#1 Without coming clean what kind of future would there be outside of one that is built on skeletons in the closet. As far as dragging the professor’s name into the discussion, I would question why you would feel the need. Your the one perpetuating a lie, not the professor. Sounds more like your BF was asking you if you were a virgin, all you had to say was no.

#2 Having lost two parents and virtually all heirlooms split between two sisters, I can understand wanting to hold unto something for the future. The purpose the ring serves now in your intentions on keeping it really do not outweigh the future of that posession in a family lineage. Be the bigger of the two and give it back with the hope it will find it’s way in the future to a rightful keeper. If it was store bought, I would say keep it.

This is funny.. Geez Margo, what is Prudence trying to do to you. lol

Your correct! I was looking at it from an emotional viewpoint in what had been a 30 plus year marraige ( to me that is longevity), without thinking in terms of 5 years, and not too much from the perspective of an observer.

But it does make me glad I am single! lol

#1 Going against the grain here and not trying to condone the behavior of the husband, but I know of a couple that sounds very much like this letter where underneath there was a marraige of the woman holding a look at me, take care of me, I am the focus of your world mentality herself to the point where he finally hit a breakout point trying to find some type of self outside of her. What he did find was someone along the way who was more secure and not so entirely dependent on having provided all her needs through him. I think for this to change the woman needs to look at herself and the points of life that brought them both to this point and maybe give some relief to her expectations of him. I seriously doubt if this was a healthy relationship to begin with he woke up one day and decided to find another extreme life to be a part of. Would the tequila have been acceptable if she was not sick and it was her and him, or the steaking acceptable if it was her and him? They both have some issues going on here and hopefully both of them will take some accountability and find a more mature ground in thier life. I think she is more upset about losing her caregiver than being one.

#2 Some men find it really tough to be open and emotional with their children, they just were not raised seeing that part of a father being shown. Or even being open about thier own feelings toward the child, and to talk about thier inner most feelings with a child, forget it. My ex was a prime example, but they can find that part of themself when they understand that behavior is okay and create a new relationship that is healthier for both of them. I’ve seen it happen and it is pretty amazing in a good way for both of them. It might take a few more steps in life before it happens but always possible.