Question of the Day | 09/22/2009 5:00 am
What is the quality you most like in a man?
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Someone who can make me laugh, sees the ridiculousness in most things, respect for others, not afraid to say he loves me and a kindness to and love of children.
A sense of humor, patience, and a wicked walk. Most men who walk great, dance great and know how to have great sex. That’s about it for me.
Most of ‘em gone! Now, I think a lot of Frank and those who are as open as he. So, not all are bad. smirk
Intelligent (without ego), Compassion (without politics), Conversation (without manipulation), Clean (without fussy), Confidence (without cocky), Humor (without putdowns).
A willingness to genuinely listen. Without interrupting or thinking he must provide an answer or knows everything.
I’ll admit my like of men has seriously dwindled the last 10 years. My nearest female relatives have been put through the wringer of divorce twice thanks to selfish idiots. Recently I got burned by two male friends, who I genuinely did care about. One apologized and we’re friends again; the other is apparently SO justified. Sure, women can be stinkers and bad apples too. But men are not all that great, as we’re socialized to believe or trust they are. Hence romance novels (which I refuse to read).
As a lover of men, I agree with you Cindy. I stated in an earlier post that I gravitate to males more than females. As I’ve matured, I’ve noticed a subtle but relevant shift in attitude. It appears to me that as women age, they abandon those catty characteristics that kept me on the fence of sisterhood. Older men on the other hand become more self-absorbed and interested in attracting the attention of younger prey LOL. They no longer enjoy the company of a contemporary. A nod of respect, maybe a kind gesture or two but that’s it. It’s funny, but I’m not angry, just a little disappointed. Now the young men are all the rage. They want to talk and learn about things because they know as older women, most of us are nurturing spirits and willing to share. I never had romantic notions about men, but I certainly appreciate one my age who values my uniqueness.
Generosity, is a huge draw for me. If a man is stingy with money, he will also be stingy with his affections. It isn’t about material things. As long as he is generous with his time and he’s tender, that’s enough for me.
A good sense of humor and sense of space make me like him even more. I stay away from grumps. Happiness is contagious; if he’s happy, it rubs off on me. He also has to be curious about the world around him. I need a lot of space and he has to understand that.
Some mystery, spontaneously romantic, but emotionally connected. I want to feel butterflies when I’m near him.
Both humor and integrity are musts. The idea that virtue alone is should attract us might have worked for Plato, but I don’t think it’s realistic. It’s also true that I have no use for a jokester I can’t count on. With lovers, life partners, and long-term friends, I think we all need someone to help us get through, both by being supportive and by laughing with us. I don’t think I could do without either.
A great sense of humor, intelligence, kindness, a bit of an old fashioned gentleman, likes to cook, and his politics have to be the same as mine. My mother always said a husband should love his wife a little bit more than she loves him. I think that is so true.
A man who is comfortable with himself.
Can hold an intelligent conversation.
cares about the world around him.
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