hmmm..i hadnt thought that men were “afraid” of someone that had a professional position, an opinion, common sense, logic and a lifetime of experience to share but then again i know wonder… would i resort to being someone without these qualities to gain a man - i think not! there has to be a male out there that seeks wisdom/intelligence, friendship, quality of life, professionalism and financial independence. have i found him ? no, not yet but i will not reduce my self being to seek him out either.

Men are visual, so I have heard, women 50 and over are mostly starting to look their age. Some women that are 50 look 40, so they are probably still attracting men of all ages, Christy Brinkley is a good example. I don’t think men are afraid, I just think that they are not into wrinkles and fat.

The only men over 50 that are afraid of women over 50 are the ones who have an 18-year-old in their head (and their pants) trying to get out. By Lorraine Bates Excellent.

Men who are afraid of women over 50 or who dislike strong intelligent women are men with problems. Secure men can fall in love or desire younger or older women if they are liberated from sexual and societal insecurity. It can work either way for a man or a woman if they are independent and confident enough to trust their judgement and feelings. Men who reject mature and/or strong women out of hand would never interest me as I see these men as lacking values, and not capable of an interesting or rewarding relationship on any level.

My dad, who is 87 years old/young and a recent widower, was put off by all the “old ladies” who are now his contemporaries. I was shocked at his perception, but when he met a lovely, vivacious woman in her late 70’s he was smitten. So I guess the moral of the story is that we women need to retain our youthful spirit, don’t act like the grandmother you may be, and don’t eliminate the word “sexy” from your vocabulary.

ok, here is my take on this…I think it is that they are more afraid of getting old and seeing a older woman in their life, that insecurity and fear of age rears it’s ugly head and they run for the twenty something. They don’t feel old enough to have a wife that might be starting the change of life, getting gray hair or gasp! not be a perfect size 6 anymore. They still feel like that 40 year old guy!…Of course, this.sounds like Mr. Klein to me! He is a true dinosaur…….Lucky for us older gals, the 36 to 45 year olds still chase us!

I’m on match.com, I’m 52. About 95% of the men in age similar to me (sometimes they’re older, they shave some years off) post that they are looking for women in age ranges much younger than they are. Sometimes significantly younger. Why? I don’t get it. Many of them don’t look so young themselves. I asked a man I met on match why this is so (he wasn’t one looking for younger women). He told me men think a woman 50+ has lost libido. I don’t know if I believe that. I thought women peak and men are way past their peak. If that is all they’re looking for, let them keep looking for the younger women. I want more than that and I haven’t lost my libido. I think they’re just threatened by smart, secure women.

I actually have never thought about men being afraid of women over 50. As opposed to what? 48? Do they feel safe with 45 year old women? Are they afraid of talking to women over 50 or dating or screwing or being friends with? I just never noticed a perceptible change in the male of species and their terror level tipping, when I turned 50. I have never noticed any difference at all. I think it would be much more interesting to know what women over 50, think of men.

I will turn 60 this month. A year ago I signed up with e-Harmony. In the space of 6 months I had 51 first dates. The men were all around my age. Some were interesting, some not, and a few were pathetic. Sexually, many men over 50 have problems. Why a young woman would want them comes down to financial security. My point - There are good men out there who aren’t afraid of women over 50. My fiance -I’m 3 months older - had no interest in the young ones. In fact, I was his first and only date through e-H! I think the 51 to 1 ratio proves that a good man over 50 is harder to find than a wondreful woman over 50. And the good guys recognize this!

Thanks, Kris……..it sounds like my net at 50 miles is not wide enough. Not very interested in a long distance relationship and I’m not moving, just moved to where I am to be near the grandkids………and they trump a man any day. =)

I think it’s a matter of addition and subtraction. Over 50, most women start to turn gray and/or put on a little weight. (++) With the decline of estrogen (-) production, the testosterone levels are at a higher percentage. For men, the decline (-) of testosterone levels (increasing their percentage of estrogen)(+) results in shrinking muscles(-), along with the gray hair(+). It’s a bit of an androgeny dilemna. Maybe they’re afraid of waking up and seeing themselves on the other pillow. (On an entirely unrelated matter, my last Match date was a new low. Educated? Yes. Sane? Sounded like it, in print. Picture? Yes, but just a bit blurry… . .Reality: An equal opportunity hate-monger with 5 teeth, total. My own fault, I guess. I hadn’t listed teeth as a quality I was seeking in a man. Live and learn … .and just keep on laughin’!)

Hello, men are afraid of women over 50 cause well they got issues ladies and you know what they are. To outline the particulars would be not “wowowow” in my considered opinion. I assume this thread refers to men over at least 45 interested or afraid of women over 50. Right? Our guys begin to wear themselves out at 16-17, none stop action. In their later years with the normal health issues well…….. They are afraid cause over 50 women break their stride and move on many times leaving the old guys behind to relish their golden years of “16-17”. Women over 50 have gotten tired of the men “stuff” and are raising their kids, tending their gardens, working out, figuring out the whole healthy eating thing, growing their investments or well just staying even budget wise, dealing with men over 45 checking out the younguns (not jail bait of couse), etc., need I go on? Notwithstanding all of the above if you can find the the right one-then yeah! Think Paul Newman ladies. Not TV sitcoms but real deal life.