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Must-Know Beauty Tips | 07/28/2009 11:00 am

Biggest Beauty Mistake: The Pressure to Be 'Forever Young'

Embrace your age and wear it with confidence.’
By Patrice Elizabeth Grell Yursik – Afrobella
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Editor’s note: We would like to thank the fabulous Patrice at Afrobella for providing us the answer to our question: What is the biggest beauty mistake the over-40-year-old woman makes?

The biggest beauty mistake the over-40-year-old woman makes is not embracing her age. Too frequently we feel pressured to be forever young by artificial means, to fit into someone else’s definition of what’s hot, what’s sexy or what’s beautiful. I say embrace your age and wear it with confidence. If you get a wrinkle, don’t rush to make an appointment for some kind of injectable, or cover it up with too much makeup. If your hair gets a little gray, don’t overcompensate with an over-the-top hair color. Or go clothes shopping at Forever 21. Figure out what makes you feel beautiful and, most importantly, happy. Own your age, wear your experience with pride and be comfortable in your own skin. There’s nothing hotter, sexier or more beautiful.

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micheleT
I freaked out at first when I turned 40 and thought OMG where do I buy clohthes, and my hair was showing God’s natural highlights..Then I thought you know I look good!  I left the young stores and went to penny’s, belk, dillards etc..and kept my blonde highlights and I will be 41 in about a month and 1/2 and I think Im loving this time in my life!  Things seem to be less stressful now..I am totally embracing my life.  I do feel way sexier than I ever did!  The 40’s are great!  
By micheleT on 07/28/2009 12:35 pm
LC4

Michele T

You’re a mere toddler :-)

By LC4 on 07/28/2009 12:44 pm
micheleT
Thanks..but I am a army wife who has seen more in my life than some in there 50’s and 60’s..deployments, death, Iraq, afgh. being alone..and trust me stress is bad on the body!  Laying in bed wondering where my husband is, and if and when he will come home! 
By micheleT on 08/03/2009 11:24 am
LC4

Hypocrisy! … The article speaks of women embracing their age while showing a photograph of a young attractive woman. A woman who obviously has no wrinkles.

Wow all of your beauty advertisements show Caucasian women.

Would it have been too much to show a photograph of a "Mature "African American woman or woman of color.

There are many standards of beauty and they’re not all Caucasian! … Please respect all of your readers and try something new. Try showing some diversity! 

Personally, many of the women I knowof all ethnicity’s wear very little makeup.

It appears the natural skin tone of women of color produce enough color and highlights on their own. There’s not the usual need to enhance ones complexion like the Caucasian woman. It’s the melanin in the skin. Darker skin takes longer to age. A woman with a dark complexion can be sixty yet look forty. 

By LC4 on 07/28/2009 12:40 pm
CHardy
I think the woman in this picture is gorgeous….40 is FAB!
By CHardy on 07/28/2009 9:20 pm
ZenziBell

First of all, I saw the picture as a caricature, nothing else.  I’m sure the author had nothing to do with what image the editor decided to place there.

 That said, I don’t understand the big problem with aging, or showing signs of aging.  If women embraced their natural beauty, men would have no choice but to do so, as well.  Personally, I don’t want to look like a 15-year-old now that I’m 41, and I definitely don’t want people treating me as such.  I earned my stripes, I won’t hide them, and I demand respect for them.  Looking like a teeny bopper won’t get me that respect.

By ZenziBell on 07/29/2009 11:37 am
LoisJoyJohnson1

I was the beauty + fashion director of MORE magazine for ten years.

I think women 40 to 50 are still trying too hard to be "young" vs women 50 + who find age is just a number and not the big deal it seemed at 40. They just want to look amazingly healthy

slim, energetic and stay fashionable, evolved and involved.

By LoisJoyJohnson1 on 07/29/2009 8:00 pm
KellyJodar
I will be forty in December.  After reading the article I realized that for the first time ever, I like me!  To hell with the extra few pounds, to hell with the wrinkles!  My family loves me, my dogs love me and God loves me.  I’ve been there and done that and although I have made many mistakes I regret nothing! When I find myself envying the skinny, gorgeous 20 something I try to remember that inside there is an insecure, struggling human being wishing her life was as together as mine. 
By KellyJodar on 08/27/2009 6:19 pm