Question of the Day | 09/24/2008 12:00 am
What do you think is the real reason men are afraid of women over 50?

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It may be that some men can’t handle a woman who knows what she wants and isn’t afraid to say so…I will be fifty next year…my husband is eight years younger than I am, and like Candice’s husband, when he was dating after his divorce, he had no desire to date the twenty somethings his middle aged friends were chasing. He said they had “nothing to bring to the table”.
J B, I agree with you, I think you hit it right on, “some men can’t handle a women who knows what she wants and isn’t afraid to say so” If that is intimidating to a man, then I would think they are only looking for a “plaything” and not a mature relationship. I think women 50 and over are awesome today, they are certainly nothing like my grandmothers day. So many are so beautiful and so smart, I truly admire this age group. I think this age group knows who they are and best of all they LIKE who they are, I love the confidence level of women 50 and older women.
Allow me to reframe the issue. It’s not that men are afraid of women over 50 per se. Rather the issues turn on reality matters like health risks, declining beauty and sexual allure, the successful prior use of the divorce courts to clean out an ex and damage the children, and nowadays women’s hypertrophied sense of self importance and romantic expectations while giving very little in return.
Giving the above its due consideration I only date women in their 60s. Takes some doing to find them but there are some fabulous ladies out there. Nothing beats emotional and physical intimacy of a sexually alluring kindred soul out your own generation and cultural background who is financially independent, well educated with a generous and kind heart.
Well Mr. Klein, Having said all that, just don’t marry that “financially independant woman” with a generous and kind heart, as if you do, and she decides to wrinkle, and you, decide she is no longer sexually alluring, and you go on to find one that is…..Well, she might just own some of your independant wealth and no longer be identified as that one with a generous and kind heart, LOL :)
Elaine—Why on earth would prosperous seniors with will beneficiary children and grandchildren marry? Marriage for us is a potential financial and perhaps emotional suicide should things go wrong. Did marriage a couple of times. Was worth it for the children but otherwise at least for men marriage generally sucks.
It’s a man’s world today for guys with means, smarts, and a skeptical attitude about romantic love claptrap women so worship.
LOL. I agree, Marriage is truly of the heart and not scripted on reems of paper. However, Marriage equally sucks for women too, that are married to brainless no clued men. Quite happy to report, this is not my situation. I must correct you Mr. Klein, men only think it’s their world as we women are sitting on a gold mine that all you men wish to go mining in…Now honestly, You tell me who rules the world? :)
Elaine—Re women’s gold beats me why men enter marriage without receiving financial consideration. The dowry ss heart balm for taking on the responsibility of raising a family and the inevitable decline in a woman’s beauty often accompanied by an increasingly bad disposition.
Mr Klein, I gotta believe you have a heart in there and that you’re not as bitter, as you at times post, LOL :)
Marriage was only worth it for the children? That’s really very sad….. you married the wrong women…
Well, Dr M K ” Nothing beats emotional and physical intimacy of a sexually alluring kindred soul out your own generation and cultural background who is financially independent, well educated with a generous and kind heart.”
Spoken like a truly immature male specimen! Like it’s been said before & after here, men are afraid of women who “know what THEY want out of life”, and are too smart not to fall into the “I need a man to survive” trap!
Women over 50 are secure in themselves, have a life store of knowledge and direction, and dare to speak up for what they want & believe in.
These days, women over 50 are savvy and sassy. The average man doesn’t like either, he’d rather go for the pampering one and if she’s a cutie all the better! He doesn’t want his Mother, but a woman like he thinks his grandmom was, docile, coddling, and thinking of him alone! Too many men think with their zipper down!
In general, women under 50 have to devote much of their energy to raising families and, if they work outside the home, to their jobs as well. When less of their energy and intellect is required to run their homes, they can devote more energy and intellect to those non-domestic “big-world” issues that concern men and women equally. In this equalized arena, women easily outshine men because women have been multitasking and solving problems of infinite variety for decades. Men find that they have basically been plodding along and, suddenly, here come these formidable women of 50+ who have gained confidence and experience while the men weren’t paying much attention. And then the men are afraid, very afraid…
Of course, I am generalizing, but the question required a generalized answer, didn’t it?

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