That just because its family or your spouse. They will love you no matter what.

The ones I told myself about my ex husband to stay with him as long as I did, but then that was a long time ago. With maturity hopefully comes a state of grace from within for all to see :-)

Where to begin?? The most purvasive societal lies; Be a good girl and all things will come to you - good girls go to Heaven - Pretty is as pretty does - Do good for others and you will be happy —- turn the other cheek—men will take care of things -the best way to a happy life is to get married and have children — —sacrificing will get you loved —and on and on ….

The biggest lie I have ever heard is that being thin will make your life wonderful. when I was thin (from an overactive thyroid) I had a lousy marriage to a jerk. Now I am quite fat and happily married to a caring male to female transexual, who is the kindest person I have ever met.

That my coworker was having a heart attack…she wasn’t - - -just wanted to get out of the office to spend time with her boyfriend…needless to say she is no longer working in this office.

That women could have it all…all the time and driving myself to accomplish “it all.” Looking back now, I know that women can have it all, but not all at once. When I discuss the notion of women having “it all”with my younger colleagues at work, when they are soo stressed in trying to be supermom, superwife, superexecutive simultaneoulsy because they are buying into that “lie”, we talk about focusing on priorities in the here and now and belief that there will be time to accomplish all they want to accomplish. As a VP in my company, a mother of 4 grown successful children, and happily married to my husband for 41 years, I now know that having it all can only happen when you know completely what your true priorities are, either work, marriage or family. Once you really decide the answer to that question, then the other decisions are easy. For me, it was always, my marriage and family first, but I worked in various jobs in medical editing that were scheduled around those priorities, and at 50 when my last child went to college, I became a Vice President of the Editorial Department in my company. This is not to brag but just to share my personal conviction about how truly fabulous we are as women. To all the fabulous women who started this site and all of you who write in every day, here’s to having “it all” one step at a time! Lucille O’Connor

Most of the above, but two hit me right on, “This won’t hurt (doctor to me as a child—setting me up for life), and much of what X told me, too, about money, love for his family, etc. In fact, I was so deeply in denial, even when I divorced him, I insisted to my attorneys, “There is no money elsewhere…he doesn’t lie — I know that, for sure.” It took me 10 years to realize he did, repeatedly.

My mother told me as a child “if you don’t cover your feet at night rats will chew on them.” To this day, I still cover my toes at night, even if it’s 110 in the room. Weird I know!

“I never cheated on Deena and I’ll never cheat on you.”

I was told before I came out to North Carolina from Calif 7 years ago that the guy I was coming to be with would stop smoking and stop drinking as soon as I came out. And that he would take some time cuddle with me.Well,7 years later,he drinks more than ever,is a chain smoker,very sick,(diabetis)and doesn’t seem to care about it. He even got violent towards the end,so I left him last year,with my 7 yr old daughter. This happens to me.I believe what I am told,and in the end always get hurt. It happened again,so now I am alittle leary of trusting men. Gonna take my time now. I am in AA now and learning alot about myself,and learning that I don’t need a man around to make me whole.But it would be nice to have someone to hold once in awhile. Thank you for letting me share. Susie

When some forty odd years ago as a pregnant, unmarried, twenty year old, my mother (who wouldn’t accept the idea of giving up your own child for anything), said to me “All you have to do is love it, it’ll be fine.” Love was not near enough.

That there was a “Reason” for soldiers to be sent to Irag. As a veteran I am embarrased that my country would lead us in that direction without some sense of “real evidence”. But I support the soldier wholeheartedly because they were not given a choice…and were lied to too….now the cause does not equal the sacrifice.

Lamaze eases labour….

that the Kennedys were a happy family