…and Patterson didn’t know a thing? I doubt that. Question for me is what will he be thinking about …why Spitzer did what he did or how did he get caught. So…who laid down the net? Who was the first to pursue it? I’d like to know that person. Silda is such a graceful soul, she shouldn’t be seen in the same photo frame with her husband. Someone asked stand by “her man”? Obviously he is NOT her man…but she is her own woman…and a mother. If it is true that a lack of activity in the frontal lobe of the brain can be a cause for this pompous disease, then many wives may reason and take pity on the men they love…as in spousal abuse victims. It can take a lot for a wife to understand that respect, honor, and love are the foundation for fidelity, so if the husband strays…then where is the respect? She deserves nothing less than respect from her husband and world. The $80,000.00 spent on his lust is what pushed me over the edge. When told to put his money where his mouth is…he did so literally.

No. Any woman that “stands by her man” in situations of infidelity or abuse is doing a HUGE disservice to herself. As the old adage goes, we teach people how to treat us. By choosing to remain in a marriage where your partner has essentially said, “you’re not enough for me”; you are losing out on precious moments in life where another man who does think you are “enough” can be spent loving you. I hate that about our sex, we settle constantly. We make compromises on things and people we shouldn’t. Life is short people, it’s not long. Goodness knows I’m not waving a sign that reads THE WORLD IS COMING TO AN END, but the reality is none of us are promised tomorrow. Someone reading this posting right now can and will, turn off their computer, walk out their home or office, get in a car and be killed by a drunk driver. Sad, but true. So should Silda stay with her husband? No. But neither should the wife of a garbage collector or of the President of the United States. There is a degree of honor in sticking it out, but there is more honor and integrity in walking away.

Silda is going through an undescribable ordeal right now. She (and her children) need our prayers and support, no matter what she decides to do. God bless you and direct you, Silda!

I don’t care who he had sex with and I don’t think her marriage is anyone’s to judge. I agree about the hypocrisy statement. He prosecuted criminals for a living, held himself up as one who upholds the law and has for years broken the law with what appears to be arrogance and disregard for the possible consequences for his family. It’s hard to respect that sort of hubris and marriage without respect??? tough row to hoe… How to hold him up as an example for the children? what not to do… Can we spell narcissist???

I always had one major rule for all my relationships with the men I dated: “You will never have an opportunity to hit or cheat on me twice.” Those words have done me well! I refuse to live in fear or feel a sense of betrayal! My heart goes out to Mrs. Spitzer. I’m sure her husband’s cheating slapped down her like a clenched fist.

Silda needs to do what is best for her situation, but, she should eventually dump him for her own good. I would have had a lot more respect for Hillary if she had put Bill’s suitcases on Pennsylvania Avenue but she did what was needed to be done to further her career, which is in itself pretty slimy, just like the Governor’s antics. I guess it depends on what your the definition is of slimy. Silda, stand by your man until you can walk away.

There’s no way I would have stood next to him at a press conference while he told the world what he had done and I don’t think she should have either. She should divorce him and take him to the cleaners. Adultry is one of the reason’s Jesus said it was o.k. to divorce your spouse. He has embarssed his whole family and they souldn’t have to be in the public eye sharing in HIS shame and hypocrisy. Silda should take the children and leave the spotlight until it blows over and there’s some other big story in the news. Cheating with anyone is something I would never get over (hooker or not). Forgiving him is what she can do and move on.

I feel for Silda Spitzer. She probably learned of her husband’s “scandel” an hour before the news conference. If you love your husband, you will do heaven and earth to make the marriage work. Some things though you really have to work on. This just happens to be one of them. Time will tell. I just hope people leave them alone so they can work together in keeping their marriage together.

It’s a shame to see any marriage fall apart but my concern is for the children in the middle of it all. At their age they are well aware of the words and terms being used. I’m sure that there will be kids that will make fun and parents that won’t want theirs to be involved with them. The children are the ones that suffer for the actions of their parents. How can you respect a father that has no respect for them or their mother? I hope they’re able to talk to someone that can help. As for Silda she has to do what she thinks is best for her and the children. I, myself, couldn’t stand there and look supportive while he admitted he was a failure in his part of the marriage with no concern for her feeelings.

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Negotiate for a few million in settlement, divorce the liar & cheat and move on. Life is short and there is more to life than being the wife of a liar & cheater.

NNNNOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO! Throw him out with the rotton food….and yesterdays newspapers.

Of course she should stay! Sometimes we have MUCH better ways of punishing men than leaving them!

Just once, I’d like to see one of these guys have the guts to stand up by himself and say, “I’ve already put my wife and family through enough and there is no reason for them to have to share in my humiliating stupidity.”

Should Silda Spitzer stand by her man? For me, there are more important things to think about here than that. First is that this women’s site posed a pointless gossip question as a ratings draw - and it worked. Think about that in terms of what we can expect here. Then - why is Eliot Spitzer’s doing what most men do a bigger deal than anyone else doing it? I’ve always wondered why the women stuck around, and I guess like Hillary, they had their reasons. A few commenters here mentioned that this whole affair, may have had political motivation. Yes… and whose? My father (in NYS at the time) did prison time so that a political candidate could score the “cleaning up governmnet” points. I can think of a couple of ways Hillary might come out ahead here. Silda… I don’t know what private arrangement they have, or might make. Did they say “forsaking all others” when they got married?