Instantly, Liza, my thought in answer to that clever wording was:  who’s isn’t.  Now if you slip up on the wedding gift too long, they seem to call it off anyhow.  Seems there are always other fish in the sea, often swimming in schools toward the newly separated.  As for widowers, the women now move so fast with the cassaroles that the funeral is not even over.  My widower friend said he is awash with cassaroles and his phone has never been busier with its ringing … A slice of life of the world today, like it or not.  Good one and so appropriate.  Joan