Question of the Day | 04/18/2008 12:00 am

What do men not know about women?

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By stephen rowe on 04/18/2008 1:02 am

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We value being together more than acquiring things.

By Vivia Cox on 04/18/2008 1:06 am

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A conversation with a neighbor’s wife may give some clues about what I know, or don’t know, about women. I said to her I’d spent my entire life — and that means five decades as an adult — studying women. And the more I stuidied them, the more firm became the conclusion that the less I knew. But I added that I had become persuaded that if I ever figured out anything about a woman for an instant, she would change immediately. To which she replied: Now, you are only beginning to learn.

By Dan Hamrick on 04/18/2008 2:04 am

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Dan, Have you ever had a cat? Many women are felines.

By Buh-Bye Hillary Hillary Buh-Bye on 04/18/2008 3:54 am

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And you think that’s a nice way to behave, Suzanne?

By MARK KLEIN, M.D. on 04/18/2008 9:35 am

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MK…see, there you go again..unable to make distinctions. There are alley cats, and there are ones petted and pampered and prized for reasons beyond your comprehension. So ssssssstt. SCAT!!

By Buh-Bye Hillary Hillary Buh-Bye on 04/18/2008 12:08 pm

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Suzanne de. LOL

By Kay Sara on 04/18/2008 1:04 pm

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I have seen MK’s kind of behavior before. He didn’t get enough attention as a kid.

By Kay Sara on 04/18/2008 1:05 pm

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Suzanne de: Yes and if he wants to scratch with the big cats, he better stop mewing like a kitten.

By iris odonata on 04/18/2008 1:42 pm

Suzanne: How right you are! I have not had a cat. But I once worte a column about characteristics of cats. Two cats, one a male and other a female, read it and showed up at my home and with the most pitiful looks required that we take them in. The female had kittens under our patio. This put new meaning into the saying, “I almost had kittens!” In fact, I’ve written about cats partly because of some of those feline traits shared by some women and all cats. But there is a distinction in my own perspective: Although I greatly admire cats, I don’t like them much. So as surely as I go into a home that cats own, they immediately descend on me, crawl up my chest and perch on my shoulders. Women don’t do that! As I indicated, I’ve written at length about cats, and usally with more reaction than any other subject. But it gets down to something that I can sum up: Cats love to eat fish. But they won’t go fishing. Do you know any other animal, including the human species, that behaves like that?

By Dan Hamrick on 04/18/2008 8:46 pm

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Hi Dan, If you have a link to your cat piece(s) would love to read. Actually I never understood or paid much attention to cats until all the sudden watched 3 different cats in a row for dif people, one with a 2nd home in France, another with a 2nd home in Italy…and so left the cats for long periods of time with me…all really beautiful cats and really got very attached to them and admired their natures over time. They’re very smart, observant, can be detached or affectionate, and curious. I’ve always had dogs and also horses and I think cats are a lot more like horses than they are like dogs. There’s a fantastic book “Burning the Days” James Salter and in it a great bit about these feline women who walk across streets crushing men’s hearts beneath their heels. http://www.nytimes.com/books/97/09/07/reviews/970907.07hynest.html Fantastic book and author…love James Salter. Thanks for posting the poems.

By Buh-Bye Hillary Hillary Buh-Bye on 04/19/2008 1:52 am

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As to the romantic side of the relationships between women and me, I’ve loved this poem by Thomas Moore, though I feel that I have overcome the pitfalls implicit in the lines: The Time I’ve Lost in Wooing The time I’ve lost in wooing, In watching and pursuing The light, that lies In woman’s eyes, Has been my heart’s undoing. Though Wisdom oft has sought me, I scorn’d the lore she brought me, My only books Were woman’s looks, And folly’s all they’ve taught me. Her smile when Beauty granted, I hung with gaze enchanted, Like him, the sprite, Whom maids by night Oft meet in glen that’s haunted. Like him, too, Beauty won me, But while her eyes were on me, If once their ray Was turn’d away, Oh! winds could not outrun me. And are those follies going? And is my proud heart growing Too cold or wise For brilliant eyes Again to set it glowing? No, vain, alas! th’ endeavour From bonds so sweet to sever; Poor Wisdom’s chance Against a glance Is now as weak as ever. — Thomas Moore

By Dan Hamrick on 04/18/2008 2:11 am