Sheila Nevins | 07/15/2009 11:00 pm
Frenemies, by Sheila Nevins
Overhearing Adultery
(Do you have a friend who is an enemy or an enemy who is a friend?)
(Do you have a friend who is an enemy or an enemy who is a friend?)

Image: Krissa Cavouras/Flickr
The Amtrak to Providence was much easier than the puddle-jumper flight. At least you kept your shoes on – especially in summer sandals with all those straps to unbuckle and buckle. The seats were comfortable and I decided to read John Updike’s Endpoint. Just this one trip doing something not related to work – just this one time.
There was a seat remaining in a four-seat section. I sat opposite two reasonably attractive women, say somewhere in their late 40s. "All aboard," the conductor shouted several times, warning people of the train’s imminent departure. "All aboard!" he said more seriously. But of course everyone who wished to travel the train was seated and his cries for late passengers fell on an empty platform.
Opposite me the two women were engaged in a delicious conversation. I did my "pretend-read" act displaying deep interest in my book, intently turning the pages that could have been just as well blank. The two women were in the middle of a conversation about adultery and I was transfixed.
WOMAN ONE: Yes … but frankly it wouldn’t matter to me if Chuck screwed around. We’ve been married nearly 30 years and let’s face it, sex is dull. I fake everything and it’s really not that frequent.
WOMAN TWO: How frequent?
WOMAN ONE: The truth?
WOMEN TWO: Of course, Madam Genevieve.
GENEVIEVE: Maybe once a month. Maybe once in two months. Sometimes longer. Who keeps track, Margaret? We’re stuck with each other. Isn’t that what one calls "mature love?"
MARGARET: They say the pheromones wear off and attraction goes out the window.
GENEVIEVE: What’s a phen-a-rome?
MARGARET: A pheromone, not phenarome – it’s a smell – one that attracts the sexes, like beetles, and apes and a man and a woman. It makes them lusty – for a while at least.
GENEVIEVE: Well we ain’t got none, ole Chucky and I. Chuck and I have been with each other since high school. Then it was hot and heavy and panting. Then Chuck had hair. And what about you, Ms. Margaret? Ms. Sexual Silencio?
MARGARET: Boris is just Boris.
GENEVIEVE: What does that mean?
MARGARET: Sex was never the mainstay. He’s a genius, you know. They won’t part with him at Yale. They even matched the Stanford offer.
GENEVIEVE: Boris is certainly smart. No doubt about it. Would you care if he "strayed?"
MARGARET: Boris isn’t the straying type.
GENEVIEVE: Why do you say that?
MARGARET: He’s like a lab rat. He never leaves his research lab.
GENEVIEVE: I guess like Chuck’s addiction to the Red Sox.
MARGARET: At least they’re seasonal. Labs are forever – 24/7. They never close. Boris and I have been married for 27 years in February. Oops. No, no, 28 years in March.
GENEVIEVE: Comme moi and Chuck. Chuck is sweet, you could say. I love him in my own way. Margaret (stretching out her legs), I’m exhausted. Shopping wears me out. Want a coffee? It’s just two cars up.
MARGARET: Yes, yes, coffee.
GENEVIEVE: With what inside?
MARGARET: This time with cream and Sweet & Low. I’m a study in contradictions.
Genevieve gets up and moves, swaying with the train, after taking a bill out of her wallet. She disappears as the electric train door lets her pass through. It closes. Margaret takes her compact and lipstick out of her bag and powders her nose, then rubs a bright pink lipstick over her lips several times – puckering at her reflection. As for me, I am still "pretend reading" when Margaret suddenly reaches for her cell phone and dials. She checks her face in her compact mirror and watches herself as she talks.
There was a seat remaining in a four-seat section. I sat opposite two reasonably attractive women, say somewhere in their late 40s. "All aboard," the conductor shouted several times, warning people of the train’s imminent departure. "All aboard!" he said more seriously. But of course everyone who wished to travel the train was seated and his cries for late passengers fell on an empty platform.
Opposite me the two women were engaged in a delicious conversation. I did my "pretend-read" act displaying deep interest in my book, intently turning the pages that could have been just as well blank. The two women were in the middle of a conversation about adultery and I was transfixed.
WOMAN ONE: Yes … but frankly it wouldn’t matter to me if Chuck screwed around. We’ve been married nearly 30 years and let’s face it, sex is dull. I fake everything and it’s really not that frequent.
WOMAN TWO: How frequent?
WOMAN ONE: The truth?
WOMEN TWO: Of course, Madam Genevieve.
GENEVIEVE: Maybe once a month. Maybe once in two months. Sometimes longer. Who keeps track, Margaret? We’re stuck with each other. Isn’t that what one calls "mature love?"
MARGARET: They say the pheromones wear off and attraction goes out the window.
GENEVIEVE: What’s a phen-a-rome?
MARGARET: A pheromone, not phenarome – it’s a smell – one that attracts the sexes, like beetles, and apes and a man and a woman. It makes them lusty – for a while at least.
GENEVIEVE: Well we ain’t got none, ole Chucky and I. Chuck and I have been with each other since high school. Then it was hot and heavy and panting. Then Chuck had hair. And what about you, Ms. Margaret? Ms. Sexual Silencio?
MARGARET: Boris is just Boris.
GENEVIEVE: What does that mean?
MARGARET: Sex was never the mainstay. He’s a genius, you know. They won’t part with him at Yale. They even matched the Stanford offer.
GENEVIEVE: Boris is certainly smart. No doubt about it. Would you care if he "strayed?"
MARGARET: Boris isn’t the straying type.
GENEVIEVE: Why do you say that?
MARGARET: He’s like a lab rat. He never leaves his research lab.
GENEVIEVE: I guess like Chuck’s addiction to the Red Sox.
MARGARET: At least they’re seasonal. Labs are forever – 24/7. They never close. Boris and I have been married for 27 years in February. Oops. No, no, 28 years in March.
GENEVIEVE: Comme moi and Chuck. Chuck is sweet, you could say. I love him in my own way. Margaret (stretching out her legs), I’m exhausted. Shopping wears me out. Want a coffee? It’s just two cars up.
MARGARET: Yes, yes, coffee.
GENEVIEVE: With what inside?
MARGARET: This time with cream and Sweet & Low. I’m a study in contradictions.
Genevieve gets up and moves, swaying with the train, after taking a bill out of her wallet. She disappears as the electric train door lets her pass through. It closes. Margaret takes her compact and lipstick out of her bag and powders her nose, then rubs a bright pink lipstick over her lips several times – puckering at her reflection. As for me, I am still "pretend reading" when Margaret suddenly reaches for her cell phone and dials. She checks her face in her compact mirror and watches herself as she talks.
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There should be boundaries even with the best of friends. I’ve always believed what goes on in ones personal intimate relationship is nobodies business but the persons involved.
I’ve heard some horrific tales of infidelity and betrayal and this is another ugly one. How do these vile dispicable creatures live with themselves? Besides, there’s always the chance of catching a disease.
I have a friend who introduced me to a friend. I’ve slowly disengaged myself from this new acquaintance. She loves being the focus of attention and welcomes your company only if you agree to be the side attraction. If she meets a friend of yours then she tries to become your friends new best friend. She never had anything pleasant to say. She seem to always look for conflicts. She was an opinionated know it all.
I became bored with the drama in her relationship. It became tiresome listening to her repeatedly complain about her boyfriends treatment of her and yet she continues in the relationship. She’s not interested in solutions just wants to chew every-ones ear off with the same bs! I no longer accept invitations and phone calls. If I run into her I’m civil and move on. I know when something is not a good fit. She’s my friends friend not mine!
She owns her own home. She’s college educated and pays her own bills. He moved in with her. He contributes. She’s not dependent on him financially. He disappears for weekends at a time and returns sometimes smelling like liquor. She tells him to go back where he spent the weekend. Yet, she welcomes him home with open arms. She’s an attractive person yet seemingly so damn insecure!
I have no patience nor tolerance for bs! … My solution since he treats her so badly is to get rid of him! I’m a no nuisance person. I’m not allowing anyone to trash my life and disrupt my peace! I’ve suggested they seek counseling and of course this suggestion was rejected! So, I’ve washed my hands of the whole mess! Five months was too long to spend in that acquaintanceship!
Oooh, Sheila Nevins, now, I call your tuning into the women’s conversation a reflection of your deep-seated compassion for the human condition, your empathy-that’s a hot word currently- for the foibles and follies of women. Now, my daughter has a different view: intrusive and impolite. And she says it like it’s a bad thing. Go figure.
I knew one of the ladies (that’s no lady, that’s Chuck’s lover) would go behind the other’s back but not so quickly or truly tackily. In my personal life, I’ve learned who are the gossipers and the takers. Unfortunately, experience was the teacher; loss of relationships, loss of money and a dent in my idealism the cost. I’m 62 but stll discovering the ‘mean girls’. To paraphrase Kathy Baker in ‘Fried Green Tomatoes,’ now they are older and they have more money, but still have the middle school mentality. Perhaps I’m still mentally in middle school, but I’m tap dancing and listening to Broadway tunes.
Brava on ‘Autism the Musical’, Sheila Nevins. Now, I want to see the doc. concerning teen suicide. How courageous to share such vulnerable, raw emotions. Could you remind me when it’s on? Post me here and I’ll tell the others. Thanks, Sheila Nevins.
Peace and grace