we don’t know if she and Eliot had an “understanding”. If they did, then she should stand by him. She’ll have to explain to her daughters why she’s doing so. If they did not have an understanding, then for the sake of her girls, she should leave him. We don’t know the working details of their marriage, and until we do, we can only speculate.

Has anyone read Sally Quinn’s article in the Washington Post today? Wow-o-Wow indeed.

I suspect Ms. Spitzer will make good decisions once she gets all the information, takes care of her girls, and finds solace in her support network of close friends, family and legal counselors. This takes time and, like Ms. McGreevey said, she didn’t get a chance to get grounded in the 24-48 hours after the scandal broke. I joked yesterday that if my husband did such a thing, I would not be with him, but a black eye, busted lip and noticible limp would be.

No. She should protect her daughters and lead by example that this behavior is unforgiveable, unacceptable and is NEVER ok under any circumstances.

What she does is her decision, but if it were MY husband I’d kick him to the curb faster than a rusty can. Like most men whether they be to the left or right, he has problem keeping it zipped. The guy is a scumbag for the pain and humiliation he has caused his wife and daughters.

People are saying this man made a MISTAKE? No, he most certainly did not make a mistake. A mistake is done accidentally. We do not intend a mistake. To quote Sigourney Weaver from the movie “Dave:” ‘There’s no mistake… When you hurt someone intentionally, that is not a mistake.’ If he’s sorry for anything, it’s probably that he was caught.

Can you just imagine if the roles were reversed? Husband standing next to his wife. Why do these women need to stand next to these creeps. Poor thing looked like she had aged 100 years in 2 weeks. Hard to believe she did not know what was going on for all these years.

No, I think she should dump him in the nearest dumpster with the rest of the garbage. Shame on him, how could he think he could get away with that for ever

Perhaps someone has previously commented on this, but I would be wary of Mr. Spitzer if I were the parents of the Spitzer girls’ friends. The prostitute in this scenario was a mere 22 years old, not much more than a teenager herself, esp. compared to him. This is one of the things that I find so extremely distasteful— that he would present himself as a menace to young women of the family’s acquaintance.

Spitzer was so self rightous and arrogant. Can you imagine being married to this guy? I don’t understand why the wife has to stand there in the glare of the world and partake of the public humiliation that what’s-his-face brought on himself. There is a time to to say, “You’re on your own Bub.” If Silda Spitzer decides to stay in her marriage may God be with her. Colleen Marie

Strikes me that Silda Wall need to stand by her daughters right now. What’s going to happen to them? I know one is a teenager and she, in my experience of 30 yrs teaching, will arguably get a ton of vicious shit from her classmates, kids being kids. The or two are in their early twenties at the most, So—screw Eliot—she needs to concentrate on herself and her daughters. She a highly intelligent woman who will make good decisions. And to some of you how have posted negatively about her I can only say: what would you do with an arguably destroyed marriage and especially with three daughters. I’m only a male but I know that I myself would never treat any woman the way the asshole has treated them.

When those daughters are grown they will know their father for what he did and who he was. They will judge him and treat him accordingly. They will, however, know their mother to be the honorable parent no matter what choice she makes

Once it is legal, hiding those preferances would be nearly impossible. Would it take away the stigma, I think not.

Should she stand by her man? That’s a very different question than should she stay. I agree with Judith Martin’s comments that Silda should let him take his “perp walk” by himself! She has nothing to apologize for and suggesting that she is doing it for her girls is absurd. Nothing could be further from the truth. Letting him take his lumps like a man and be solely accountable for his actions sets a much better example for the girls. Whether she stays in the marriage is another question that only they, as a couple, can answer. Is the substance of the relationship - the shared history, the devotion to their girls, and her willingness to forgive strong enough to pull them through? Only time will tell…

Unless they have an open marriage then I think that she should kick his cheatin’ ass out. Not only did he cheat, he cheated on her with women just a few years older than his daughter. He is and was an arrogant man. I am sorry that she had to stand by him when he made his public apology. I don’t know if the politician’s wives are forced to do this or if they choose to do this. Her face told the story. I think that she really just wanted to reach over and slap him across the face like any good woman would want to do. What a horrible thing for him to do to her and his daughters. Shame on you. Keep it in your pants old man!