I have never walked in Sidla’s, Hillary’s or Jackie’s shoes but I have walked in my own and know I would never stand by a man that publicly humiliated me my children and himself by practicing hypocrasy and infidelity.

I don’t want to judge others - I just wish women in these situations would let the man stand up and take the heat alone. Why do they stand beside them, enduring humiliation that is not of their doing? I do not understand the thought process that makes you stand beside a man who has just betrayed you…

The woman looked like she was drugged! And, hopefully, she was! Otherwise, how could she have endured that crap! The only way she should have been there was if she had been allowed to double up her aristicratic, lady-like fist and belt him right smack dab on that over-sized beak of his for all the world to see and enjoy!

I had the pleasure of hearing Silda Spitzer speak a few years ago and I was so impressed with her warmth, intelligence and her articulation of her beliefs. In fact, while I was not sure about her husband, I did eventually vote for him, all the while wishing it was Silda who was the one running. Whether she decides to preserve her marriage is completely her decision; it is obvious that there are as many levels of tolerance for such things as there are women. As for her public support, I am so tired of seeing these strong, smart and powerful women standing pathetically by the very person who has betrayed them. All it does is perpetuate this idea as “wife as victim” or “woman as enabler.” Silda, whatever you decide about your marriage, God bless you and good luck. But please don’t diminish your own fantastic image and power by publicly appearing next to this man who betrayed you and all of us who voted for him. His “holier than thou white knight” image was a sham and I hate to see you a part of this very public humiliation.

Spitzer decided not to have his wife by his side when he felt in need of sex…Isn’t Mrs. Spitzer implying his behavior is understandable, or even acceptable by standing by his side in public?

That is Mrs Spitzer’s call God help her living with his arrogance. It is about time we think making prostitution legal. This is a crime that usually targets women. Very rarely are Johns are charged with a crime. As for the morality aspect. Thats between us and our god. We have children selling drugs to children and killing each other in every major city in America. Our soldiers and the people in Iraq are being killed in a questionable war. Yet, we are worried and Govenor Spitzer was worried about women who make their living from getting paid to have sex. Then in a hypocratical move he visits prostitues.

I think there is a double standard. Men cheat, wives are supposed to “stand by their man” women cheat and the husbands leave……and if they were cheating too, then it’s all her fault and they get off unscathed. just my feeling.

I believe in honoring a committment as a very crucial test of character. She obviously has more character than he. This character shift makes them unequal as partners. I would like Gov. Spitzer to step down as leader of NY State, serve jail-time if convicted, then continue to right wrongs - through his work - as penance until he’s in his grave. As for Mrs. Spitzer: she should consider her future decisions as an example for her daughters. I cannot imagine the agony she is going through.

Whatever any of feel it is really up to Silda to do as she see’s fit. I am sure she is fully aware that the higher percentage of Americans are standing behind her and her children. Been in her shoes and it is devastating. If I could e-mail her I would send her my love and best for her and her children. I have nothing to say to Mr. Spitzer except to tell him that I hope they prosecute him if he used NY State taxpayers money. I live in Niagara Fallls NY and I am along with everyone else in NY State are shocked and angry. I hope justice prevails.

I certainly agree w /Jennifer G. Silda needs to rid herself of the gov for the most telling reason of all….He is STUPID!!!

While I feel for Silda, I agree with Elizabeth’s comments in this case. For as the old adage goes, “Until you’ve walked a mile in my SHOES!” When it’s all said and done, as Hillary had the final say, so will Silda.

SHOULD SHE STAY BY HER MAN ? IN PUBLIC VIEW “YES” BUT BEHIND CLOSED DOORS “NO” . THESE MEN HAVE GREAT JOB , LOTS OF POWER AND IN THE LIME LIGHT ALL THE TIME. THEY NEED A REALITY CHECK. THERE WIVES HAVE BEEN BY THEIR SIDE TIME AND TIME AGAIN. NEVER BRINGING DISGRACE OR SHAME TO THEIR PARTNER OR THEIR JOB. HE NEED TO FIND OUT WHAT’S IMPORTANT TO HIM GREAT JOB AND A SUPPORTING FAMILY OR HIRING A CALL GIRL AND BEING IMPEACHED ?

The world is watching her. The pressure must be immense. It would seem unloving to continue to stand by someone who clearly doesn’t respect himself or his wife. To stand by him would be to say what you’ve been doing is okay. Prostitution has been here since the beginning of time. I’m even in favor of legalized prostitution. There are some marriages that would accept the liasons, for me no so. I can’t imagine that she hasn’t had a clue that this was a part of his nature. The red flags must of been there. She needs to ask herself if it’s worth the price she would have to pay to stay in the relationship.

Marlo said it so well, why should she have to stand beside him while he gave “true confessions” and another question, what example is this sending to their daughters. Children today are asked to grow up too quickly because of competition in academics, perverts in the neighborhood, how to get ahead without compromising yourself in the process it is not an easy world to grow up in. I can only say I have respect for Silda and whatever she decides should happen to them should be respected both by the media and the private sector.

I agree with Marlo. Whether Silda divorces or not is not my business. I would slam the door in his face, but why in god’s name do these women have to stand at the side of these men? I have to wonder if they get bullied into it?