I agree with Marlo & Liz.. Whey do these wives have stand by these men in Public on the stage as the admit publicly to their transgressions.. Whether Mrs Spitzer wants to contemplate standing by the soon to be ex governor in their private life is her private decision but for her to have to be on the dais as he admits to his wrong doing is just wrong.. I am sure she was is more shocked than anyone and should not have to endure standing next to him as he tells the world how he has devastated not just the state of New York, but more personally he has devastated her family

I can’t imagine standing there in support of someones betrayal.She certainly doesn’t owe it to him for any reason.I would respect these women more if they came forward and really said how they felt.Honesty is not a bad thing and we should all stop being afraid of it.

I agree completely with Marlo. This man committed this act without his wife present, why then must she stand next to him as he admits his wrong doing? Whether or not she decides to stay in the marriage is her personal decision but to put her on public “display” while she is clearly showing grief/shock in my opinion only adds insult to injury.

What we’ve heard this morning is that Governor Spitzer has spent upwards of $80K on “escorts” over the last number of years. How is that “out of the blue” “uncharacteristic” “not like Bill Clinton”. The difference is that Clinton had encounters with people he knew and for free, while Spitzer paid for specific sex acts with strangers. Is there a difference of degree or kind? As many have said, we can’t know what goes on within a marriage, and so cannot judge Mrs. Spitzer’s choices. However, one must never forget that the wife reaps the benefits of the husband’s power and prestige, so perhaps there are tradeoffs implicit in supporting the spouse whose job depends on public approval. Practically speaking, acting like the wronged wife is not a great option: Castigate the errant spouse and perhaps be held (at least partially) responsible for his downfall and resultant loss of a job, which means cutting off the salary and benefits which accrue to the family as well as to the actual office holder. All of this just helps to confirm my view that those who position themselves as the most righteous, those who take pleasure in engineering the downfall of other “sinners”, those who pray the loudest, those who hold themselves out as guardians of public morals…. these are the ones to watch out for. They likely have closets full of skeletons. Laurie J. Macdonald

What? She has a life and identity and successful career of her own! The children can’t possible leave whole after this turn of events. These men need to stand on their own two feet….by themselves…and own up to their idiocencratic dalliences! His behavior is appalling and to write it off as another egoic move by a power hungry male….despite the fact that he’s a hypocrite…somebody has to fall on their face…flat….for this to stop! These wives attached to the power are enabling these men and their behavior and while not exactly perpetuating it,t certainly make the fall easier. Don’t they say the first time is the hardest? If he survives this, what else??? Silda, get out of dodge! And take your beautiful girls with you!

I agree with Candice Bergen’s comments; of course, I agree with her about most everything. She’s just usually right! Seriously, however, I’m not sure I could endure what Mrs. Spitzer is going to be going through. And I don’t know what I would be telling my daughters. It all seems so convoluted and now, he may not keep his job as Governor. We don’t need to be losing good Democratic governors. It will be interesting to hear Mrs. Spitzer interviewed a few weeks later to hear what she “really” thinks is happening right now.

We need to focus on the correct issues. The issue for the public is Spitzer’s activity - was it illegal? Did he break laws? Does his hypocrisy affect and impact on his ability to hold office? (of course it does). His wife doesn’t belong in the public mix - she obviously has enough to deal with privately, as did McGreevy’s wife. The media, once again, takes an issue and milks its prurient value for ratings.

Why should a wife have to endure, in public, the pain and heartache that her husband has brought on himself? I say, Let him stand there alone!

Why do these wives stand next to these men when they make there announcements of wrong doing…they didn’t have there wives standing next to them when they were doing the wrong that the are confessing too…what about his 3 beautiful daughters….what is he saying to them…everything he has told them there whole life about men, and then they wake up and find out they are living with one of the men that they are to stay away from…how many other wrongs has he commited in public office…sounds like he learned well from Bill Clinton…no wonder he prosecuted so many of these men, he needed numbers for his own need…MEN, ugh…

I’ve been there. Not that my husband was/is a politician, but that there was a very public display on his part of infidelity. Our sons were young and I was first trying to make sense of what took place and what it meant to me. We did eventually divorce and I am much happier now without him. I came to the realization that it was a marriage in name only and that we were living very separate lives for some time. It was not one thing, but several that led us to this point. The infidelity was a symptom and not the cause. Unfortunately, had there not been his infidelity, we may have worked towards rebuilding our marriage. We could have had a life together. But the infidelity was too difficult to forgive, overlook and move beyond. But hey, that’s just me.

I can only say this. What she does is indeed her business, but I give her 100 kudos for the ability to stand there, with cameras flashing, news reporters screaming at them for what they think should be the answers. It sorta wants to make me protect her and toss him to the wolves. I do not in any way shape and form condon CHEATING on your spouse, whether the person in question is a pro or just a home wrecker! The sting of this will reach into the childrens life far more than it will his. They have to put up with the snide remarks, the now bullying they will take from their peers. No, I cannot say what she would do…But…I can certainly tell you what I would do, I would stand beside him in public, and as soon as it went to the side, because someone else always takes the stage, I’d divorce the b…..d!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I think it’s for Silda and only Silda to decide. We need to stay out of business that does not concern us. We all need to focus on our own relationships as we know that we’re not all perfect.

I am so tired of seeing the wives of these cheating, lying men standing obediently next to their husbands while they confess to the world what jerks they are. There is no way I would ever stand next to my man while he apologized of the unspeakable things he did. To me Silda looked like she was in shock and didn’t really want to be there. So what was the point? To tell the world she forgives him? Ugh! Wake up women!

Any man who publically humiliates his wife and daughters is nothing more than flattened excrement. He doesn’t deserve to have his family stand by him. With his ego I doubt he would stand by his family if things were less than supporting of his public image. The lady will will do what is best for daughters and for that I applaud her.

How does one “stand by their man” when their man doesn’t stand by them???