Yes, we have both relocated.  Straight out of grad school in ‘77 (he was in AZ and I was in IN) we were both looking for jobs and knew we wanted to get married.  Because the job market at that time was the best in TX I moved there and lived with a former sister-in-law and my boyfriend, now husband followed.  After that we moved 3 times in TX for his career each time I was either pregnant or just had a baby.  No, I was not happy about each move but knew I could make friends no matter where I went.  I did tell my husband that I did not want to move the children once they started high school.  During the years he was offered promotion to more expensive area (OC CA) and we did our homework - the promotion was not a financial promotion in the end.  Few years later same situation arose.  2 children in college and daughter starting senior year in hs and daughter starting 8th grade.  The company offered a great financial package but I insisted that I remain in TX with daughters so they could have their senior year and 8th grade year and I could continue my job which I loved.  It was a year we will all remember and it turned out to be the right thing for us.  I reluctantly moved and now I absolutely love living in my beach town and my youngest daughter made the move without any problems and attended a great hs and made many friends.  I laugh when I think how I fought the move. My husband was recently retired from his job and I am praying that we can stay here.  Life works in mysterious ways - just enjoy the ride on the roller coaster.

Yes - I was a military wife and we moved every 3 to 4 years. It was an adventure, especially with children, and I learned a great deal about our country and how strong I am as a woman. Now that he is retired and we have been in the same place for 10 years he is ready to move, my answer, no problem, enjoy yourself BUT I am not moving, I am done and staying put.

There was, and still is, nothing I wouldn’t do for my husband. 

When we married, he was in law school and I worked for the government.  It was I that wanted to relocate and really wanted him to take the bar exam in another state.  It would have been easy for me to get a transfer and I liked the idea.  He didn’t and we stayed……it’s okay, but that was a decision I’ve always wondered about.

 Sacrificing my dream for that another — I would think that one would eventually so resent the person asking that of you.  Though there are dreams and dreams — some of them we outgrow, some of them aren’t feasible for many reasons and some we manage to do later in life. 

 

Yes, I have moved for my husband. I’m glad I live where I am but if I had thought twice and not been so damn in love I wouldn’t do it again.

I’m living this  problem at this very moment.  My husband loves the small, secluded mountain town that his family has lived in for many generations. I love the energy of the city/suburbs similar to where I grew up. We’ve been married and in this small town for the past 12 years and I’m growing restless.

 Please know that I have nothing against small towns.  It’s just this small town that is nestled in the central mountains of Colorado , is on average the coldest spot in the nation and is over an hours drive over mountain passes to get to another town of reasonable size (the nearest Target is an hours drive).

Some people have told me that I knew what I was getting into when I married him. To that I say that before we married, I asked him if he would consider moving for my families sake and he said that he would. Now, he says that he will never leave. Here’s another twist is that we have a son who is 6 and who loves being in the energy of the city. Majority rules? Not here.

I have tried to entice him with the idea that moving to a place with more population means more options for recreational activities, better dining chioces, a movie theater (out town doesn’t have one), higher paying jobs and a lower cost of living. While sometimes it appears that these comments are being pondered, most of the time I feel like I am talking to the wall. I’ve even researched online, the pay scale for jobs similar to the one that I currently have in more urban areas and it’s double to what I am making now.

If it were not for the child, I’d have been out of here years ago. With the kiddo, I am torn between two points of view.  Would it not  be better to stick it out for the childs sake  and why should the two of us (Mom and kid) be miserable for the sake of a spoiled dad.

So to answer the question… would I move for my husband? In my case it’s more about would I stay here for my husband or move for myself.