Question of the Day | 04/16/2008 5:11 pm

On Tuesday you told us what you slept in. Today, we want to know: How many people have you slept with?

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Cassie - I was a virgin until I was 23 - and I was very attractive - probably dated 60 people before I got engaged. My husband was a virgin until he was 26 - he said it wasn’t easy. Ironically, the same self-restraint I used before marriage - has been very useful after marriage with regards to extra-marital opportunities - and I have been proposition often - as has my husband. Almost all our friends have followed the same virginity path and have taught it to our children. There are so many advantages, both short and long term. I wish you well.

By Bella Mia on 04/17/2008 10:29 am

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Nah—hang onto it. You’ll know when the time is right.

By Star Lawrence on 04/17/2008 10:52 am

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Dear Cassie, Not very shocking, just refreshing. You are exercising great wisdom. It’s not about the world or the times. It’s about YOU. When I was your age, there was the appearance of sexual freedom (Do it with all the time with anybody); but it was a sham. Personally I thought it was hype and held out for the right guy (not marriage; but no regrets). People talk a big game but they miss one point: Real sexual liberation is about deciding what is right for YOU. You are brave and wise beyond your years. YOU WILL KNOW when the time and the person is the right one. I applaud your decision.

By Margo Porter on 04/17/2008 12:50 pm

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One…..And that was/is enough….. Best part about most of it,,,,,the laughing,,,,and friendship……We will be married fifty years in October…

By BA Scherrman on 04/17/2008 10:18 am

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I love Liz Smith’s answer. That should spur the next question — how many people do you regret NOT sleeping with? For myself, I slept with enough people to feel like I was getting experience and connections, but not so many that I feel like I degraded myself (or them) or wasted my time. And that’s just the right number, as far as I’m concerned! But I stopped keeping count at some point and haven’t been bored enough to go back and try to figure it out exactly.

By Sara C on 04/17/2008 10:33 am

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Sara C—-We lived in a different time now, I believed that was when Rock Hudson died of AIDS, that news shocked the world. This is a very interesting question and a very daring one! The person who asked such a question today has great courage to make a survey of how people, directly coming from the Victorian age into a sexual revolution and practicing an AIDS QUARANTINE AT THE VERY MOMENT! Where do we go from here? I love Liz Smith’s answer also. Being a virgin or not has nothing honorable to be bragged about. It is still very much a personal choice! People are the way they are because of many factors, such as the birth order of the person in the family, what society one lives in, how consevertive the family is, etc. making up the person. That does not necessary mean that at 23 still a virgin( I was a virigin at 23 also) is a saint!—-I am so disappointed that even today a number of them still live in the 19 th century! and fighting the religious wars…..dancewu(dot)net

By GEORGE WU, A.I.A. on 04/17/2008 11:31 am

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I myself only one husband of thirty-seven years the only man I have every slept with RASHIDA HOWARD

By rashida howard on 04/17/2008 10:35 am

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oh yes and it is still good too very very good RASHIDA HOWARD

By rashida howard on 04/17/2008 10:39 am

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When I was a young adult & just “plowing the road” sexually, the thought of doing it as an “older adult’ grossed me out, to be honest. (A woman who’s 55 still ‘does it’? Ewwwwwwwwwwww!) Now that I am 55 & I’m still ‘doing it’, I’m thinking “Cool!” I am greatful for those men out there who appreciate the experience older women have had & that we’re willing to “bring it to the table”.

By Donna H on 04/17/2008 10:43 am

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The table? You’ve still got it, girl!

By Star Lawrence on 04/17/2008 1:18 pm

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This site is starting to look like a bad issue of Cosmo or Glamour. Find a more interesting question. I doubt Mens Health cares how many women its reader have bedded. It is time people quit attempting to shame women over multiple sex partners. Titillate with something else.

By Cham G. on 04/17/2008 10:47 am

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That is precisely why people like Liz Smith Is Liz Smith; and you are you. Who are you? Cham G.? You are not even brave enough to use your real name here. No wonder you have no courage to face the real life! Please do not judge other people! Mind your own business!—- dancewu(dot)net

By GEORGE WU, A.I.A. on 04/17/2008 11:59 am

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Dance with me Georgie……

By Oooh Sabina on 04/17/2008 1:24 pm

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George…Kindly remember that this is a WOMAN’S SITE…and women are FREE to express their thoughts……and don’t need ANY censoring and put downs from you. Cham has every right to say what she wants about the questions…and it is important feedback to those who plan the questions…no other question thus far has been disliked by as many as expressed here.

By Buh-Bye Hillary Hillary Buh-Bye on 04/18/2008 6:04 am

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Cham I totally agree with you and ignore George’s put downs….you are free to express what your think….and he is visiting a WOMAN’s SITE and isn’t here to CENSOR women and should STFU. Like your avatar.. YOU are totally right IMO…I think it is a dumb questions…but c’est la vie….not everything is a home run.

By Buh-Bye Hillary Hillary Buh-Bye on 04/18/2008 6:07 am