I wish we could be satisfied with the looks our genes have given us. Unfortunately, many feel that they are judged exclusively in terms of their looks and that they have to spend time, energy and money on improving them or maintaining them.
I know some beautiful women and some women who were born with or developed, as a result of cancer therapies, looks that might make some people cringe. The latter are, however, among my dearest friends, being talented, warm-hearted, funny, kind, generous, and unselfish.
One of my friends who is not aging well has become infinitely more beautiful in my eyes as a result of some extraordinarily kind gestures that she has made towards others.
So, you can keep your raised faces, liposuctioned thighs, and surgically diminished noses. I’ll take my homely friends, warts and all!
I am, heaven knows, no great beauty but - and this is truly surprising to me - at almost 62, I feel FARMORE beautiful than I did at 21. The difference is due entirely to self-confidence. So, maybe, women who are contemplating plastic surgery need lessons in self-confidence more than anything else (and such lessons are cheaper than surgery,entirely non-invasive and without risk of secondary infection!).
Haven’t we just about beat this plastic surgery horse to death? Sam, your comments make ME wish we could all be satisfied with the looks our genes have given us. Unfortunately, this is not the case except for people like you and the friends you were describing. This youth obsessed culture doesn’t give a rat’s ass if you are self confident or not if you happen to be on the silver screen, on the Tube, trying to get a job at age 62. So these "many feel that they are judged exclusively [or almost, I would add] in terms of their looks…" are correct in that assumption. Then there are those who may not be in the public eye, but for a myriad number of reasons want to upgrade. If one can afford it, if it helps booster one’s feelings, then let the cutting begin. But, oh, how I wish it were otherwise.
I think one aspect of the problem is that so few women get enough exercise. Exercise, outside, tones the muscles, quiets the mind, gives one a healthy glow and makes one feel good about oneself. YOU know that, of course. And then, how many women eat a healthy diet? Since I turned sixty, I’ve upped the exercise and cut my consumption of meat to about once a month. I’ve replaced snacking on Hershey kisses with oatmeal for breakfast and started eating more nuts (unsalted, with no added fat). To my surprise, the more I eat like a chimp in the wild, the better I feel. As Michael Pollan says, "Eat food, mostly plants, not too much."
When you begin to resemble a chipmunk I will have to take away your supply of unsalted, no added fat, NUTS. Until then, my furry friend, keep walking, keep depriving the chocolate and meat processors, and continue to eat your oatmeal every morning. I, on the other hand, will continue walking, continue eating meat (small portions), and living off a diet of what’s in Joe’s garden. And if I begin to resemble one of Mr Macgregor’s enemies at large, you can take away my greens.
I think they only cosmetic surgery I would get is once I drop these 70lbs extra pounds I am carrying around I will want to get my boobs perked up…dont like the sag of them… :)
The first reaction is no, not now, not ever. But I see friends who are back in the dating pool or the job market (like me) and the disadvantage is painfully obvious since the first impression is visual. We are such a superficial society, not only in terms of physical appearance, but intellectually as well. If money was not an issue, I would probably find a good doctor. No one really cares anymore about what you have done, just that you look good in the end.
We all know what it’s like to want that new car smell. I think that is the same with cosmetic surgery. Once the thought enters a woman’s mind, it’s not going away. We all have different agendas and march to different drummers.
When my 82 year old grandmother died, she still had a head of dark curly hair sprinkled with silver, and there was not a vein in her legs. I hope to so lucky!
I’m absolutely for comestic surgery 100% for medical reasons! … I am not opposed to comestic surgery within reason. Some folk have had so many surgeries they look like caricatures of themselves.
I’m 58 yrs of age and I’m often told I look atleast ten years younger. This does not impress me. I m quite comfortable, confident and welcome every gray hair. I have no wrinkles. My mother died at 86 yrs of age and did not have any wrinkles. It’s the genes.
I think people are more classy, attractive and sexy when they age with grace. I’m not one of these persons who allow themselves to be dictated to by patriachal sexist ageist greedy market mongerteers!
I read that cosmetic surgery rates are going up because folks feel they need an edge when looking for work in this economy. I hope to be rehired for my mind, not whether I am a size two.
Kermie, I have a 76-year-old aunt who still works full-time as a nurse, and all the doctors she knows clamor to get her in their OR. She is in high demand and no plans to retire. She is sharp as a tack and just shines, never mind her sagging skin. People consistently underestimate her age, but it’s not from her looks - it’s her energy and alertness that fools them.
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Had my eyelidsd done in my early 40’s. Glad I did. They were droopy and made me look lots old than I was.
Ironically I’ve got good collagen genes and no need for a facelift. [Am in my early 60’s.] Would I get one if I felt I needed one? Maybe.
I wish we could be satisfied with the looks our genes have given us. Unfortunately, many feel that they are judged exclusively in terms of their looks and that they have to spend time, energy and money on improving them or maintaining them.
I know some beautiful women and some women who were born with or developed, as a result of cancer therapies, looks that might make some people cringe. The latter are, however, among my dearest friends, being talented, warm-hearted, funny, kind, generous, and unselfish.
One of my friends who is not aging well has become infinitely more beautiful in my eyes as a result of some extraordinarily kind gestures that she has made towards others.
So, you can keep your raised faces, liposuctioned thighs, and surgically diminished noses. I’ll take my homely friends, warts and all!
I am, heaven knows, no great beauty but - and this is truly surprising to me - at almost 62, I feel FAR MORE beautiful than I did at 21. The difference is due entirely to self-confidence. So, maybe, women who are contemplating plastic surgery need lessons in self-confidence more than anything else (and such lessons are cheaper than surgery,entirely non-invasive and without risk of secondary infection!).
The first reaction is no, not now, not ever. But I see friends who are back in the dating pool or the job market (like me) and the disadvantage is painfully obvious since the first impression is visual. We are such a superficial society, not only in terms of physical appearance, but intellectually as well. If money was not an issue, I would probably find a good doctor. No one really cares anymore about what you have done, just that you look good in the end.
We all know what it’s like to want that new car smell. I think that is the same with cosmetic surgery. Once the thought enters a woman’s mind, it’s not going away. We all have different agendas and march to different drummers.
When my 82 year old grandmother died, she still had a head of dark curly hair sprinkled with silver, and there was not a vein in her legs. I hope to so lucky!
I’m absolutely for comestic surgery 100% for medical reasons! … I am not opposed to comestic surgery within reason. Some folk have had so many surgeries they look like caricatures of themselves.
I’m 58 yrs of age and I’m often told I look atleast ten years younger. This does not impress me. I m quite comfortable, confident and welcome every gray hair. I have no wrinkles. My mother died at 86 yrs of age and did not have any wrinkles. It’s the genes.
I think people are more classy, attractive and sexy when they age with grace. I’m not one of these persons who allow themselves to be dictated to by patriachal sexist ageist greedy market mongerteers!