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Question of the Day | 10/02/2009 2:00 am

What was/is your biggest dream for yourself?

Join Joan Ganz Cooney, Liz Smith and Candice Bergen in the conversation and tell us the hopes you’ve harbored throughout your life.
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Joan Ganz Cooney

Joan Ganz Cooney | 10/02/2009 1:00 am

Joan Ganz Cooney Thanks the Gods of Television

When I was about eight I told my mother and one of her friends that when I grew up I wanted to be a nun, an opera singer or a mother. My mother’s friend said, "You can’t be a nun and a mother," to which I answered, "Well, I could have a bastard." I had once seen the word and asked my mother what it meant and she said it’s the child of an unmarried mother so my response to my mother’s friend was, in my opinion, pretty smart.

I couldn’t carry a tune so I had to give up the opera singer dream and becoming a nun lost its appeal fairly early in my life and biological motherhood was not to be (although five stepchildren came along in my middle age). I thank whatever gods there be for television, which gave me something new (in the 1950s) to dream about.

Candice Bergen

Candice Bergen | 10/02/2009 12:00 am

Candice Bergen on the Dreams That Came True

At 63, the statute of limitations on dreams may have run out. But when I was younger, I dreamed of having a real chance to do comedy, never thinking I’d get it. Then a couple of films and then "Murphy" for ten years came along and I was in heaven. About the same time, my daughter, Chloe, was born, and she has transcended any dream status. My first marriage was a dream. I was in a dreamlike state for years. Then Chloe’s arrival was a Divine Event. My second marriage was a miracle. Now, not to be greedy, but I dream of all of us (but mostly me) living long, productive, lucid lives to be around family and people I love.

Liz Smith

Liz Smith | 10/02/2009 12:00 am

Liz Smith's Biggest Dream

My biggest dream for myself was to be onstage in New York, singing, dancing and seeing my name up in lights. And meeting famous and glamorous people. Even though early on I became convinced that I didn’t have the talent for it, I still managed to see my name in lights, to hobnob with only the best riffraff and eventually I found myself singing, as an amateur and for charity, onstage at Carnegie Hall, Town Hall, the Shubert theaters and the Metropolitan Opera stage. 

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51 Reader Comments (so far…) Sign In or Register to comment

Susan Crawford
Oh, Joan, I SO agree with you that it would be great to be close enough to drop by for a cup of tea and a good long chat! Your writing never fails to resonate with me, and I find a great deal of inspiration in your words. Thank you for your kind comments - writing is such an enormous comfort for me, and, I suspect, for you as well. We’re lucky to have this great website - otherwise we might never have "met". Have a wonderful day!
By Susan Crawford on 10/04/2009 8:45 am
Jane Rogers
As a young girl growing up I wanted to be the lady in the folgers coffee commercial, the one standing at the window drinking her coffee and watching the crossing guard lead her children across the street.  Then as a teenager my dream was to not be that person in the mirror, to gain some self-esteem, to accomplish something.  As I moved into adulthood my dream was to raise my daughters to have more self-esteem than I had, I believe I succeed in that, because all of them are now grown and I have heard them voice their opinions loud and clear.  Now my dream is to grow with someone who loves not for the money I bring in or the food I cook but because I am a lovable person.  Am I there yet? Not sure…
By Jane Rogers on 10/02/2009 4:21 pm
Chris Glass`

My dreams have matured as life happened around me. When I was young I simply yearned to be an adult because I thought they had all the answers. As a young adult I wanted to be successful and was. When my husband was diagnosed with Myasthenia Gravis and later with other challenges I wanted him to see our boys graduate from school and reach adulthood. Now that they are all out of college and self-supporting I want us to see other milestones together. This time can’t be duplicated at a later date.

By Chris Glass` on 10/02/2009 4:26 pm
Lee Harrison

I never dreamed of a "Big Life" as our Mary Wells would say.  I wanted to be as invisible as possible.  I wanted to be a librarian without really understanding what a librarian does.  I just knew I always loved libraries. 

After I had kids, my goal was to be able to send them to whatever college they wanted to go to for as much education as they wanted.  By the grace of God and some very good luck, we were able to do that.  I was a stay at home mom (and professional volunteer and driver) until my oldest’s first day of classes as an undergrad.  That same day, I started working at our local library.  I went to grad school while I worked but opted not to finish the MLS degree.  I worked as a "reference assistant" for ten years.  When I started, we still had card catalogs.  I was there through the digital revolution and truly loved that aspect of the job.

So…my dreams were small but fulfilled.  My kids are happy and well educated; my husband and I are healthy; and I love my volunteer job at the library!  

By Lee Harrison on 10/02/2009 7:58 pm
laura Emmons
My dream for myself is to sell my romance novels. I enjoy writing them so much I want people to talk about them with. LOL I know I’m suppose to want to be successful for the money but honestly I just want to talk about my characters till I’m sick of them. :)
By laura Emmons on 10/02/2009 8:47 pm
Lizzie R.
Since most of my life is behind me, I can say that maybe my earlier big dreams were not quite fullfilled, but, nevertheless, I had a wonderful life, married 58 yrs. to a military man and moving all over every few years. It was very interesting and sometimes exciting, having met so many wonderful people, and having great friends. The loss of my youngest son was the only major blight on my life, but my other 2 children grew up to be amazing people, both with really nice husband/wife. My 6 grandchildren have become such wonderful adults, and the 4 who are married have great mates. My 4 great grandchildren are so adorable, and I hope they grow to become as great as their predecessors, although I will not be around to see that. Now, my hope, not my dream, is that I will live the rest of my life in health, and remain as active as I am now. I hope I will not get dementia or senility and become a burden on my children. I guess, in the end, that is what we all hope for.
By Lizzie R. on 10/02/2009 10:10 pm
Tina Littlepage
I want to finish my Art Education degree, that should have been completed sooo many years ago but because of personal reasons they weren’t.  But I am so glad I have the opportunity now and I’m nearly finished.  Being a teacher has been a dream of mine since I was seven years old.  Another dream, is being a published author, which I’m working on too.  I feel like I’ve lived two lives sometimes.
By Tina Littlepage on 10/03/2009 8:02 am
Signing On

I still have my life plan, written out on a legal pad, in fact, it resides in a pull out top, adjacent to me right now. I’ve never forgotten writing it.

The dream has been reviewed, recently, while dealing with some reality times. The outcome was interesting, but at first, I thought nothing now could be so far from my life’s dream written down for commitment.

What I have realized is that dream, written 29 years ago, has been fulfilled! It comprised in a few legal size pages, hand-written, all aspects of my life to date, just not in "that place," or under the circumstances, merely more spatial, with the same people, in fact. Life is interesting. I am interesting.

By Signing On on 10/03/2009 11:00 am
Laurie Deer
My biggest dream is to finish my book then publish it.  I wrote since a teenager and spent my "before children" life working intermittently for local newspapers.  Back then I viewed my craft as a means to an end, not exploring the creative and career possibilities it could lead to.  Thus, the avenues I explore now in writing are endless and quite fun.  Dreams are wonderful. 
By Laurie Deer on 10/03/2009 12:16 pm
rocky rocky
Dreams? Maybe a better word for me is "goals." Right now my goals are to stay self-sufficient as long as I’m alive and to be the best grandmother I can and I’m allowed to be. The rest is out of my hands … 
By rocky rocky on 10/03/2009 1:25 pm
jeanmarie kennedy
My biggest dream is to live in a foreign country in which no relative would likely ever visit much less live in. I found my dream country, my dream place, bought a modest home, remodeled it, got settled in and guess what happened next….   my least favorite cousin moved here because I did. I guess this is evidence of the expression, "that which you resists, persists." To deal with it, my husband bought me a punching bag, (it works! One good swing and I feel instantly better), but now that this dream is demolished, I am working on finding dream # 2. 
By jeanmarie kennedy on 10/03/2009 5:44 pm
Sheila Romano
My dream as of today is to get the money to get into school, do well and get my degree to improve myself.
By Sheila Romano on 10/03/2009 6:33 pm
diana sheldrick

To live somewhere where the air is clean and working in a school where I can relax, focus on my teaching and the kids I teach. To have a fruitful garden and be able to teach polymer clay and beading from my own studio.

That is apart from the obligatory peace for the world, end starvation and have good health. :-)

By diana sheldrick on 10/03/2009 11:42 pm
KatyDid Wells

I’ve had so many dreams, fulfilled, unfulfilled, and yet to be fulfilled, but I have one simple dream that comes to mind each time I blow out a candle, wish on a star, or watch the wisps of a dandelion fly into the wind and that is simply to be able to grow old - very old - with my husband. 

I actually have an image in my minds eye of the two of us, still many years into the future, quietly sitting together outside on our porch - enjoying each other’s company and thinking about our long lives together.

It may not sound like much, but it means that we will have safely made it through.

By KatyDid Wells on 10/04/2009 1:49 am
A R

Mine…hmmm….I always wanted to be bilingual! I have been trying to learn Spanish since age 8!

I took classes in high school and early college, but dropped out of college for many years to just work.

I eventually graduated and have had a great teaching job for years now—with international students! Ha.

That gives me a chance to hear Spanish every day and to practice it with newcomers. I took an intermediate level college Spanish class this summer, and have been reading a novel most of the summer in that language too.

I’ve decided that I may not get to do it the "easy" way (like living abroad for immersion), but I have found a way to attain my dream over time. I’m still working on it! Haven’t stopped yet! I get a little better each year!

By A R on 10/04/2009 9:43 am