss” since he said I was the one he was working for. Now that he retired last year… it is up for debate.
Like many of you, I do work for myself. So calling myself boss is an oxymoron.
My boss is great. He’s young, enthusiastic, very creative and secure enough to have me do my thing. We complement each other very well. I hope my team thinks I’m a great boss. They often tell me I’m the best boss they’ve ever had. Not to be conceited…the only thing I do is listen well, let people work toward the outcome without telling them how to get there, collaborate when they need help. We have a ball.
I am retired now, however my last boss was a sociopathic monster. She was an overbearing liar, a micro-managing control freak, and became a different person when her boss, who worked in another state, was in town. The minute he walked out the door she reverted to her “real” self. She made a job I loved miserable and I dreaded going to work every day. I began working at age 15, and this last job was the worst of my working life. While her boss was out of the country, she concocted bizarre lies about me and then fired me. I saw a counselor, because I had never been so attacked in my life. She later was fired and I hope she is still unemployed and living in a cardboard box under an overpass.
I’m a public servant, so everyone is my boss so for everyone I please, about 3 other people are not but you get used ot that
technically, I answer to only one boss and I have to say he’s awesome to work for - I always know what’s expected, where I stand, and, when I have done well he lets me and everyone know, and when I haven’t done well, he only discussed it with me in private - and when I disagree with him, we can argue privately about it and settle things - I treat him the way I’d like to be treated, it’s a great rule to work by
now, I think I am a good boss but who knows? people are not as honest with me as I am with them so it’s hard to know - I treat them the way I would want to be treated in their positions and I was lucky to have been treated well (mostly) when I was in their positions…
I’ve had some really good bosses over the years. I’ve also worked for myself and worked with my husband (who was everyone elses boss lol). My very best boss was a woman i sold advertising for at a television station and there were to many bad bosses to choose the worst one. Probably all of the men who ran the factory i worked for at 21 years old get to share the honor. My most recent boss tried really really hard to be good. She was knowledgable and hard working and cared very much about her staff and clients. She was almost great. But like a lot of us her biggest flaws held her back.
One of the most dynamic personalities to ever live. He’s my original karate instructor, lightning fast hands and personality, will electrify any room. He’s one of a kind. Like Bruce Lee, but much more hyper personality.
My last boss was a sadistic psychopath. He was the “new boss” who appeared twelve years after I had been working happily at the same job. He was threatened by my skills; they were so far superior to his and went after me with a vengeance. He immediately made illegal changes to my job description. I called the corporate human resource person and when she protested, corporate fired her. They had a plan to work me so hard I would get very sick and possibly die. The human resource person sent me the memo stating this. Because it went to litigation I can’t say more. All involved were eventually fired. Three years after I left the boss sent me an anonymous letter at Christmas. It had a veiled death threat. I was so traumatized by this that I cannot remember boss’s name. My health was destroyed and I haven’t been able to work since.
He Won !
You are not destroyed your happiness is not over. Did you send a copy of this threat to your lawyer ?
Eleanor Roosevelt once said:
“A women is like a tea bag
you never know how strong she is
until she’s in hot water”
You were boiling my dear. Your posts are caring and strong, and yes depression can affect you physically most assuredly but taking over this situation by embracing the
final out come that you promoted, should give you the self esteem to carry you through your life and ours for sharing it.
These insecurities this man suffers from are his problem and he well pay all of his Physiologists bills into bankruptcy we hope.
Be mad, be oh so fucking mad but don’t succumb. That was then you have to drop it, don’t bury it… flaunt it for pete sake, you handled it girl.
If anything now is to be done is for you to get a job. Doesn’t matter how big or where pick a place do it. Quit the next day if you want , but go through the process.
Open your cage and let out that Gray parrot, “NO” not you the Gray parrot a native to Africa is considered to be the most intelligent of our winged friends, and I would bet female to boot.
Do it
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