eileen, i do have this problem. i am a big loud woman that never has a problem speaking her mind, being honest to a fault or going out of her way to help others. i too, have had it bite me in the butt. it got my grandson a stalker. but in the end it was okay because others learned to see her as bad blood by what i and my family went thru over her. some ppl are just jealous of us and how we see life. i have been told in my past that i just flitted thru life with my head in the clouds (i have a very vivid imagination and am a very good story teller or i was when i could remember the stories. lol). i like to think my head is in the clouds and my feet are in the sand. happy enough to get thru life with a smile and steady enough to take care of business when i need to.

most ppl wish they were like us. they wish they had the gumption to go up to complete strangers on a train and say, "wow, ma’am i like that hat!" or "what a cute baby!" some ppl are just scared of contact with strangers, b/c in the past someone has gone to far. my daughter when pregnant with my grandson had ppl she didn’t even know come up and just rub her tummy and ask when she was due or ask if they can feel the baby move. sometimes ppl cross lines, that is certainly an example of it. so when anybody approaches they are on the offensive. some ppl are just quiet and cannot stand us loud ones. 

one of my best friends has always noticed that most women do not like the fact that other women will look better. they hate complimenting each other and will get catty if one woman looks better than them. happens to me all the time. she said, "you know your looking damn fine if you get a dirty look from another woman!" they are jealous and cannot deal with it. it used to happen to me all the time. just try complimenting a woman "your dress is nice. where did you buy it?" "i like that hat i really compliments your dress!" and they will look at you like you told them they had poop on their face. they think "omg, i must look like crap!" 

i’m a cancer and that makes me a universal den mother. ppl like us tend to take over the conversation, the topic, the room and the very air anybody breathes because we are so outgoing, friendly and talkative. unfortunately this does put ppl off b/c they aren’t used to that kind of person. most of the ppl that can deal with you are those like you. i had one friend just cut me off b/c she said i was always telling her what to do. i tried telling her that she asked for my opinion, but that i never told her she HAD to do it. to this day, no speak, nothing. i didn’t bother pursuing it after that b/c she would never understand and it wasn’t worth my time to deal with someone so insecure. 

so keep on being yourself and just don’t think about those that do not understand you. you a breed apart, but it’s good. if you scare ppl, then they are totally insecure and nothing you will EVER say will change them. so if you cannot change them, why should you change for them? i learned a long time ago that the more you change for everybody else, the crazier you get. so here’s a hug to your happiness and just keep plugging away because believe me ppl are noticing and someday somebody is going to come up to you, who you don’t know and your sure you have never done anything for and tell you that they "heard about you, b/c you help ppl, are nice, caring, etc!" believe me it has happened to me. good luck and "keep your head in the clouds and your feet in the sand!"