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In This Week's Episode
- Tiger and John, Really Bad Boys?
Julia Reed, Liz Smith and Judith Martin: Les Affaires Edwards and Woods - Sex in the D.C.
Julia Reed and Dan Balz, author: The Battle for America 2008 - Lipstick Traces on the Cellphone and PC
Julia Reed and celebrity divorce lawyer Robert Cohen
COMMENT: Tell Us What You Think
- Red Meat, Tea Parties and Sarah Palin, by Margo Howard
- Amanda Knox's Abusive Prosecutor, By Judy Bachrach
- Most Men Don't Cry – Why? by Sheila Nevins
- Making Peace With Madoff: An Interview With Alexandra Penney
- Jenny Sanford: The Perfect Role Model for Spurned Wives, by Sybil Adelman Sage
- The Super Bowl is this Sunday. What part of watching it matters the most to you?
- Liz Smith: From France to Texas to … Ozzy Osbourne?
- Dr. Holly Andersen on 'World News': Women and Our Hearts (Video)
- The Real Numbers Behind the Military Shift
- Who or what most embodied the late '60s and early '70s for you?
- Red Meat, Tea Parties and Sarah Palin, by Margo Howard
- Amanda Knox's Abusive Prosecutor, By Judy Bachrach
- Most Men Don't Cry – Why? by Sheila Nevins
- Jenny Sanford: The Perfect Role Model for Spurned Wives, by Sybil Adelman Sage
- Making Peace With Madoff: An Interview With Alexandra Penney
- Dr. Holly Andersen on 'World News': Women and Our Hearts (Video)
- The Super Bowl is this Sunday. What part of watching it matters the most to you?
- Is Non-Invasive Liposuction a Fat Lie? by Dr. Haideh Hirmand
- A Hard Life on the Road – Made Harder, by Jean Chatzky
- Liz Smith: From France to Texas to … Ozzy Osbourne?
- Red Meat, Tea Parties and Sarah Palin, by Margo Howard
- Amanda Knox's Abusive Prosecutor, By Judy Bachrach
- Most Men Don't Cry – Why? by Sheila Nevins
- The Super Bowl is this Sunday. What part of watching it matters the most to you?
- Jenny Sanford: The Perfect Role Model for Spurned Wives, by Sybil Adelman Sage
- Who or what most embodied the late '60s and early '70s for you?
- The Real Numbers Behind the Military Shift
- Liz Smith: From France to Texas to … Ozzy Osbourne?
- Making Peace With Madoff: An Interview With Alexandra Penney
- Ellen DeGeneres has joined the judges on 'American Idol.' Should she have? What other celebs should make a similar move?
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Unfortunately, the governor doesn’t seem to know the difference between righteousness and wrong. If his wife leaves him, it should be for his hypocrisy, not his infidelity. Alan Dershowitz said something like, "In Europe, this story would be on page 26." Whether or not Silda Spitzer does or does not keep her family together is her business and no one else’s.
I wonder if there aren’t sado-masochistic impulses at play here that led to Spitzer’s act of self-destruction. Another thought: from now on, the poor wife should get a break and the hooker should have to stand by the man. Of course, someone will have to deal with her fee.
You know how death is familiar to us in the abstract but almost always a shock in the particular? ‘Death exists. It is part of life. My God, John just died!’ That’s how I feel about the colorful sins adults commit. ‘Sin exists. It’s part of us. My God, look what John did, is he crazy?’
In Spitzer’s story there are some unusual elements. First, no one seems sad, I mean no one in New York. This is not partisan. No one liked him. Spitzer made himself famous as a moral avenger who targeted people and tried to ruin them. He was a bully. I am not sure he could help it, because I also think he was a little mad. The one time I met him he had Crazy Man Eye Dance. Now the moral avenger/bully has fallen. He was already finished in New York — he’d done too many things that were excessive, intemperate. Bullying.
Second, I think he will have to resign because his governorship is never going to work now. It’s over. I guess you can survive if you’re a bully, and you can survive if you’re a punch line, and you can even survive if most everyone dislikes you. But you can’t survive in politics if you’re a despised bully who’s a punchline. (David Letterman said in his monologue that Spitzer just gave a news conference with police tape tied around his pants. Then he called him The Love Gov.)
On the subject of Mrs. Spitzer, who at this point has thoughts worth saying? She’s just had maybe the worst moment of her life. She doesn’t know if she’s coming or going. She stood, stricken, on the stage with her husband at his news conference. I don’t know her, or him, or their history or circumstances. In general I would say a woman who stayed with such a husband might be demonstrating heroic qualities. Maybe she’s heroic.
It is her decision whether she wants to stand by him in the long run — but for God’s sake — why must these women have to stand next to them when they confess their sins?
I really didn’t mean it to be funny. I think it’s painful to see these women, time and time again be dragged out to these press conferences to stand there by their man. I’d think more of Spitzer and any man who refused to make his wife stand there in humiliation with him.
Those smiles of death on Mrs. Spitzer, Mrs. Clinton, Mrs. Rockefeller, Mrs. Roosevelt and on and on. They used to bother me. But after the Clinton mess went on and on I lost interest. Men with tremendous egos use everyone around them every second of every day and wives and prostitutes and would-be prostitutes are just another fruit in the salad of life they were born to enjoy.
The lurid details of Eliot Spitzer’s fascination with prostitutes will no doubt be revealed with hypnotic syncopation over the next days. Maybe he will resign - but why will sex kill Eliot when it seems to have served, in the end, to enhance the popularity of Bill Clinton?
The real question today is: Why would a man who would spend $5,000 for a few hours of sex be the best choice to balance the budget of New York State?