All I can think of is how embarrassed his wife must be. Look at previous pictures where she is radiant at her husband’s victories—and now look at her sadness. And, when I think how I would have felt it that had been my father—those poor children. I can’t imagine returning to school to face friends, etc. What was he thinking? Well, I guess we know what he was thinking about and it wasn’t about his family. Shame on him.

Do you see the pictures of his wife? The morbid pain on her face is too much to bare! It won’t go away. I don’t care what ANY counselor or psychiatrist says….the wretching pain is real. It even causes other problems down the road. Really, will his daughter’s ever feel SAFE in a realtionship? No, if Daddy did this to Mommy, won’t they ask their mom, ‘will my man do the same? Adultery causes deep trauma. It leads to Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome. “Just forgive and hate the sin he committed but don’t hate him.” Come on…… no woman that has been betrayed feels that way. Okay, so you finally get the “images” of your husband with another woman or in this case in “many” women….. and then bam… a song on the radio about a cheating man, about a man saying “It wasn’t me, It wasn’t me she saw on the bathroom floor”, or a commercial on TV for “What happens in Vegas stays in Vegas” or another TV show about adultery, another politician, or a preacher confessing his sins or worse yet, the new “reality” show with lie detectors that is breaking hearts and families left and right… and all the pain comes flooding back again, day after day, year after year. The girls need to see their mother dump that man and take him to the cleaners. Many, many women have raised beautiful, stable children without a man. Is that what I would want? No. I believe in the family unit. And, there is nothing wrong with the “connectors” in his brain… don’t blame it on a chemical imbalance… a dear old friend of mine told me one time…. “Why is that every time a man unzips his pants… his brains fall out?” She needs to stand in front of the cameras with her daughters, hold her head high and hold a news conference. What would she say? “I want America to know that as a woman, a wife and a mother, I won’t tolerate this dispicable, dishonest man. I want nothing to do with this hypocrite of a man and I am filing for divorce. I hope his 15 minutes of pleasure is worth the loss of respect from his wife, his daughters, his peers and himself. I will not pay the price for his sins. My marriage is over.” If a man cheats on his wife, and his daughters… what kind of business man is he? If he will deal treacherously with the person he vowed to be faithful to and comes home to every night, why would he be honest in business dealings? You know, it wasn’t a one-night stand… he wasn’t drunk out with his buddies and made ONE mistake with a girl he doesn’t even remember what her name was because it was once…. The wind didn’t come along and blow his clothes off just as a taxi was dropping him off at a hotel. No, he made a conscious decision, made the phone calls, met the “ladies” and paid out the money. Stand up for the rest of us women, let him go………..

whether or not mrs spitzer chooses to stand by her man…is moot. I think a truly honorable husband would not want his wife to be exposed to his public humiliation. He should want, above all else to protect her from his crimes. I condemn him more for letting her stand there than for anything else. he certainly did not have her at is side when he had his hotel visits with his hooker so why would he have her stand there now. PLEASSSSSSE!!!

Why are we always so shocked when this kind of infidelity raises it’s ugly head. It happens every day to every day people. Why is it any more or less egregious when it involves someone who lives a more high profile life. How could he? What drove him to it? Will she…should she stand by her man?? Is it not just more fodder for TV talk shows? Every day husbands cheat on their wives, but there is no debate, no online poll about whether his wife should stay or go, or what could have driven him to it. From all I’ve read, Spitzer was a jerk in so many ways. And if, as some people are speculating, this was some kind of self-destructive melt down on his part, then good riddance. Maybe it was just all bad karma resulting from all those years that he went after everyone else. Should Silda stay or go? Who knows. It’s certainly not my place to even speculate on such a personal matter. I suspect there was a lot more going on behind the scenes in that marriage than any of us will ever, or should ever, know.

I think every time we deal with these kinds of scandals that there is so much more we should be seeing than what they want us to see. I think American Politics went the way of the royal family model long ago. Career politicians marry, I think, for position and career rather than for all the other reasons people marry. If a happily married couple enters the political scene, I truly pity them. When I see the jilted, cheated-on wife of a senator, representative, governor or president standing next to her partner, I have to wonder how much she was paid to stand there - or IF she was - and how much booty she bought with the dough. And I PRAY she made it worth her while. It was said before that it’s all about appearances and I really couldn’t agree more. But all kidding aside, I have to wonder why - WHY? - would anyone not politically motivated be willing to join in the masochistic exercise of a public appearance while the offender apologizes and resigns? What they do with their marriage is their business - perhaps traditionally, perhaps literally - and theirs alone. Regardless of the sincerity level of their union, I will pray for them both.

Maybe one of these days a political wife who has been publicly humiliated by her husband will find the courage to hurl a lemon meringe pie at him during his ” I know I did wrong” speech. I think you’d hear the cheers from NYC to Hawaii. Guess this time we will have to wait for SNL to do it.

Let’s face it, Silda has known for years her husband has been cheating. I’m sure she’s enjoyed the political power and being in the public eye. She would have left him a long time ago if it weren’t for their beautiful girls.

It is a terrific tragedy for anyone to feel above the law. The law caught up with Eliot Spitzer. I do feel for Mrs. Spitzer, she stood by her husband and endured the pain from not only the humility of the public; also the embarrassment she must feel for her husband, not to mention the lack of respect Eliot Spitzer showed towards his wife in making decisions with money and the extra mariital affairs. I think Eliot Spitzer did the correct thing in resigning, and in the short order in which he provided his apolpogy and resignation.

Let him face the press himself. You will need to work on the healing process for you and your family. Take care of yourself.

no he broke the law and his marriage vowels, plus spent the peoples money to do it,in fact I am sick of these women standing by these cheating, no good men that think only with whats in their pants, a man that wouldn’t even be backed by his mother

I am particularly interested in Peggy Noonan’s comment. Ms. Noonan writes: “No one liked him. Spitzer made himself famous as a moral avenger who targeted people and tried to ruin them. He was a bully. I am not sure he could help it, because I also think he was a little mad. The one time I met him he had Crazy Man Eye Dance.” OK, did he suddenly morph into this bullying madman after Mrs. Spitzer married him? Probably not. I expect that Mrs. Spitzer knew at least something of her husband’s nature before she married him. So why would any woman marry such a creep? I’ve known or known of many a woman married to a rich, powerful vermin, and, inevitably, he was vermin (or vermin in development) when she married the man. But the woman chose to marry him, nevertheless, for the money, the security, the power, the social status, the opportunity, the sex or something else. Mrs. Spitzer’s suffering is palpably evident in her pictures, and my heart breaks for her children. But I expect that his dalliances were not a total surprise to her. She tied her life to this man for some reason. She got something of what she wanted out of life by marrying and staying married to a mad bully. Even if I was somehow stupidly ignorant of his true nature when I married him, I hope that I would have divorced him as soon as I found out that he got his jollies by making other people miserable, lest I find myself, like Mrs. Spitzer, one of his victims. I think that the reason that Mrs. Spitzer stood by her man, literally, yesterday is born of the reason that she married him in the first place.

I feel sorry for her, this is a horrible situation for any one. What I dislike about all of these public down falls (Men getting in trouble with call girls, gay men and or drugs), they all of a sudden need their wifes support for damage control. A double slap in the face in my opinion, their sin the first and then needed the person you betrayed to help your nasty self.

I agree with Marlo. The agony of looking at Silda’s face and body language is haunting. It is a form of emotional rape in front of the cameras and infinite viewers. I cannot bear watching her go through this. I think that he should have made his speeches alone. His wife, like his daughters, should have privacy right now. On a personal and different topic, Marlo, call Jan Roberman. She is having a family tragedy going on.

His poor wife looked mortified. I hope when she gets him alone after he finishes his latest crying spell , cause he got caught, for humiliating his wife and children, That she lays into him. This wasn’t his first time! Right??

In my opinion it’s up to her if she feels they can work it out and she feels comfortable with him. I don’t feel she should have to stand by her man while he resigns which is humiliating, and it wasn’t her fault.