When I was a young girl, my mother told me to always check out a man’s shoes. she believed you could tell a lot about a man by the shoes he wears, LOL!
The quality I look for in a man are the qualities I found in my husband: A fantastic sense of humor, adverture seeking, impecable hygene, a sense of commitment, respect, tenderness, and fidelity. The same things I’m willing to offer.
Sometimes you have to step back and say, "yeah, the job is good, suits are good, the shoes, not so much; the hair is good, but that unibrow has to go. Now, his shoes are quite fetching and he’s been waxed. He’s the perfect man.
To add to what O E said about the qualities I look for in a man:
emotional support, sensitivity, compassion, empathy, emotional support, a great sense of humour, keeping fit for his spouse, nurturing, the ability to listen without distractions, communication, the abiltity to articulate, respect, trust in that what I say when asked a question, I don’t expect him to question when I know I’m right and I can be right on occasion. I guess two out of twelve is about all I can expect. I don’t want to go into what’s missing with the other nine qualities. The man I married came from a severely dysfunctional family life and there wasn’t any respect, nor any manners, oh….that counts as a quality even though he seems to resent or doesn’t like to be reminded of asking him to tell him, "I wish you would say excuse me like your mother never did." He’d feel criticized and hurt. A lot of what I don’t get is the legacy of Mommie/Daddy Dearest.
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To add to what O E said about the qualities I look for in a man:
emotional support, sensitivity, compassion, empathy, emotional support, a great sense of humour, keeping fit for his spouse, nurturing, the ability to listen without distractions, communication, the abiltity to articulate, respect, trust in that what I say when asked a question, I don’t expect him to question when I know I’m right and I can be right on occasion. I guess two out of twelve is about all I can expect. I don’t want to go into what’s missing with the other nine qualities. The man I married came from a severely dysfunctional family life and there wasn’t any respect, nor any manners, oh….that counts as a quality even though he seems to resent or doesn’t like to be reminded of asking him to tell him, "I wish you would say excuse me like your mother never did." He’d feel criticized and hurt. A lot of what I don’t get is the legacy of Mommie/Daddy Dearest.