Could be if you made it to the third floor and found it empty of the space provided for assistance in maintaining the mansion, the dream would end which is not where you want to find yourself. Your life or "home" is full or overflowing but characteristically without mystery, the dream takes you from a party of many, to a party of one in climbing those stairs alone, something you have contemplated in life, but you are not at a point in life you are ready to view, and if that time came - your hopes are the "home" part of who you are could be recreated. Any stairs being shown in a dream are kind of like the Jacob’s ladder part from within coming forward.

#1 The man is a bully, abuser and chances are his 100 could be reduced to a handful, with a handful of doors shut from others who got wise to thier futures. His return door has been closed to a previous relationship, if he did the closing he would still not be dealing with the "what if?" in his mind.What he has been imposing on you as your inabilities, probably have been his own and his way of reconciling himself is by demeaning you and passing the fault line to you. You saved yourself for marraige, but hopefully not your common sense at the same time.  Chalk up your year to experience before this changes to decades. You can’t take on a partner expecting to change those parts you do not care for, you married the package.

#2 Let her rant to herself, and talk around her as if the chair was empty, she might get the hint or she will find somewhere else to spend her time and find another pulpit.

"I’ve been reduced from working for peanuts, to working for the shell and some imagination!" NUTS!

We are a society in many ways no longer is using the learning process, rather accessing needed information as needed. Side stepping the learning process which was based on learning and creating a knowledge base. Attention spans given to providing answers rather than researching, via the net and other tools relying on research already present. Add that to remote controls on tv, etc. which allow the mind to flip switches rapidly in what we choose to watch or do, rather than conscious thought.

I took my five year old grandson a couple weeks ago to what the school called Flip night. A night of explaining to parents the importance of reading comprehension, rather than just knowing the words. Stopping to ask questions and understand before just reading a book. A total 360 from the days my kids were that age and multiple forms of retaining words, reading and picking up comprehension in the process. Although good lessons and reminders for any age to focus on the knowledge rather than just accessing content.

Any rebuttul would have been met with an offer to take leave, they were angry, many of the positions had been outsourced to India and the company was on the verge of being sold and mergered again, that I understood after having surviving five mergers where I had worked before. I finally spoke up in defense of one of thier employees who visibly had some disabilities and harrassed constantly. Not only about herself, but her boyfriend and child. The manager immediately contacted my contracting company and it all sild downhill real quick. It was actually a very scarey place to go into each day, something I had not experienced before. I can hold my own on a verbal or office level, but it went beyond the verbal. The company since has been sold twice and I took leave from the corporate world. I worked for a very long time as a Unix specialist, and decided I was done thinking like a machine anymore. Less money now, but a whole lot happier.