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Home › Relationships

Poll | 06/01/2009 11:00 pm

Have you ever had cancer?

Read more about: Cancer, Health, Wellness

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phyllis Doyle Pepe
Marjorie: You have two replies on the Tiller thread.
By phyllis Doyle Pepe on 06/02/2009 5:41 pm
Marjorie C.

phyllis:  two replies on the Tiller thread.

That thread seems to have been closed to replies, so I will respond here to say I accept your opinion.  For the most part we are not worlds apart in our thinking — Roe vs Wade should remain intact.  I would never advocate for any change there.  But I will say this, there has to be a reason why there were only three clinics in the entire U.S. lawfully performing this type of abortion, and the blame (?) cannot be only placed on pro-life activists. 

    

By Marjorie C. on 06/03/2009 7:57 am
phyllis Doyle Pepe
Well, let’s leave it at that. The pro-life activists are only part of the problem. Thanks for responding.
By phyllis Doyle Pepe on 06/03/2009 8:09 am
James the Game
Yeah, Marj, my mother died of Lung cancer.
By James the Game on 06/02/2009 10:16 pm
Marjorie C.

James,

I’m sincerely sorry to hear that. 

I’m one who believes the mother is the focus of a family, the glue that holds it together, not that I’m diminishing the role of the father, who to me is the solid foundation in traditional families.  Losing your mother is tough.

By Marjorie C. on 06/03/2009 7:14 am
James the Game
Thanks, Marj. I loved her more than anything. Kind, gentle, sweet, humorous, caring, loyal…all these qualities, and she gave her an entire adult life to her family. Mom passed away Aug. 7, 2001, and my father on Christmas Day 2001. My beloved Jude died June 2, 1991…the 18th anniversary just the other day.
By James the Game on 06/03/2009 10:59 am
Irish Eyes NY

Hi Marjorie:

I’ve had skin cancer (basal cell) removed from my face 3 different spots, 3 different times.  Every one looked different.

By Irish Eyes NY on 06/03/2009 6:37 pm
Lin Cercone
Yes, I’ve had breast cancer. I wish I could say something upbeat and/or profound, but the truth is IT SUCKS!  I do admire women who go on tv and speak about being survivors and seem to be really o.k. and accepting.  My experience was assembly line radiation treatment, not even a "good morning" from women positioning me on terrifying table, tatooing my naked breast, basically ignoring me.  Trying to drive back and forth every day for treatment, dr visits, waiting in cold waiting rooms for hours on end for a five min. talk with drs.  Also, I was a very pretty women, treatment, drugs, etc. made me very ill.  The only thing that helped was eating, so now I’m 50 lbs heavier, lopsided, my skin aged 30 yrs.  As I said, "IT SUCKS!"  Please, don’t anyone respond with any good intentioned rhetoric, I’ve heard enough. 
By Lin Cercone on 06/02/2009 10:39 am
joanne in jax
Yes, Lin, it does suck.  I had a mascetomy four years ago August and had multiple complications.  As a result, I had five major general anesthesia surgeries in under three years.  I had to stop HRT, which I had been on for more than ten years after having a very large but benign tumor which necessitated a complete hysterectomy (at age 42, single and childless).  Immediately, my skin began to age and I was thrust into full blown menopause for a second time.  Hot flashes and surgical pain is not a good mix.  I feel strongly that my original plastic surgeon completely botched my surgery.  I, too, am lopsided (I feel maimed) and heavier, after losing a great deal of weight after my diagnosis.  I am "lucky" that they caught it in time to spare me the radiation and chemo, but there is nothing else about the process I felt "hopeful" or "enlightened" by.  I am a survivor, sure, but feel more like I survived a war, not cancer.
By joanne in jax on 06/02/2009 11:55 am
Lin Cercone
Hey Joanne:  I’m sorry that you had to go through so much.  Thank you for your honesty.  I think we all need that most of all.  I don’t want to be a "heroine" I sometimes just want to bitch about it.  Yes IT SUCKS.
By Lin Cercone on 06/02/2009 2:14 pm
Nancy Pea

lin, joanne, i know it’s trite. but no matter what your alive. yes, you have been to hell and back and survived. i too, went thru a radical hysterectomy, but my dr gave me a choice. i wanted it ALL out and i got it. i was taking HRT for a good few years. but then lost my insurance and couldn’t get it anymore. luckily as time went on my body adjusted.

i was ready to go back to work 2wks after the operation and was lucky i didn’t have to go thru radiation and chemo therepy. but there were still costs. now i have several auto immune deficiency diseases and feel like an old woman. i’m 30lbs overweight, in pain most of the time and having to try for SSI/SSDi just to survive. luckily my kids are here to take care of me. so yes, you lost your ageless beauty, yes you feel awful but it could be a lot worse believe me i know.

By Nancy Pea on 06/02/2009 4:04 pm
kermie b

I have had three types of cancer: uterine cancer and fibroids treated with lasers (I refused a hysterectomy and did two years of research), the cancer did not come back but the fibroids did; another too painful to discuss; and lost a chunk of my forehead from skin cancer.  I have never smoked, don’t eat meat, have cut down to the minimum of sugar and caffeine, and am eliminating gluten for digestive reasons.  I know my predisposition to cancer is genetic, and there is nothing besides diet, exercising and trying to keep an upbeat attitude that I can do to change it.

I totally understand anyone who says "It sucks!" and does not want to be patted on the back.  Being patronized makes me angry.   

By kermie b on 06/02/2009 11:04 am
Laura Ward
I said no and it’s still 50% with 19 responses?
By Laura Ward on 06/02/2009 11:15 am
Caroline Wilkenson
Normal 0 I have not had cancer, thank God. But there is a history of breast cancer in my family. It’s one of the things that I worry about when I have one of my pensive moods. I have these moods often. My divorce was very bitter and I often have moods where I think of ways to get “even” with my ex. I have read the comments of other divorced women. It seems that many of them, like me, have had bitter experiences during their divorce. I would like to see a Relationships discussion on the various aspects of divorce.
By Caroline Wilkenson on 06/02/2009 11:58 am
dick davis

Caroline: If there is a history of breast cancer in your family, please get regular checkups. I’ve had the exact same feelings for my now ex wife. I was told to let go, but I wanted my revenge. I would like to talk to somebody about this subject, as relationship(s) are the #1 life experience anyone will ever have.

By dick davis on 06/02/2009 5:44 pm
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