I wonder how much her body should cost him for this years and she carried his 3 daughters. I don’t think she should leave him rather she should sue him for being so dumb. Furthermore, how dare him using taxpayers money for his own sexual gratifications. BOy! Oh BOy! he will be dead broke when his wife start charging him for all the years he had use her body.

Well, my question is: if the rolls were reversed, would he stand by Silda?

I agree with Mary Dunkley’s remarks…A cheat is a cheat and I would not stand with him. The ink would be wet on legal papers during his press conference. I don’t understand why these women keep ‘standing by their man’ in the humuliation. Are they so insecure with themselves that they feel they must? do they do it for their kids? are they in shock and don’t know what to do? do they feel that they have nothing else? are they afraid to walk away from their husband’s money or power? are they hoping to ‘save face’ for the moment but GET HIM at the bank and in the courtroom later? An sad dilemma. Many others face the decision of what to do when cheated, but not quite so publicly. Sadly, many others don’t yet know that their spouses are cheating. That’s why I created the wiki How to Catch a Cheater at http://catchingcheaters.wetpaint.com a place for information on how to detect if your spouse is cheating on you. It’s also a place where everyone can share information too!

I’ve been married for 24 years to an alcoholic and all that implies. I have legally separated from said alcoholic but he has decided he can’t live without me and has tried to kill himself more than once. That said, no matter what Mrs. Spitzer decides, she will be applauded and booed, revered and persecuted, etc., etc. It is her decision and whatever she does we can’t pass judgment because we just don’t know unless we’ve been there. Even then, we shouldn’t assume we know what she is going through. Will my opinion of Mrs. Spitzer be affected by what she does decide? Probably, but I will know she did what she felt was best for her and her girls. I will have a certain respect for her no matter what. I will know she asked for none of this and yet she will deal with it because she has to. Her decision is her own and she will have her own reasons for it. Trust me, it will be one of the hardest things she has ever done.

Should Silda stay? First: does she love him? Second: how do the daughters feel? Third: how much time is he willing to spend with her in therapy and in therapy on his own? Fourth: how willing is he to become totally transparent to her for the rest of their days together? As Dr. Phil once said, You do it until….. I do agree that a wife should never stand on stage with her husband for public confessions like this. He has to pay for his own sins.

She has decisions to make, right now she is shell shocked, you can see it in her face. She is standing there numb. The shock will wear off and Look out Lov Gov. The anger will hit when the feeling of being hit by a train wears off. It is her decision, but the question she will be asking is How can I ever trust a word out of his lying mouth? I would have told him to call his $1000.00 p/hour gal to stand up there and take the heat. :)

If she had been caught paying male prostitutes for their services and had been publicly humiliated, would he stand with her to face the world? How can men who can’t even control their sexual urges think they can control issues and problems that come UP in the world….. ( Pun intended!)

In response to Candice’s comment that this is out of character behavior for Spitzer - it’s just as likely that sex with the forbidden person is in character for this man. Unfortunately; it’s proven over and over that people who present themselves as extremes of any kind tend to be hypocrites behind the proverbial closed doors. Why does a wife stand by a man like this? Hell, she’s probably in shock like anyone would be - what should she do? What will she tell people? What will her children’s lives be like? Her reality is one that we all as women have no right to judge because the processing of a bombshell like that isn’t easy for any woman, and who knows what she might already have been suspecting. I don’t think they’d find my man able to stand up for a photo op or news conference for a few hours after I found out information like that - not saying why though.

It is not a question of, “Should Silda stand by her man?” She already has. The question should be “Why is she standing by her man?” Having been in a very public and difficult scenario myself..the spouse has to do a search of herself to define her marriage; what it is that has brought it through the years; and then what has brought it to this point. I am not defending Mr. Spitzer, but, there are always three sides to every story..His, Hers and then the truth! Having been in Mrs. Spitzer’s shoes I have nothing but compassion for her; and I know from exprience whatever her final decision is…things always work out in the long run!

My heart goes out to Mrs. Spitzer and to her children. I don’t know what the reasons were that prompted her to stand there next to him during his announcement, but the public humiliation he dumped on his family would be unforgiveable in my opinion. What people do in private is their business, but in his business as Governor, he knows that every move he makes is scrutinized and should have had enough respect for his family to keep his “private” business private. This is the price one pays for a public life, everyone watching, sounds to me like he is self-centered and his family is paying for his actions. Wondering now if the citizens of New York paid for his self-gratification and the ruining of a family. Whether Mrs. Spitzer stays or leaves, her choice.

Silda, is an extremely brilliant woman. It is ultimately her decision. Do you think she knew what was happening. Who knows. My guess is she did know something. If I were her, I wouldn’t stay. Take this as a beginning of a new life for Silda. I am so taken by this story. It bothers me to the core. He had a great career going. Now it is gone and he will struggle to build a life from scratch. What a shame.

I’d kick him to the curb. Why would anyone want to be with someone unfaithful. Or one that has not conscience about possibly bringing a disease home. Not love if your cheating. Time the woman show a backbone. Wouldn’t see me standing by my man with under the desk antics, foot caresses or paid sex.

My heart was breaking for her and her girls as she stood there beside him as he spoke. And the decision to stay and work things out is hers alone, but I would love to see a woman have her own press conference and tell the world that she would be divorcing the scum bag as soon as possible. I witnessed my own fathers indiscretions and watched my mothers heart break. She decided to stay, but she has made him pay ever since whether emotionally or financially. I will keep Silda and her girls in my prayers.

I’d kick him to the curb. Why would anyone want to be with someone unfaithful. Or one that has not conscience about possibly bringing a disease home. Not love if your cheating. Time the woman show a backbone. Wouldn’t see me standing by my man with under the desk antics, foot caresses or paid sex.

Mrs. Spitzer should do what ‘she thinks’ is right for her. Life is like an iceberg. Either tabular, which has a flat top and steep sides or the non-tabular this type the shapes vary. Maybe my comparison is vague. But so are the lives of the Spitzers.