Hi Ginger — Do men get better with age? This could well be a side thread with interesting results. I happen to agree that MOST of the men I know have gotten far less - what shall I say? - self-centered, “me” people with time. I would say to you at 50 that if you see your husband with new eyes that see the changes in him, hopefully you will see far more as the years go by that will please you. No promises — but just some years of observation. To me, around 50 - maybe a couple of years more - there seems a turn-around, with the woman being more independent and the man slowly bonding in new ways with women - or at least his wife! While women be already blooming - if we are lucky - the men may take a little longer to emerge from their shell fully. But if and when they do, subtle changes take place that often can be very very pleasing. And when you are being pleased in this way, it goes without saying that you feel more like pleasing back. The stages of life are so interesting to see unfold.

Terrific! Mellow yellow–poor Alvy––his glass was always empty but he damned well tried to get his fill.

Thank you for your response. My marriage has definitely gotten better. We have been married now for 11.5 years. I can only hope that it will continue. I hope one day I too will be able to say with pride that I’ve had 50 years of wonderful marriage. Congratulations.