Ah, the fun gets better after you’re 50 or 60. Once you discover your true, authentic self, and learn to love and accept yourself, then how nice it is not to worry too much about how others perceive you. I am not saying to out and hurt someone’s feelings, of course, but I have learned to say what I think, and give the other person possession of their feelings as to what they think about it. I don’t argue, hate fights and contention, but if I really and truly believe in what I say, then so be it. Also, when you truly discover who you are, your personality, your passions and opinions, your body and appearance, your comfort zones, fears and your humor level, then I believe your serenity conveys an enpowerment that even you may not be aware of.

No, without guilt, was a big one for me and now,”I don’t wanna, I aint gonna and you can’t make me.”

Now that I’m older than 40 I can say “I don’t want that”, whatever “that” is.

While it should NEVER be a legal issue, except for those who would give or sell to children, marijuana can be bad for you in excess. I know this in a very painfully way - I weigh over 400 lb.s, give myself “asthma”, and pay the price everyday. We pot addicts are a minority, thank god, but it is NOT completely harmless. Be careful. And free all of the pot prisoners. This is a medical thang and I would NEVER want to limit the freedom of an adult in this.

What is the big deal about “40”, when I was “40” I thought I was a tender young thing. At that time I looked and felt great no health issues. Now well I am a bit older and well got health issues. I have friends who are “40” or “40 etc.” who have no idea what’s in store for them as our bodies break down and begin to do their thing. Even my youngins niecies and nephews don’t understand what awaits them and its not all about dieting, exercise. There is the genes and DNA thing. But I’m dealing with it as we all are. “Its the Circle of Life”. Where is my gyn bag?

I was working the night I turned 40 a 3-11 shift—I had one patient who fell whose head was split open from falling and bleeding all over me—20 other patients who were sick with vomiting and diarrhea—and we were short staffed and the previous shift left their work behind for me to finish—-it came and left—didnt have time to even think about it….. Cheer up when I turned 50 this past feb I had a Heart Attack—3 actually and a quad Heart bypass—— I am wondering what will happen at 60—-if I make it………

I embraced my previously subdued and wonderfully wicked sense of humour. Saying NO to requests to be on boards and committees for charitable events is still something I am striving for. Maybe when I turn 60…probably not.

Thanks, but no thanks.

No, to over extending myself. I can say that I will tell a man to take a hike if he is improper to his face instead of just walking out of a party that I really was enjoying. No, to a many things and Yes, to so many things that I accepted not to do or did not do, due to a man’s influence. As for specific words…I guess that I was never the swearing type of woman and it just doesn’t fit me, but, I can now tell someone off in the sweetest and most eloquent manner you have ever heard.. Hey, Cindy McCain should hire me! or I could just get credit to use her plastic surgon…..:-)

im going now, yall have a good time…..

When I was 39, I promised myself that I would get that writing job that I had always dreamed of… before my 40th birthday. I was in a cushy job with a decent salary and had been there for 10 years but I had lost my passion and was bored. I went to see a career counsellor, brushed up my resume, and browsed the online Communication jobs from my city every Friday night. Finally, I got a great job offer a month before my 40th birthday… as a Communications Manager in a world-class company! My new boss took a chance on me and luckily her instincts proved her right! So to sum up… at 40 I can say “what do I really want?” and then just go for it.

Still too young to know…

It’s not a phase I am going through.  This is really who I am.