If cosmetic surgery can help someone look and feel better I am all for it. No matter what people say some of our opportunities are based on looks. Outer packaging is no indication of what people are capable of but that tired look after a certain age is one of the reasons both men and women are passed over in the work place.

There are also times when cosmetic surgery is a medical necessity. Heavy drooping eyelids can intefere with vision. It should be up to the women and a competent doctor to decide what options to explore.

I have no problem with women who get cosmetic surgery, dye their hair, any of it. But I do think age discrimination is one of the most prevalent, rarely-talked-about behaviors in the United States. Age discrimination translates to job discrimination, but is much harder to prove in a court case.

James, I totally agree with you. Some smarter advertisers are targting older women now but for the most part, the majority of society glorifies youth and looking young and treat people as less-than-worthy once one hits 35.

Even posts I see on forums saden me when people say stuff like, I’m this age and quickly follow it up with, ‘but I look 10 years younger.’ I bet they just think they do.

I want to grow old gracefully but I’m not.  I look in the mirror and hate seeing things going south, or even worse going east & west, that used to be north.

One of the funniest things and at the same time, saddest things, I ever heard anyone say was in an interview that Jay Lenno was doing with Dolly Parton. They were discussing how open she is about all the plastic surgery she has had. She said something about being an entertainer and afterall, people paid to actually LOOK at her on stage. I laughed so hard when she said that.  

I haven’t had any plastic surgery because there are other more pressing things, like gas for the car to get to work, paying bills, and saving for retirement.

So even though I’m not aging gracefully in my mind and I would really like to get a few things taken care of, I look like I am gracefully on the outside because of all my ‘aging signs.’

It really is sad that we perceive age or signs of age (wrinkles, grey hair, south moving parts) as something wrong with us that needs to be fixed.

I’m hoping and trying to learn to accept the changes I see and accept that it’s natural to look older as I grow older and to just be alright with that no matter what anyone else thinks. 

hi to all friends

Yes…"kind of, sort of".  I ripped an earring out & had to have my ear repaired by a cosmetic surgeon.  That was twenty or so years ago, when insurance covered the bill.  I ripped the ear again a couple of years ago, & now, insurance won’t pay to repair it, since it’s considered "unnecessary, purely cosmetic" surgery.  Until I can save the money to have the repair made, I have to look as if I have two earlobes on one side.

As to other surgery, I’m saying no…umtil I win the lottery.