How is it that this many spectacular, independent women commented on this question ALL under the assumption that Silda was completely unaware of her husband’s little arrangement?? I would be severely disappointed in my husband if he were to partake in a similar escapade. But my assumption is that he clearly knows the difference between fantasy and reality, and would never cross that line… without asking my permission first. At present, my response would be an absolute NO; he has his hands full enough fulfilling my own (and our mutual) fantasies. But I cannot guarantee this will always be the case; in fact, can imagine circumstances under which I might much prefer him to vent off a little steam on a nameless physique, than to risk him having a real attraction to a real Other Woman.

In my opinion: NO

Wow. You lost me already. And I had such high hopes… Perhaps it’s because I’m only 39. Perhaps it’s because I chose not to get married and have kids. Who knows. I just sense that this site and group is far more conservative than I am. On Mount Rushmore, half of your readers seem to fail to grasp that it would be a NATIONAL Monument representing NATIONAL women. Jeez - didn’t think that one required clarification. Or is it that they are simply ignorant of powerful intelligent women in US history? Regarding Spitzer and his wife: She deserves every single ounce of misery that they both reap. Do you really think she is/was wholly unaware of his sexual tastes that resulted in more than $80,000 worth of hookers? C’mon ladies!!!! Women are highly capable of ignoring uncomfortable truths - especially when they REALLY like living in the governor’s mansion. You reap what you sow.

I wouldn’t stay with him for a minute more. But if she does, she should charge him the same for sex that he was paying the prostitutes.

How could you possibly stand by someone who willfully chooses to pay for sex, with a beautiful, supportive wife and three daughters? As a mother and a woman what would you be teaching your daughters? I would be appalled at the behavior and choices of my husband of 20 years (speaking from experience here), and would have more pride in myself than to accept that kind of egregious behavior. I am so sorry.

Forgiveness is an integral part of marriage, not so much when breaking laws. My sympathy goes out to the daughters whose classmates, age wise, are not particularly known their compassion. He has flatout embarrassed them in ways that could leave lingering psychic scars, and in ways that he would never tolerate from them. He may be a jerk but he’s still a father, and that’s the wounds he’ll spend the rest of his life healing.

show him the curb,after all thats where he has spent a lot of time ..my heart hurts for her,,been there,,stayed to long..

Well, as my dad used to say, “If you lie down with dogs, you’ll get up with fleas.” It’s really her business to decide all this, and I just wish her luck. But of course the real question is, why are we talking about the sex life of this guy? Our sitting president has screwed the entire world. To me, that seems a more pressing matter to look into

What strikes me here is why everyone is so “shocked” that yet another powerful political man has solicited sex outside of his marriage. Or that he would pay nearly five grand for the encounter. It goes on all the time all over the globe. As we speak, high end courtesans are jet setting from London to Dubai to New York to spend time with international men of rank and their rates can be higher than what Elliot Spitzer shelled out. (Especially if you tack $10,000 worth of designer clothes onto the bill.) I was once approached to ghost write a book for just such a gal who intended to call her tome, “From Whore to Eternity.” The world’s oldest profession has famously shared the sheets with many of history’s leaders sometimes even garnering trinkets like parts of Spain for their efforts. The fact that it’s Elliot Spitzer, ethics crusader extraordinaire, makes the lapse seem more ironic but should we really be surprised? Haven’t we witnessed time and time again that the ones who make morality their bully pulpit are those most likely to fall from grace? And what grace are we talking about anyway? It’s 2008, people. Looking the other way is considered both good manners and a career building skill in Manhattan, on Capitol Hill or in Paris. Yet the news media can hardly contain itself from interchanging prostitute with hooker at every possible opportunity when a few weeks ago it chastened Jane Fonda for uttering the “c” word. Sure prostitution is illegal but as columnist Herb Caen once said about San Francisco’s famous madam, “the United Nations was founded at Sally Stanford’s whorehouse.” I’m not trying to make light of what I’m certain is a painful situation for Silda Spitzer. And I wouldn’t dare to speculate on the conversations going on behind closed doors. Spitzer clearly hoisted himself on his own petard. But just once couldn’t we be more invested in the greater issues at hand than on the sexual peccadilloes of a powerful man whose story will inevitably become a screenplay or a Vanity Fair cover story? What I really don’t understand is why Spitzer would transport that particular gal from New York to Washington. Couldn’t he have found someone more suitable among the Congressional mistresses already housed in Georgetown?

I would so rather he was impeached-and yes she MUST have known guys….

If she chooses to, that is up to her. We are not in here shoes, I do think we as women should give her our support in whatever she chosses to do. I personally would through his ass out. I’m lean toward being a hothead. She will do what is right for her and her girls. We should let her do that.

It was done to me, not only did he have affairs but also visited a whore house. I dumped him two years later. He was addicted to sex and I think the same is true with this guy. It’s really up to her wether she stays, but I left my husband. That’s when I found out I have hpv.

Who knows what their lives are like behind closed doors. It is one thing for a public official to engage in such behaviors it is another thing entirely to do it in a stupid way. If Mrs Spitzer leaves I hope it is because of the fact he was so stupid to do the exact things he previously prosecuted people for. Talk about narcissistic - did he really think he would not be caught. I really feel for the daughters. Regardless of the nature of the marriage the girls suffer since they were in no way part of any of this yet it impacts them greatly.

That is a thoroughly personal decision, and not mine to comment upon or judge. This is an issue about the Governor and his actions - and dragging his wife into it is sad. Without knowing the couple or the woman personally, I can only assume that it was NOT her decision to stand beside him at the press conference…what woman would want to do that in the aftermath of such a realization? In the case of Hillary Clinton, I have always found it to be disgusting that she was made to answer questions or held up to scrutiny for the actions of her husband. This case is no different - let the woman be!

When I saw the newscast and public apology and Mrs. Spitzer, standing there, I was embarassed for her. In light of his behavior, why was she ‘expected’ to stand by him? Where is it written and on what more is it based, that a woman MUST stand by her man when his antics totally denied their relationship???? It’s such a travesty!