Should Silda stand by her man? That is a load question and she is the only one that can answer that question. However, there are a number of things to consider. If he is spending $80,000 on prosititues, I question the home life - I’m sure she has endured much more behind closed doors married to the happy crusader for 20 years. At this point, it may be her way to get the out of already bad situation. Also, she has three daughters; what message is sending her daughters? Stay in a dysfunctional family together, because of what? There is probably not any amount of psychological therapy that can address 20 years of abuse; or does leaving show her daughters that she is a good person and together they deserve better. The daughters could in up in therapy because she leaves their father. Hopefully if she leaves, he will make every effort to reassure his girls of his love and remain an active part of their lives. Who knows, not me. I probably wouldn’t stay because of my daughters- I believe, the message is that in order to be married you have to live a life of lies and deceit.

Silda has to stand by Silda for now ~ Doing what is the right thing or what others feel is the right thing is just smoke and mirror time to the public ~ Numbness and the feeling of betrayal are her sidekicks and the rest is all just appearances ~ What is true and truly felt by Silda will come to the surface and get her through the rest of her life ~

I sort of understand,I had a young child and a cheating husband I fault hard to keep the marriage together, until I had my son. I ran so fast when he was 18 moths old. After the day he hit my daughter (3yrs.) and came after me and threw me into the fan above the bed. When he left with the only car I picked up both children and ran away. So I believe that Mrs. Spitzer should leave and never look back!

Why hasn’t it dawned on anyone here that maybe Silda was the one who arranged and paid for her husband’s hook-ups?!? Ok, it’s highly unlikely… but stilll… you should never assume you know what went on within their PRIVATE lives.

Stand by him, if she must. But only in spirit. In front of cameras and the world? No way. It’s his failing and shame, not hers. Silda should know that we all are standing by HER!

It is defiantely up to her to stay or not,(its a hard thing to decide either way when you have 3 children and a marriage for so long). Being public people has many pressures, makes it much harder on her thinking and protecting her children and who she is. He definately is a fool for having acted on his thoughts, not thinking of consequences of his children and marriage and the life they have together. I know one thing, we women are strong, at some point she will do whats right for her and her children and her life.

Prediction: She will leave him and rebuild her life. But, trust me, and ( I say this without judgment), she knew more than anyone in the world that he was a bully. She may not have known about his extra-marital activities, but she knew he was a bully. (If he was a bully outside the house, he was a bully inside the house.) The reason she chose to overlook his bullying behavior I do not know, nor do I judge her reasons. For all I know they were valid reasons. But, she knew and I suspect, now is as good a time as any to examine her CHOICES. It is my belief that she now has a far more difficult task ahead her than publically standing by his side before the press — that being, believe it or not, REFUSING TO DEMONIZE the father of her children for they NEED to love THEIR FATHER, (however flawed), while at the same time teaching her children that HIS BEHAVIOR was probably sick and obviously deplorable. If she can do this, she deserves a halo, for the temptation to demonize him to her children will be so compelling and seemingly just. But, in the end, if she demonizes him to her children, it will only cut her babies in two. And Solomonic wisdom teaches us — the real mother is revealed when she would rather give up her child (in Silda’s case overcome her justified right to indulge her pain by turning her children agains their father) rather than have the child cut in two. My heart goes out to Silda.

Deal breaker !! Run, She’ll be on Oprah within the year!!

If a woman spent 80K on male prostitutes, would men discuss whether or not her husband should STAND BY HIS WOMAN?! Run, Silda, run! Do it for your daughters, because if you, their mother, doesn’t set a good example, then who will?

I feel she should stand by him for now. With 3 teenage daughters she needs to show the values of marriage. We all make mistakes. We have to find out what emotional needs were not being met in this relationship. Why did he do this? If he does not get help to resolve this then it is time to end the relationship.

Everyone tends to believe that others are like themselves, when the fact is we don’t know what all has transpired privately long-term or short-term. I think whatever course of action or inaction Mrs. Spitzer decides upon that she would benefit and deserve some compassionate support.

Uha no, the real question should be, if Silda was or were governor of New York would we expect her husband to stand by her? Knowing the male ego, under the same circumstances, I can’t see her husband or any other husband standing by his wife, at a press conference. I have to say this……she had to have known long before this story broke and for whatever reason decided to stay with him. If it were me, before having that press conference, I would have made a stop at our bank to clear it out leaving him nothing but the decimal point and at the end of his little speech, I would have handed him the divorce papers to sign.

I am so saddened by women who will stand by their man when he does something as stupid as this. For petes sake he is doing someone his daughters age. Mrs. Spitzer take him to the cleaners and divorce him. Show your daughters that it is NOT okay to cheat on your family. Give yourself and your daughters the respect and dignity you deserve and put the trash out! Stand by your man does not mean letting him disgrace his family.

I am transported back to a time warp back to an Ally McBealsian moment…the world of the dumbstick. Has the world (of the dumbstick) really changed since Ally left the Air? No. I think this crap has been going on for Millennia. Deja Vu newsflash: Alas, we have been here before! For those needing further proof that we don’t live in a world ruled by Dumbsticks (and those is power are far from immune from this fast spreading virus and seem rather genetically prone to catching it)…just check your email today. Did you get any ads for penis enlarging/lengthening or a perhaps a vulgar Viagra ad? Has every single Catholic Pedophile Clergy been rooted out forever from every the Churches across the world? I so feel for the wife. Thank Goddess for sites such as this one that helps us vent and provides a sane anti-dote to the socio-economic cultural virus of this excessive dumbstickery that seems to be as prevalent as ever these days. Good luck with this fantastic new woman’s webspace. Peace.

Ok..You asked for it so here goes —NO NO NO —-Who tells these “good” little political wives that they must stand up there? I’d tell the “handlers” to “stuff it”. Before he makes his little pathetic apolog, and while he’s asleep, I’d perform the “Laurena Bobbit” on him so that he would have difficulty EVEN walking to the podium. Then after he makes his little speech I would slap the snot out of him in front of everyone — walk away…pick up my girls…go to the house in the country…get a restraining order..get one hellva lawyer and sue him for divorce and several of his millions. No one plays me for a fool!!!!!