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Question of the Day | 05/27/2008 12:00 am

What were you told a 'real lady' had to do?

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Joni Evans
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By Joni Evans on 05/27/2008 12:00 am
Candice Bergen
Sit with your legs together. Accommodate. Be polite. Send thank-you notes. Wear clean underwear. Never let your bra straps show. Or your ambition. Or flirtatiousness. Or have a run in your stockings. Or burp.
By Candice Bergen on 05/27/2008 12:00 am
Joan Ganz Cooney
Candy’s got the list. I would add never reveal she has a brain to a man.
By Joan Ganz Cooney on 05/27/2008 12:00 am
Mary Wells
A real lady wore clean underpants in case she got run over.
By Mary Wells on 05/27/2008 12:00 am
Joan Juliet Buck
Always tell a man he’s right.
By Joan Juliet Buck on 05/27/2008 12:00 am
Judith Martin
Allow her name to appear in the newspaper only three times: at her birth, marriage and death. When I got my first byline, I thought, "There goes my obituary."
By Judith Martin on 05/27/2008 12:00 am
Sheila Nevins
A "real lady" makes up her own mind.
By Sheila Nevins on 05/27/2008 12:00 am
Liz Smith

A lady never smokes a cigarette on the street, always goes out wearing gloves, pearls and stockings and doesn’t go anywhere without a handkerchief, is careful to sit up straight and not show any leg or underwear when she sits down. And she has on clean undergarments in case she’s in an accident.

This reminds me that I rushed to the hospital when my mother had been in a serious car accident. I leaned over her bed and said, “What about your underwear; what were you wearing?” She smiled, “Oh, honey – I had on my brand new Teddys and a new slip you gave me from Neiman Marcus! I was fine!”

She was in a neck brace but she recovered; however, this was, word for word, our first conversation.

By Liz Smith on 05/27/2008 12:00 am
Frannie Em
Have integrity
By Frannie Em on 05/27/2008 12:09 am
T S
Love that one. You can tell it was sage advice as it still applies today unlike some of the other pearls that were passed on. :)
By T S on 05/27/2008 9:50 am
georgia fatwood
Lily Tomlin told this stoy about a grandmother, who taught her in Paducah, I think, about how alady never has to rummage around in her purse for anything..without looking,you can just dip inand pull out a handkerchief and dab your nose……that was when she was not a star…I’m sure the hat, glove and pearl thing is valid as is the thing about not appearing in print….
By georgia fatwood on 05/27/2008 9:33 pm
Patrice Baldwin
My mother thought integrity was paramount, too. Also she always told me, when we were walking down town, to never look into the open doors of bars. I wondered why, because they were always very dark, and I couldn’t see anything in there anyhow, no matter how hard I tried.
By Patrice Baldwin on 05/29/2008 5:26 am
Mugsy Peabody
Never EVER do anything to call attention to herself.
By Mugsy Peabody on 05/27/2008 12:17 am
~ countrywoman ~
Ms. Mugsy Except when absloutely necessary in coffee shops? :-) Re the question, same answer as Mugsy….although I didn’t comply if mom wasn’t watching.
By ~ countrywoman ~ on 05/27/2008 3:27 am
Mugsy Peabody
Comply?
By Mugsy Peabody on 05/27/2008 3:50 am