Am I the only one who remembers the wonderful 1970’s T-shirt? “A woman without a man is like a fish without a bicycle.” She gave up too much and she’s too good for him.

I thin the REAL question is did he order Valentine’s flowers for his wife “before” he made his Emporer’s Club phone call, or after? Oh, wait …… I bet his assistant ordered the flowers. I’m sure the fact that this was the night before Valentine’s … is REALLY on Silda’s mind!!!

We never know what happens behind closed doors. Was there marriage only holding together for the publics eyes? That happens a lot, at home behind closed doors do they make each other ill. To many times couples put on a good front. This may not be a shock to her. No one will really know, now is the time to save face. How did she treat him before this happened when they were not in public? I am certainly not sticking up for his poor choices but she may not be the victim we think she is. Just trying to llok at it from all angles.

As prostitution is from biblical times, it’s best to think about the historic role forbidden sex plays in humankind. Narcissitic men and women have a distorted view on what is “right” and what’s allowed. Getting caught is never in the fantasy! The victims here are the daughters, although Chelsea Clinton was able to get past her dad’s dalliances. Maybe she called the Spitzer girls! Our Puritanical reaction to all things “dirty” revealed in the public venue is comical! Personally they are in my prayers.

Whether Mrs. Spitzer stays with her husband or not is up to her… I would not, she may have giving up a career as his career advanced so she needs to be compensated for her contribution in the advancement of his career. If her attendance at the press conference is her idea then OK, but if it is someone else’s, let them go and she can go shopping, house hunting, or traveling, on his dime. They also have portable dumpsters, so she could clear out all his stuff, if she wishes and I bet she could find a lot of help…

Hasn’t Silda Spitzer been through enough without putting her through additional humiliation by standing up with her husband for his press conferences?! If he was really sorry, he would have told her she does not need to share in the shame with the world watching. Why do these wives do it? It seems to me, if there was any hope of mending the relationship, these guys would

I think right now she is in the drivers seat in terms of their personal relationship. I watched his resignation today and he appeared to be contrite, however I got the impression that his base pe rsonality if rigid. She on the other hand…BRAVO for her - she walked with him…stood next to him and looked the cameras directly for a good few seconds - which in TV land is a long time. She has inner strength and like other political wives, Senator Clinton, former Ct First Lady Rowland, etc., they will come out of this stonger. My understanding is that she wanted to do this…if so - good for her. Howver as an earlier post stated - no woman should be made to stand by her man for PR purposes - regardless of their position in society. I worry about the girls - they appear to be in their teens years and what a time to learn about the dark side of life. Hopefully, those around them will support their emotional needs and have them come out of this process with a healthy understanding of adult relationships. Life in the fish bowl is a risk…you never know when someone may empty out the water on you!

Although I’m as far as can be from being a public figure, I know I stayed in my marriage with an alcoholic because this was my second marriage and I wanted it to “work.” Now that I’m divorced from him, I can’t understand why I stayed - or even - who the hell I was then. Since then, many veils have fallen, and I’ve become conscious of being on a most amazing Soul journey. I can see that I needed the humiliation and kick in the butt to arrive where I - blessedly - am now. The point being, that we can’t know Silva’s Soul’s journey and needed lessons, nor that of her daughters. Because they’re women, we KNOW they’ll be fine…….Right now they’re in DEEP shock and simply reacting as many of us do when we’ve lost a loved one to Death - like a robot - just getting through the day. I suspect most of the women we observe in these situations ARE being handled, because they’re still in shock. Love them!

I think Silda should leave him, and she should never of gone to the press conference. He got himself in that mess no one else, embarrass yourself not your wife.

she shouldn’t have to stand up there on the podium with her husband..she needs to give him a shove out the door and look for a real man…why isn’t the prostitute being named and have her name in the media bliss?

I don’t believe anyone has enough “truth” regarding this situation to decide except for Silda herself. Hopefully she chooses what is in her best interest.

If it was her idea to be there, fine. If someone advised her that it’s for the best - are you kidding? Who will be the first scorned political wife to stand up and say “hell no, I won’t go on stage with him”? Why should the wife be the distraction we all stare at, waiting for her to crumble? I’d like a count of all the wives who stood by their shamed husband’s side on camera then stayed in the marriage for more than a year after. Let him face the music alone.

Well, I am not at all sure she should stand by him (and I sure wouldn’t) but I sure stand by her.

If you’d like to read a column about this, go to this link: www.oregonlive.com/news/oregonian/susan_nielsen/ The column, published March 12 in The Oregonian, is about standing by your man. Here’s the beginning: “To the next high-profile guy caught cheating on his wife, here’s a word of advice. Don’t drag the missus to the news conference. Don’t persuade her to stand next to you when you put on your Sorry Honey face and try to salvage your career. If you do, her presence will be proof that you’re not sorry at all. …” (etc)

No she should not stand by her man. He has embarrassed her which she will not forget. Her children must be mortified also. Shame on him. Joyce