I’m quite dissapointed this site decided to run this article.  "Rainbowing" is not only a very old story, but has proven to be false (or, at least, far from ordinary); it’s an urban legend.  See here http://www.cracked.com/article_17040_6-most-insane-moral-panics-in-ameri… and here http://www.nytimes.com/2005/06/30/fashion/thursdaystyles/30rainbow.html .  Is it possible it has happened?  Yes. Is it common or likely to be common?  Highly unlikely.  It looks like it started because some guy wrote a book to warn against oral sex (see NY times article).

The bracelets thing is no longer in vogue, but it is true that middle school girls used to wear those colored bracelets.  However, after talking to a lot of middle school girls at that time, many didn’t even know that’s what they represented, and most of the other girls were just pretending they would do it (and had no real intention of doing it).  Sad they would pretend something like that, but hey, they are middle school girls.

However, this does not change the fact that teen and preteen sexuality is a problem, but it would be better to do a story based on actual statistics, rather than sensationalized stories of urban myths.

Try this: "According to the 1995 National Survey of Adolescent Males, released in 2000, about half of boys aged 15 to 19 had received oral sex from a girl, and slightly more than a third had performed it."

From the comments I have seen so far on this page I have not seen one from an adolescent point of view, are we so mistrusted?  I am an 18 year old woman, and I lost my virginity at 16 (and I regret absolutely nothing) to a long term childhood sweeheart and I freely admit I have not matured enough to know what I truly want from life or love. But what i do know, is this ridiculous ‘Rainbow Party’ craze is a myth, or at very least a complete and utter fabrication, and it is in NO way on the rise. The subject of parents becoming distressed over this issue has been openly mocked on many youth websites.

I understand that promiscuity among young adolescents is on the rise, but presenting youthes as crazed nymphomaniacs is overreacting entirely and, infact, adding fuel to the fire. And yes, I believe parents should have an open and understanding attitude about sex from an early age. If you have shied away from talking to your children until my age, or as early as 16, there’s no point, they’ve already experimented because nobody bothered to talk to them about it beforehand.

The rise of promiscuity and sexual behaviour, is sadly down to the development of the modern world, the easy access to media files on the internet and a lack of communicative and functional families. I’m afraid it is the way that society is changing, and perhaps it is pessimistic to say, but it is inevitable that human behaviour will change over time as we evolve as a race. And the least we can do is tackle any problems with the mindset that it isn’t your child’s fault. It is just the direction the world is taking and there is little we can do.

Everyone just needs to cheer up! Tackle these issues with a positive mindset! Of course the world is changing, its naive to think things would always stay the same.

Mel P and Anna,

      This culture (or something very similar) is on-going, especially on our college campuses throughout the U.S.—both at private and public colleges. The high schools or middle schools vary, depending—plus these students are still at home and there is the chance for some supervision, discussion with parents (who are interested in talking with their children.) 

      Anna, no one is saying that you aren’t trusted. Quite the opposite, it’s the adults that aren’t doing their job. I first became aware of this situation (or similar to it—or worse than described above actually) when my son went to college and at Christmas break, he and a gathering of his friends (and these are open-minded, smart, attractive students who were leaders in their high schools)—students from a variety of colleges, some private and some public. What I heard was disturbing and they were disturbed and annoyed that so much acting-out (sexual usually with alcohol abuse) was allowed to dominate campus culture as a matter of course. The administrations simply turned a blind eye.

   Dating—out. "Hooking-up"—-in. As are "college marriages" (not literally marriages but an alternative to the hooking up culture but doesn’t offer the experience of dating different people)—google "hooking-up" and you’ll find plenty of information. If you are a parent, it’s incumbent upon you to know of this culture and it is pervasive.

   It also seems that many females (not all by any means) but too many seem to think that feminism means "we now have the ‘right’ to objectify ourselves." And they are doing so. It’s very sad, unhealthy and gets at the issues the in the article above. Too many of the girls are seeing "liberation" in strictly male terms (and in negative male terms) as in doing what the worst of the boys’ do. And the girls are the ones to usually lose out in so many ways. It’s truly a problem. Raise your awareness everyone. An excellent book is Laura Sessions Stepp’s book, Unhooked. Get a copy and she’s soon to have a podcast on this very subject so check it out. Should be up and running before long.

Thanks. 

This is the most absurd thing I have heard in a very long time, I’m in my late teens about to graduate high school, & I have never  met or heard anyone in my whole high-school (which has over 8,000 kids) talk about "rainbowing." Yes, the sex bracelets are something that everyone used to wear, but it was something everyone did in Jr. High School, & everyone wore them to tell how many guys we had kissed (not to say how far they would go sexually). Trust me, I’m not naive, I had lots of sex in high school, with more than one person I might add, and yes most girls in high school are having sex, BUT the bullshit about "rainbowing" is all just rumors, I don’t live in a small town, & I’m not sheltered, this is not a issue that even needs to be discussed with most teen girls, maybe a certain few, but I doubt that any girl wants to give head to some random dude anyway. & Mom’s on here talk to your teenage girls! I didn’t know anything about sex, so I just had sex, curiosity killed the cat, just remember that moms. I never had the open relationship with my mom where I could talk to her about sex, & I think if I would have had that, I wouldn’t have had sex at 14 or had sex with the number of guys I had sex with. Girls never really talk about sex with there girl friends, so girls are always curious, all parents feel like they need to say is "use protection," "don’t get pregnant," etc. But you need to be saying a lot more than that. If you just give your daughter information about sex, then maybe it will prolong her from actually having sex. I know I’m not a parent, & those who have no children raise them best, but I do feel like my opinion on the issue is relevant.

—Lindsey

as probably the only person under 50 on this website i wanted to let you know that this whole thing is ridiculous.  People keep talking about these rainbow parties and bracelete wearing trends and I have yet to meet an actual teen or twenty something who has met someone who wears these bracelets or goes to rainbow parties.

I wonder if the people who write this stuff have ever even had oral sex.  the shades of lipstick out there aren’t really that varried and if people were doing the act the colors would just mush together anyway.  So the man part would either be just pinkinsh or if you found good colors it would be all brown.  No one puts their mouth on a brown man part.

Most people I know don’t go down on a guy unless they are in a relationship and the guy goes down on them too.  I also know lots of people who just don’t like to go downtown… and guess what they do- THEY DON’T DO IT

Give your daughters more credit- this is all made up.  Like any urban legend i’m sure that it is based in some reality but for the most part i think if you hear your son or daughter talking about this they are probably exaggerating or spreading a roomer about a girl that they think gets around.

I’m shocked that you people beleive your kids would do this!

also if you have one girl put her mouth on a teen peen the guy would probably finnish right there and no other girl would be able to get there after the first girl- rainbow party over!

also- i never had sex in high school and my fiance never did either and

neither of us are religious

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