Now that I’m older, my definition of marraige and why people marry has changed. I use to believe it was suppose to be because you fell in love and wanted to commit yourself to a partner for life. Now that has changed. I don’t ever want to be married, but it is strictly because I know I would be impossible to live with and wouldn’t want to put a man I love through that hell.

However for women who marry strictly for money, I have always wondered how they could do that and not feel like they are whores? You are with a man for the "physical" things he can give you, not the emotional. You gain your orgasms not from his touch, but from the diamonds, car and clothes he buys you. Surely on some level that must make them feel dirty.  I have only had a handful of committed relationships in my life and of the men I have been with only one qualifies as low income.   I didn’t intentionally set out to find men of wealth and still don’t, it just happens.

However I could never seriously commit to a man I wasn’t in love with, money or no money. I always try to treat people as I would want to be treated. Sometimes people make it hard to live by that rule. But for the most part as a woman, if you had a man in your life that you knew was only with you because of what you could give him, you can’t honestly say you wouldn’t be hurt on some level.

Women (in my opinion) need to stop thinking as if men have no emotions and are made of steel. They’re not.  Rich or poor, they want love, companionship and a best friend, just like we do.

I have learned that nothing comes for free in this life……

My rich friends are not happier than I am.

When I visit, I see it’s a lot of work to manage  a certain lifestyle.

Besides, there are always people running around, and I like privacy…

After two, three days, I am content to return to my own life.

 After being friends for 40 years, I have never envied them……..

I find this whole debate offensive. First, a doctor who has time to write these kind of books clearly has more time on her hands than she’s whingeing about. I’m a stay-at-home and I don’t have time to write like that - I’m too busy parenting.

In fact, I don’t even have time to write out all the ways this article is the urbane woman’s way of acting out like Perez Hilton. I have to get my kids to swim class.

The idea that "love doesn’t last" comes from people to whom relationships are disposable, to whom love has never lasted.  Of course you’re going to be bitter about an ideal that you can never "get" because you’re too busy counting the bucks in a guy’s wallet or checking his pedigree to see all the greatness that is in him. 

 I wouldn’t trade the love I share with my husband for all the money, riches, and indentured servants it could all buy.   At the end of your life, your eulogies will read:  "She is survived by a massive fortune that is now being fought over by her fair-weather friends and money-grubbing sycophants, because all she ever meant to them was a bankroll waiting to be cashed in."

 Money is fleeting.  Love is eternal… If you believe in that, anyway.  :)

When we were teenagers, my father would say to us girls "Don’t marry for money, you get it cheaper at the bank"

I actually really like this article.  I think the point of the article isn’t "Marry for money" rather see marriage as more of a business deal than people do today.  You bring some assets, he brings some assets, you merge, hopefully work as a team and if not, you break the contract and go along your merry way.  Love is wonderful and important, please don’t get me wrong.  You should first be marrying for compatibility, which most likely starts with love.  But also look at it as the business decision that it is.   I am very lucky (and recognize it so) that I have found love with a partner who is good at his job.